Breast-Feeding Doll

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Yes, breastfeeding is natural. Yes, it's natural for children to pretend and mimic what they see. But I don't see the point in going out and buying this. There are things that, while natural, I just don't think children need to be encouraged to do.



Ditto this.

Why shouldn't we encourage our children to do this. It will help our society realize that breastfeeding is normal and natural by utilizing our next generation to 'normalize' breastfeeding.

Also, why is it ok for people and bottle fed babies to eat in public and not for my breastfed child? Why should I deny nutrition to my child and ignore their hunger cues just for your comfort level.

I don't enjoy seeing women's butt cracks hanging out of their jeans but I don't throw a fit or judge. I just look away. Try it sometime, it works well.
 
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Why shouldn't we encourage our children to do this. It will help our society realize that breastfeeding is normal and natural by utilizing our next generation to 'normalize' breastfeeding.

Also, why is it ok for people and bottle fed babies to eat in public and not for my breastfed child? Why should I deny nutrition to my child and ignore their hunger cues just for your comfort level.

I don't enjoy seeing women's butt cracks hanging out of their jeans but I don't throw a fit or judge. I just look away. Try it sometime, it works well.
I don't enjoy seeing women's butt cracks hanging out of their jeans, either. Do I throw a fit? No. I don't throw a fit when I see someone breast feeding their child, either. However, I do think some things should be done in private, natural or not. Just like I don't see that it's necessary for couples to be all over each other in public. Once again, some things should just be done in private. Does this mean I think the child should starve? No. Bring along a bottle in situations like that. However, even if it makes me uncomfortable, I don't throw a fit or look down on those that feel otherwise, and I resent the assumption that I do and the snarky attitude there at the end.
 

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I don't enjoy seeing women's butt cracks hanging out of their jeans, either. Do I throw a fit? No. I don't throw a fit when I see someone breast feeding their child, either. However, I do think some things should be done in private, natural or not. Just like I don't see that it's necessary for couples to be all over each other in public. Once again, some things should just be done in private. Does this mean I think the child should starve? No. Bring along a bottle in situations like that. However, even if it makes me uncomfortable, I don't throw a fit or look down on those that feel otherwise, and I resent the assumption that I do and the snarky attitude there at the end.

Equating breastfeeding to couples being all over each other appalls me, actually.

I will not bring a bottle when I go out in case my baby needs to eat. You realize that every time you feed a bottle, you are telling your body that your baby doesn't need food right now and it can mess with your supply of milk, right? It is supply and demand. Your body makes what your baby demands and I don't like to mess with that. I also wouldn't like to deal with not feeding for many hours and being engorged and leaking just not to offend others. There is nothing wrong with feeding a baby.

Also, some women don't respond well to a pump and you can't assume that all women can just easily pump out bottles of milk to bring along. I don't pump too well so the milk I do pump is used for when really necessary--not just because I want to give the baby a bottle at the mall.
 
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I see nothing wrong with this doll. I also see no problem encouraging a child to play with this doll. Why shouldn't we promote a natural, very healthy thing?

If there can be dolls that come with diapers to change, and clothes to put on them, or those taht make noises like burping, etc.... all those are natural parts of child care that children learn to mimic. Likewise, breastfeeding is just as natural and if a child sees the parent feeding the infant, they will mimic it. It is no different than if the child were to mimic bottle feeding.

It is sad that so many have made breastfeeding out to be inappropriate or sexual. :( It isn't at all.
 
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Equating breastfeeding to couples being all over each other appalls me, actually.

I will not bring a bottle when I go out in case my baby needs to eat. You realize that every time you feed a bottle, you are telling your body that your baby doesn't need food right now and it can mess with your supply of milk, right? It is supply and demand. Your body makes what your baby demands and I don't like to mess with that. I also wouldn't like to deal with not feeding for many hours and being engorged and leaking just not to offend others. There is nothing wrong with feeding a baby.
Bringing a bottle isn't the only way. Go somewhere private. Bring along something to cover yourself up with. And the comparison is not appalling. Just like breastfeeding is natural, so is sex. Since people don't typically go around having sex right in the middle of a restaurant, I took it down a notch to couples "being all over each other." Still an uncomfortable situation for those present.
 

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I don't see where this doll helps with teaching that breastfeeding is natural. It seems to me that it might give small children the idea that mommies attach something to them to feed their babies.

I think it is quite natural that kids see mothers breastfeed babies, and, if they wish to imitate that behavior they do. I don't think it's natural to learn that you can attach something to your body to breastfeed.

Little girls (and boys) have imitated adults feeding babies, both bottle and breast) probably forever. It seems to me that they've finally found a way to make it unnatural.
 

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Bringing a bottle isn't the only way. Go somewhere private. Bring along something to cover yourself up with. And the comparison is not appalling. Just like breastfeeding is natural, so is sex. Since people don't typically go around having sex right in the middle of a restaurant, I took it down a notch to couples "being all over each other." Still an uncomfortable situation for those present.
It's more realistic to compare breastfeeding to bottle feeding than to compare it to sex just because sex is also "natural".
I actually do use a cover because I do try not to offend people, but my baby is old enough that he will lift the cover up sometimes and babies don't really like having their heads covered up while eating, especially somewhere hot. There is often nowhere private to go. The ONLY private place at the mall is the bathroom and I am not feeding my baby in a nasty public restroom. If I know he will have to eat between stops, I will feed him in the car, but it is not always feasible--nor do I feel I should have to worry about it just because other people have an issue. The other day an old woman gave me the evil eye while I nursed him WITH A COVER. That is just ridiculous
 

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First off MyHorse, the rest of the comment was not directed toward you, it was a general statement. Only the part about not encouraging it in our children was directed toward you.

I am not worried about other people's comfort level in public, only about mine and my child's. I am not going to frantically search for a 'private' place to nurse while my child is screaming from hunger. I am going to feed them where we are, that is my right and it is protected by law.

You should not equate having sex in public to feeding a child with your breast. If you do then you are one confused individual in my book and obviously have an unhealthy view toward not only breastfeeding but sex as well.

Edit to add: MJB I agree that strapping something on is not a natural way to encourage our children to breastfeed. However, it is nice to see someone thinking along the lines that breastfeeding is right and not taboo and wrong. I think they should just sell more babies without bottles. When I buy dolls I never purchase one with a bottle and if one is gifted with it then the bottle is tossed out.
 
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I agree that it was probably not the best comparison. However, I stand by my opinion that some things should be done in private. Once again, though, those are only my opinions. Whether it makes me uncomfortable or not, I don't throw a fit or look down on those who feel otherwise. I was simply stating why I feel the way I do and why I think it's not absolutely necessary.
 

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I had troubles, and was not able to breast feed past about 4 months for Jenn and was so scared I never tried with Jonah, I developed mastitis and ended up in the hospital, let me tell you that was NOT fun.. I do regret giving up, but had so little support I was terrified to try again... anyhow... I have no problem with the doll, though I don't think I'd have bought it, many of my friends toddlers just use any ole baby doll to "breast feed"......

As for breastfeeding in public, I have NO problem with it, nor does my family, my kids have been brought up in such a way that they did not even bat an eye when they saw a Mom feeding her baby....

I think it is horrible, sad and rude that someone would give you an evil eye for feeding, and I feel your pain... I was a young Mom, I was given horrid looks for even having my babies out in public, I was too chicken to try and feed in public.... You can bet the bank if I was to have a child now I would!!!
 

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I nursed all three ,and made sure that they wouldn't be hungry IF I took them shopping . I only pumped once to leave a bottle in case the sitter needed it . He didn't and I came home early soaked ! As to sex in public , I'm like the commercial " Get a life ! " Saw a disgusting pair getting it off in Paris ....wasn't pleasing no matter how natural it is !
 

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When I mursed my first two, now twenty four and twenty one, I used to go into a bathroom stall if I had to. Doing it only at home was not an option, since I was back in school when Rachel was three weeks old, with no childcare, so she came with me.

I now wish i had just said, "The hell with it" and not been so accomodating. Bathrooms are really a pretty disgusting place to feed an infant. The other kids, I got less and less disreet about it (or lazier, maybe), So that Eli, now six, was nursed when she got hungry wherever we happened to be. A much better arrangement all around.

i guess for me the big change was when we went to Europe when Ricky was three months old. I observed women feeding their children everywhere, including on buses, and no one blinked an eyem, so I started doing the same, and since Ricky liked to eat every two hours, it made life, and the trip, so much better. I actually got to enjoy Europe, and not just tour its public restrooms.

I actually do not remember any of my kids breastfeeding their dolls, though, but that may be because Rachel and Eli rarely play with dolls, and Molly, who did and does, was never breastfed.
 

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When I mursed my first two, now twenty four and twenty one, I used to go into a bathroom stall if I had to. Doing it only at home was not an option, since I was back in school when Rachel was three weeks old, with no childcare, so she came with me.

I now wish i had just said, "The hell with it" and not been so accomodating. Bathrooms are really a pretty disgusting place to feed an infant. The other kids, I got less and less disreet about it (or lazier, maybe), So that Eli, now six, was nursed when she got hungry wherever we happened to be. A much better arrangement all around.

i guess for me the big change was when we went to Europe when Ricky was three months old. I observed women feeding their children everywhere, including on buses, and no one blinked an eyem, so I started doing the same, and since Ricky liked to eat every two hours, it made life, and the trip, so much better. I actually got to enjoy Europe, and not just tour its public restrooms.

I actually do not remember any of my kids breastfeeding their dolls, though, but that may be because Rachel and Eli rarely play with dolls, and Molly, who did and does, was never breastfed.
Mine never play breastfed either, but I have a few friends who had toddlers and babies at the same time, the toddlers or younger children often mimicked Mom breastfeeding the baby, I think it depends on having a child at the right age to observe and mimic.

I think in areas such as this Europe is way ahead of us (Canada and the US)
 

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I never remember breastfeeding my dolls? lol
I don't see the problem with breastfeeding your child in public. I've been brought up not care or judge anyone who breastfeeds their child in public. People here are much more open to breastfeeding in public than in the states - most people just don't care. Not even the older generation have a problem with it! To be honest, its not like most people have never seen a breast? And um, its not like you can actually see a lot. because 1) people shouldn't stare and 2) there is a baby infront of it? Sure, I wouldn't just flaunt it right in public, I would cover myself a bit - but I wouldn't hide or switch to bottel feeding just for the sake of not embarrissing someone.
 

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I don't have any issues with the doll, though I think the halter top thing with the flowers is kind of ridiculous. I think if kids want to breastfeed a doll, they can do it with any doll.

But I like dolls that are just "dolls". Like the cabbage patch dolls I had, they didn't do anything special.

And while I think breastfeeding is great, there are people who really have problems when trying to breastfeed and are not able to, and for some people it just doesn't fit their lifestyle. And I do not agree with judging them and trying to make them feel like terrible people because it doesn't work for them. Just like you don't want people to look at you bad for breastfeeding, people who bottle feed don't want to be looked at bad either.

Just because something is "natural" doesn't mean everything works perfectly. So I do think it is important not to make it so important to your daughters that they HAVE to breastfeed. They should be able to make their own decision and never feel like they HAVE to breastfeed.
 

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I never took the dolls out of the box in the first place. THey were there under the tree until mom gave up. The dolls and the boxes are over at her house in her collection. Yet I breast fed both of my children. I thought dolls were creepy i would rather play with dogs.
 

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I am a breastfeeding advocate, but I will be honest and say that if i was in a restaurant and some woman pulled out a breast at the table to feed her baby... I would not feel comfortable. I completely agree it is a natural thing. But there are ways around this sort of situation. Such as trying to plan your activities around feeding times if at all possible. I realize sometimes you can't know when your baby will be suddenly hungry, and of course you will need to feed them. I don't see anything wrong with that, but there has to be some degree of discreet involved.

I have seen one too many times a woman just literally pulling a whole boob right out in front of everyone to feed her baby, and natural or not... I found that uncomfortable. Sure you can look the other way, but when your own child just stares and wants to know why a lady has her boobie out when i've been teaching my own child how it's innappropriate to pull her dress up to her neck when out in public..lol


I'm not against women breastfeeding their babies... I just wish more people would keep in mind that not everyone has breastfed their children and not everyone is okay with any degree of nakedness in public. If you have to feed your baby... that's expected, just be discreet and cover up if you can.

As far as the doll... I find it silly. I'm not for or against it.. just find it funny that someone sat there and thought up such a thing when kids have been pretending with their own regular dolls for years and years..lol Seems like a waste of money and could potentially cause a little confusion in some youngsters..lol I cracked up when I saw the whole harness and flower nipple. Reminded me of that movie.. meet the fockers..lol
 

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Oh this makes me laugh--my oldest son (now 22) pretended to breast feed his stuffed animal when he saw me feeding his younger brother. I have a picture of it too--it was really quite cute at the time!

I did bf all three of mine--in public I just tossed a receiving blanket over us. Not sure if made others uncomfortable or not--but I even fed my kids in front of my dad (discreetly of course) unlike a cousin in law of mine who literally just flopped her breast out at the dinner table for all to see. That is just in bad taste, IMO--no reason to call attention to it any more than if you were using a bottle.

As for the doll--I think letting kids make their own play is far better than marketing this thing that could be exploited for the wrong reasons.
 

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I never played with dolls and neither did my girls . Stuffed animals were our things .
 

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