Are your feelings easily hurt?

[PitBullLove]

So, are your feelings easily hurt? Are you easy to make angry?

I think mine are sometimes, depending on who it is. Anyone I am not VERY close to usually cannot hurt my feelings. I expect people to judge, it's the way many people are. But when someone who knows me well or someone who is close to me insults me I do get my feelings easily hurt, I have been that way since I was little. I don't like it because when someone who is close to you & who knows you says bad things about you, they could be true, since they know you best. That's the only thing that bothers me. I just want the people close to me to 'approve' of me I guess. But those who are not close to me or who mean nothing to be usually can't have an effect on me unless it's something that really hits home. And as far as being made angry, I used to be VERY easy to set off. I'm the kind of person that doesn't have an in between when it comes to being mad. I either choose to just let it go and not let it get to me or I get extremely angry, like FUMING angry. There is usually no 'irritated' for me. So now I choose to let things go that would usually make me mad instead of letting them make me angry and making myself look like an idiot.

 

[sparks19]

Not really. There are certain subjects that hurt me more than others but for the most part i wouldnt say im easily hurt or easily angered

 

[Southpaw]

I don't get angry easily, but it is super easy to hurt my feelings. I take everything very personally, constructive criticism feels like an insult to me--I'm losing my mind at my internship, obviously I'm there to learn and I have lots of learning to do, and for some reason it just makes me feel bad when I'm told me technique isn't quite right.

Depends on the person too though. I'm more likely to get my feelings hurt by people I don't know very well, or people who I'm intimidated by. If I have a close relationship with someone it's easier for me to shrug things off.

 

[mrose_s]

Yes, very easily and it takes me a lot to get angry.

 

[MandyPug]

Depends on the situation. I'm typically a bite first, ask questions later type.

But i do get my feelings hurt pretty easily on some things. For instance right now i'm trying to start a chat session on the Pug forums and when anyone else does it people flock to the chat. However when i want to start it, even though there's a ton of regular chatters online, no one wants to come hang out in the chat with me. That hurts a bit. It seems very clear i'm not wanted over there, the only reason i sometimes post on there is to give good advice on food and training.

 

[eddieq]

Nope. I've got skin like an armadillo. Probably all the time I spend on internet forums

 

[Babyblue5290]

Certain times of the month are worse than others lol

Not usually though, it really just depends on the day and how I'm feeling.

 

[Renee750il]

It depends. If it's family, I've finally (mostly) gotten over it. It's a tough pill to swallow to accept the realization that they only care out of obligation, they never have and never will love me other than the "have to because I'm their daughter," but after so many years I've reached the point where I can consider the source and blow it off most of the time. If I let my guard down I still manage to get hurt sometimes.

Now, if either of my parents says something genuinely nice it usually makes me cry because it catches me totally off balance.

I'm not sure if they are covered under the

I don't like it because when someone who is close to you & who knows you says bad things about you, they could be true, since they know you best. That's the only thing that bothers me. I just want the people close to me to 'approve' of me I guess.

caveat, because they don't really know me, or want to, they're just pissed that I'm not what they wanted.

Other than that, it would hurt me more as a betrayal if anyone I were truly close to would talk smack about me, or, well, act like my family.

Other than that I'm pretty numb.

 

[~Tucker&Me~]

So, are your feelings easily hurt? Are you easy to make angry?

I think mine are sometimes, depending on who it is. Anyone I am not VERY close to usually cannot hurt my feelings. I expect people to judge, it's the way many people are. But when someone who knows me well or someone who is close to me insults me I do get my feelings easily hurt, I have been that way since I was little. I don't like it because when someone who is close to you & who knows you says bad things about you, they could be true, since they know you best. That's the only thing that bothers me. I just want the people close to me to 'approve' of me I guess. But those who are not close to me or who mean nothing to be usually can't have an effect on me unless it's something that really hits home. And as far as being made angry, I used to be VERY easy to set off. I'm the kind of person that doesn't have an in between when it comes to being mad. I either choose to just let it go and not let it get to me or I get extremely angry, like FUMING angry. There is usually no 'irritated' for me. So now I choose to let things go that would usually make me mad instead of letting them make me angry and making myself look like an idiot.

I feel the same way and totally understand

 

[Dani]

I hurt my own feelings. All too often I do stupid things. I never intend to be bothersome, I hate being a roadblock, and I take it seriously whenever I am.

On the bright side, I'm not an angry person. Plus one!

 

[Paige]

No. I am cool as a cucumber all the time and handle myself very well. To the point it is often a pain when it comes to opening up about my emotions with people because I am so used to staying in an even state of being that when I am asked to show emotion it is difficult.

I will talk about what I am feeling without ever showing it... ya know.

 

[Dizzy]

Not unless I like you a LOT.

I have pretty thick skin otherwise.

 

[KayleeBby]

My family and my hubby are the only ones I will actually yell at..

His family are complete jerks, but the one time I told his mother she was wrong and then didn't back down when she presented me with a whole heap of fake evidence, it nearly destroyed our marriage. So now I just keep my mother shut and give her evil looks when she is being stupid

Unless I am having a REALLY bad day I am usually pretty calm. Sometimes even nice..

 

[oakash]

Yup. I get much harder when playing sports, otherwise I would get really upset when my coaches yell or just tell me what I could do better. Off the field/court, I'm really soft. I'm mostly hard on myself, because everyone is always really nice to me, but I can be REALLY hard on myself

 

[Shai]

No not really. I think over the years I've just figured out how to let things roll off pretty easily. Comes in handy, being a young female in my profession. With people I don't know well, things that could hurt my feelings are just ignored. With people who are close, I am more likely to listen and discuss but I'm honestly not hurt by it.

I had an awful temper as a kid which I think was beneficial in a way as it required me to learn self control on that front very early.

 

[RD]

Usually I can brush things off really easily. If it involves someone/something I care very deeply about, or if it's a certain time of the month, I am a total weenie and even the slightest offense makes me sad.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

No. I am cool as a cucumber all the time and handle myself very well. To the point it is often a pain when it comes to opening up about my emotions with people because I am so used to staying in an even state of being that when I am asked to show emotion it is difficult.

I will talk about what I am feeling without ever showing it... ya know.

ah--I so understand this!