Hey Chazhound:
lol, it's been a while; I guess it's cause the day to day is a lot easier recently to take care of Wanta
However, something recently has occurred, and I once again need the pro's help for just a little while . I need to know if 'forced hugging' is a 'condoned behavior'. As of now, I'm a little ambiguous with how I should treat this.
Essentially I was walking Wanta at night and a woman with two large dogs (looked like St. Bernards) came over. She was one of those super-chipper types, and kept exclaiming how 'cute' Wanta was. It was all semi-great (I say semi b/c I'm not exactly fond of over-chipper ), until she said she HAD TO hug Wanta b/c she was SO cute. Two things let me go with this 1) it seemed to me she was alright because her dogs were very well behaved and 2) She said she was a dog trainer. Also, she was kind of nice overall
This is when the problem began. Wanta is very shy/jumpy, and usually doesn't trust strangers immediately. She hates any sort of hard petting or hugging from people she hasn't met; she prefers to kind of jump around you and maybe get a quick scratch or lick in. This woman, DESPITE Wanta making clear cries (sharp whining noises), hugged Wanta tight. After she got a good hug in on Wanta (took 3-5 seconds I think), Wanta just stopped moving/whining. This was when I was confused: Was wanta a) Now OK with this and realizes she's nice Or b) scared to death and not moving b/c she thought she was about to be killed.
The lady "dog trainer" later apologized chipperly to me, and said "oh but i JUST had to hold her, She' so CUTE" . My mom seemed amused, but I wasn't. It was until I calmed down that I realized the rational thing to do: ask the pros.
So right now I'm confused. Was this an appropriate act? There seems to be two sides to this as far as I can guess
1) No, it was a bad thing to do; under no circumstances should you hug a dog against their volition. It's close to abuse, and she probably WAS afraid of dying. It was a communicator that humans are forceful, and thus, was bad overall for socialization. That woman was probably not a dog trainer, and if she was, a horrible one.
2) No need to dramatize this. What she did was actually GOOD for Wanta because it communicated to her that what she originally interpreted as a threat was really a friendly hug. The woman's soft embrace (after whining) was a communicator of peace and effective socialization. The ends justifies the means: it was actually good in further communicating that humans are harmless. Also, the fact that Wanta wasn't afraid of the woman after hugging means she wasn't harmed psychologically
Thx again :hail:
lol, it's been a while; I guess it's cause the day to day is a lot easier recently to take care of Wanta
However, something recently has occurred, and I once again need the pro's help for just a little while . I need to know if 'forced hugging' is a 'condoned behavior'. As of now, I'm a little ambiguous with how I should treat this.
Essentially I was walking Wanta at night and a woman with two large dogs (looked like St. Bernards) came over. She was one of those super-chipper types, and kept exclaiming how 'cute' Wanta was. It was all semi-great (I say semi b/c I'm not exactly fond of over-chipper ), until she said she HAD TO hug Wanta b/c she was SO cute. Two things let me go with this 1) it seemed to me she was alright because her dogs were very well behaved and 2) She said she was a dog trainer. Also, she was kind of nice overall
This is when the problem began. Wanta is very shy/jumpy, and usually doesn't trust strangers immediately. She hates any sort of hard petting or hugging from people she hasn't met; she prefers to kind of jump around you and maybe get a quick scratch or lick in. This woman, DESPITE Wanta making clear cries (sharp whining noises), hugged Wanta tight. After she got a good hug in on Wanta (took 3-5 seconds I think), Wanta just stopped moving/whining. This was when I was confused: Was wanta a) Now OK with this and realizes she's nice Or b) scared to death and not moving b/c she thought she was about to be killed.
The lady "dog trainer" later apologized chipperly to me, and said "oh but i JUST had to hold her, She' so CUTE" . My mom seemed amused, but I wasn't. It was until I calmed down that I realized the rational thing to do: ask the pros.
So right now I'm confused. Was this an appropriate act? There seems to be two sides to this as far as I can guess
1) No, it was a bad thing to do; under no circumstances should you hug a dog against their volition. It's close to abuse, and she probably WAS afraid of dying. It was a communicator that humans are forceful, and thus, was bad overall for socialization. That woman was probably not a dog trainer, and if she was, a horrible one.
2) No need to dramatize this. What she did was actually GOOD for Wanta because it communicated to her that what she originally interpreted as a threat was really a friendly hug. The woman's soft embrace (after whining) was a communicator of peace and effective socialization. The ends justifies the means: it was actually good in further communicating that humans are harmless. Also, the fact that Wanta wasn't afraid of the woman after hugging means she wasn't harmed psychologically
Thx again :hail: