So there's a guy at work. We're pretty good friends now. I've been there for him through some bad times. Over a year ago, I left him a note in his backpack asking him out, and he didn't say anything about it for several days, but ended up telling me that he was "done with relationships" (he had a girlfriend for two years who left the country and dumped him fairly soon after I started this job, and he took it pretty hard) and our friendship was really important to him and he didn't want it to change. He has also mentioned before that he doesn't want to date anyone he works with. I told him I understood and that was that.
We blab at at each other nonstop at work, or mostly, he blabs at me. About his video games, his friends, his weird roommates, etc. We have quite a lot in common, we are like two sides of the same coin, he and I. He's really the sweetest, kindest, most good-hearted person I've ever met. I don't think I'm crazy in saying he probably has some feelings for me that aren't just friends. We play and tease each other all the time, and at night when everyone's gone we leave together and he locks the building and we stand and talk for a few minutes outside the building (he's been known to stand there talking at me for a good 35 to 45 minutes, lol ). We never hang outside of work though, not sure why that is, although I have invited him to hang out with my group of friends before. Once he mentioned a possible snowboarding trip and wondered if I'd like to go and I said yes but nothing else has been said about it.
I'm just, not sure what I should do with these feelings that I have. I have been trying to find another job (for several reasons) but I haven't been successful. I mean, should I somehow convey that "I understand that you don't want to date anyone you work with but should I leave this job anytime soon I am interested in you." Or should I not? I can't just make these feelings stop, they just are.
I'd really like to experience a relationship someday. I'm 32 years old (but am routinely mistaken for being 20-25) and I don't even know what it's like to kiss somebody because I've always just had bad luck in this department, I guess. My friends are all pairing off and getting married and sometimes I just feel profoundly lonely.
We blab at at each other nonstop at work, or mostly, he blabs at me. About his video games, his friends, his weird roommates, etc. We have quite a lot in common, we are like two sides of the same coin, he and I. He's really the sweetest, kindest, most good-hearted person I've ever met. I don't think I'm crazy in saying he probably has some feelings for me that aren't just friends. We play and tease each other all the time, and at night when everyone's gone we leave together and he locks the building and we stand and talk for a few minutes outside the building (he's been known to stand there talking at me for a good 35 to 45 minutes, lol ). We never hang outside of work though, not sure why that is, although I have invited him to hang out with my group of friends before. Once he mentioned a possible snowboarding trip and wondered if I'd like to go and I said yes but nothing else has been said about it.
I'm just, not sure what I should do with these feelings that I have. I have been trying to find another job (for several reasons) but I haven't been successful. I mean, should I somehow convey that "I understand that you don't want to date anyone you work with but should I leave this job anytime soon I am interested in you." Or should I not? I can't just make these feelings stop, they just are.
I'd really like to experience a relationship someday. I'm 32 years old (but am routinely mistaken for being 20-25) and I don't even know what it's like to kiss somebody because I've always just had bad luck in this department, I guess. My friends are all pairing off and getting married and sometimes I just feel profoundly lonely.