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You posted a pic of yourself in one of my threads.

You spew idiocy and offensiveness like a great geyser of sewer water in most threads you visit. I just like to point out your word vomit to you whenever possible in the hopes of improving your character. Instead of being so put out, you could just thank me for how helpful I am. I guess it all depends on whether you're a glass-empty or glass-full sort of person! :D
Well, judging how you talk about your dogs, i believe I can get a pretty good feel of what kind person you are. And I believe the pic I posted wasn't even related to looks. But go right ahead and be jealous of my hotness if you like.
 

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Also, I'm 1/4 Hispanic (grandmother was 100% Hispanic) and I would NEVER claim to understand what racism feels like. My genetics don't mean crap. What matters is how I look, how people perceive me, and I look white. End of story. Just because my grandmother was brown and experienced racism doesn't mean those experiences somehow passed down through her DNA. It's pretty gross to claim you have any idea what discrimination by race feels like just because an ancestor wasn't white.
In a sea of idiocy... a light shines through.

The ROOT of everyones problem with the poster who is a thorn in the side of this forum is the INABILITY to have empathy for others. We've ALL made mistakes (including me) of speaking about issues that are not IN OUR LANE. but she does it again and again and again...
Pregnant people are gross and fat and ew kids are stupid
I'm 1/14th cherokee so I totally know what racism is like

and no I don't even just mean the "I was the only white kid in my class and everyone made fun of me/called me cracker.." racism. I MEAN REAL INSTITUTIONALIZED GO TO PRISON AND GET HARSHER SENTENCES POLICE VIOLENCE STOP AND FRISK DONT GET THE JOB JUST BECAUSE GET PAID LESS ETC ETC ETC REAL CONSEQUENCES

You are white.
People treat you as such.
I am brown.
It's not about me talking about my sparkling lineage, it isn't about percentages, it's about face value. You would have to TELL PEOPLE you are 50 shades of white before they would assume anything else.

Now, this doesn't mean I get the monopoly on racist issues or anything. I am still DRIPPING with privilege
1) I'm brown, the kind of brown that goes accepted by most or at least accepted as hispanic. Call it tan, call it cafe con leche, call it whatever but I don't experience the same racial consequences as darker skinned people
2) My hair is soft and has loose european curls
3) I'm college educated
4) my parents were both college educated
5) I've lived in cities, in nice neighborhoods, where racial issues are not the same as they are in other areas of the south especially

but please do not talk to me like you understand every micro aggression and "go back to where you came from" and "Do you speak english?" and "Are you the first in your family to go to college?", "Your people caused 9/11" oh look another police officer shot an unarmed black kid and people are basically throwing the officer a parade of donations and support... just because of a percentage.
You can feel your culture and do whatever you want with it, it's your experience. But don't act like you know how it feels to wear that on your skin and be judged for it because you don't.

ALSO. I have NO PROBLEM with patriotism, I do with indoctrination and FORCING children to chant things they don't even understand.

I want real free speech and I want it to be a human right to have health care and food and water and good schools and I'm ok with paying more for those things and I just don't want any more of this USA USA USA AMAZING NUMBER ONE JUST BECAUSE mentality in my life anymore. We are not number one in anything except war and prison and I want more because we are capable of SO MUCH MORE

Nobody take all the YOUS in this post personally.
I am frustrated and tired and annoyed, it isn't really aimed at anyone all together. Even not DD.
I should just delete it all because it never changes anything but felt good to vent and that's what this thread is for so **** it
 
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Riley was sick/vomiting last night - don't know why, nothing's changed in his diet but he got me up a couple of times last night and wanted out first thing this morning again (usually have to drag him out of bed on Mondays, he doesn't like getting up at 4am any more than I do). Seems okay now and wanted his breakfast. Gonna be a long day at work... sigh...
 

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My grandpa is dying.

He was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer of the stomach, and it's spread to his esophagus and liver. He went into the hospital for a blood transfusion Friday due to internal bleeding, but he has a living will so this will be his last transfusion-after this hospice takes over.

He is taking the news quite well. He says he's had a good life and is not in pain. He is 92 and my grandma died 3 years ago, and I think he is ready. He is my last grandparent alive. I know that he has lived a very long life, and there are many people who never get to see their 90's, but this is weighing very heavily on me. I'm afraid he will end up being in pain. I hate to see my stepdad (he's my stepdad's father, but they have always treated me like blood) go through the loss of a parent. I feel like so much will be dying with him.

They don't think he has long. Most of the family that lives far away is flying in this week. Vibes and prayers that he goes painlessly and in peace would be greatly appreciated.
 

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My grandpa is dying.

He was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer of the stomach, and it's spread to his esophagus and liver. He went into the hospital for a blood transfusion Friday due to internal bleeding, but he has a living will so this will be his last transfusion-after this hospice takes over.

He is taking the news quite well. He says he's had a good life and is not in pain. He is 92 and my grandma died 3 years ago, and I think he is ready. He is my last grandparent alive. I know that he has lived a very long life, and there are many people who never get to see their 90's, but this is weighing very heavily on me. I'm afraid he will end up being in pain. I hate to see my stepdad (he's my stepdad's father, but they have always treated me like blood) go through the loss of a parent. I feel like so much will be dying with him.

They don't think he has long. Most of the family that lives far away is flying in this week. Vibes and prayers that he goes painlessly and in peace would be greatly appreciated.
I am so sorry, I don't know what to say.
So many vibes are being sent *hugs*
 

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I'm afraid he will end up being in pain.
My Uncle just passed away of stomach cancer last month. If it helps, it went undiagnosed and he suffered no pain. Maybe some mild discomfort from stomach issues like you would if you had heartburn. The end was fast, and it was over quick. We don't think he suffered or was in pain. A friend of my husbands family also died of stomach cancer - the same week as my Uncle. They also said it was quick at the end and the same things.

I hope this comes across as the way I meant it. I don't mean 'quick' as in he will leave you SOON, I just mean it as in I don't think he will be in very much pain. If he is going in to Hospice, they will make SURE he has no pain. I hope you can take comfort in that at least.

You and your family are in my thoughts.
 

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My grandpa is dying.

He was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer of the stomach, and it's spread to his esophagus and liver. He went into the hospital for a blood transfusion Friday due to internal bleeding, but he has a living will so this will be his last transfusion-after this hospice takes over.

He is taking the news quite well. He says he's had a good life and is not in pain. He is 92 and my grandma died 3 years ago, and I think he is ready. He is my last grandparent alive. I know that he has lived a very long life, and there are many people who never get to see their 90's, but this is weighing very heavily on me. I'm afraid he will end up being in pain. I hate to see my stepdad (he's my stepdad's father, but they have always treated me like blood) go through the loss of a parent. I feel like so much will be dying with him.

They don't think he has long. Most of the family that lives far away is flying in this week. Vibes and prayers that he goes painlessly and in peace would be greatly appreciated.
I'm sorry :( Glad he's not in pain and hopefully it stays that way.
 

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My grandpa is dying.

He was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer of the stomach, and it's spread to his esophagus and liver. He went into the hospital for a blood transfusion Friday due to internal bleeding, but he has a living will so this will be his last transfusion-after this hospice takes over.

He is taking the news quite well. He says he's had a good life and is not in pain. He is 92 and my grandma died 3 years ago, and I think he is ready. He is my last grandparent alive. I know that he has lived a very long life, and there are many people who never get to see their 90's, but this is weighing very heavily on me. I'm afraid he will end up being in pain. I hate to see my stepdad (he's my stepdad's father, but they have always treated me like blood) go through the loss of a parent. I feel like so much will be dying with him.

They don't think he has long. Most of the family that lives far away is flying in this week. Vibes and prayers that he goes painlessly and in peace would be greatly appreciated.
I'm so sorry. :(

Hospice care is great in terms of pain care. My mom had breast cancer that had spread to her lungs and brain by the end, and she was never in pain the entire time. She had a lot of fear of dying because she was too young, but not much one can do about that part. No pain. I'm sure your grandfather won't either. He seems a strong man. A good role model. :)
 

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I think once someone goes into hospice they have their pain managed and they are in great hands. It's pre hospice I have seem people struggle. I lost a great friend this year to lung cancer and from diagnosis to death was a couple months. Once hospice had her we didn't worry how we did when she was in the hospital. It's hard to explain. Thinking of your family!
 

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In a sea of idiocy... a light shines through.

The ROOT of everyones problem with the poster who is a thorn in the side of this forum is the INABILITY to have empathy for others. We've ALL made mistakes (including me) of speaking about issues that are not IN OUR LANE. but she does it again and again and again...
Pregnant people are gross and fat and ew kids are stupid
I'm 1/14th cherokee so I totally know what racism is like

and no I don't even just mean the "I was the only white kid in my class and everyone made fun of me/called me cracker.." racism. I MEAN REAL INSTITUTIONALIZED GO TO PRISON AND GET HARSHER SENTENCES POLICE VIOLENCE STOP AND FRISK DONT GET THE JOB JUST BECAUSE GET PAID LESS ETC ETC ETC REAL CONSEQUENCES

You are white.
People treat you as such.
I am brown.
It's not about me talking about my sparkling lineage, it isn't about percentages, it's about face value. You would have to TELL PEOPLE you are 50 shades of white before they would assume anything else.

Now, this doesn't mean I get the monopoly on racist issues or anything. I am still DRIPPING with privilege
1) I'm brown, the kind of brown that goes accepted by most or at least accepted as hispanic. Call it tan, call it cafe con leche, call it whatever but I don't experience the same racial consequences as darker skinned people
2) My hair is soft and has loose european curls
3) I'm college educated
4) my parents were both college educated
5) I've lived in cities, in nice neighborhoods, where racial issues are not the same as they are in other areas of the south especially

but please do not talk to me like you understand every micro aggression and "go back to where you came from" and "Do you speak english?" and "Are you the first in your family to go to college?", "Your people caused 9/11" oh look another police officer shot an unarmed black kid and people are basically throwing the officer a parade of donations and support... just because of a percentage.
You can feel your culture and do whatever you want with it, it's your experience. But don't act like you know how it feels to wear that on your skin and be judged for it because you don't.

ALSO. I have NO PROBLEM with patriotism, I do with indoctrination and FORCING children to chant things they don't even understand.

I want real free speech and I want it to be a human right to have health care and food and water and good schools and I'm ok with paying more for those things and I just don't want any more of this USA USA USA AMAZING NUMBER ONE JUST BECAUSE mentality in my life anymore. We are not number one in anything except war and prison and I want more because we are capable of SO MUCH MORE

Nobody take all the YOUS in this post personally.
I am frustrated and tired and annoyed, it isn't really aimed at anyone all together. Even not DD.
I should just delete it all because it never changes anything but felt good to vent and that's what this thread is for so **** it
Lol the a south isn't what it used to be you know, we aren't a bunch of uneducated backwoods, cross burning hicks.
 

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I think once someone goes into hospice they have their pain managed and they are in great hands. It's pre hospice I have seem people struggle. I lost a great friend this year to lung cancer and from diagnosis to death was a couple months. Once hospice had her we didn't worry how we did when she was in the hospital. It's hard to explain. Thinking of your family!
Yeah, pretty much this. My mom was much more content overall once she went from hospital to hospice. It's a mixed bag, you know? They know that hospice means the end of their life... but at the same time they are kept -much- more comfortable in hospice. To this day I am so thankful for the hospice nurses and care staff, they made a horrible time in my life a little bit better by keeping my mom very content.

Hope that helps, sillysally. <3 It's never easy.
 
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Lol the a south isn't what it used to be you know, we aren't a bunch of uneducated backwoods, cross burning hicks.
THAT'S what you came away with? Oh dear.


Sally, I'm sorry your family is going through this. Agreed with others who have said that once someone lands in hospice, the pain management is usually one of the priorities IME.
 
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Fran :hail::hail::hail:

Lol the a south isn't what it used to be you know, we aren't a bunch of uneducated backwoods, cross burning hicks.
Take a breath, let go of your defenses, and read what Fran wrote again.

I just spent like 10 minutes trying to find the words, or the right articles as I am not a good writer, to explain how dangerous ignoring institutionalized racism is....how it is so damaging to EVERYONE!. I spent my weekend with mothers who lost their sons, some within the last week. We talked about how to help fix this, how to start to heal.....and I start feeling positive and like yeah, we can do this. Then I go back home to my mostly white neighborhood and hear what people are saying on "the other side" and I start to lose hope again
 

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