Sad depressed and dont know what to do

[tjedt]

please everyone please help me i posted a thread titled newly adopted chi please help and im not getting any replies really and i need help im getting very very sad.
i dont know what to do with my 1 year old pup and i really need advice can you please help me.

if you can please read my thread and help me figure out what to do i would really like that!

thanks in advanced

this is what i said.................

hi i just adopted a year old chihuahua and she wont let me touch her i dont know what to do.

when i do she jumps in the air like a rabbit scratches me tries to bite me and screams like im killing her!

im really sad with this its been 2 weeks and i dont know what to do her previous owner died and thats why she was adopted out.

she also wont walk on a leash i dont know what to do.
she won't come when called it's like she doesn't even know her name either.

its really wierd :s

anyone have any ideas?............................

i just wanted to ad she seems alot better when other people go to her like my kids and my other friend its just me she seems really skittish with!!

someone please help me im really desperate.................................



i have tried to give her treats and food she wont come near me for ANYTHING!!!! i have to chase her down and grab her and then once i get her she is fine and she will cuddle with me but the second she can leave me she is gone.
it doesnt matter what i do it's like she hates me and it makes me sad to see that!
my other dog loves me to bits and she is the opposite they are like black and white!
i am getting depressed to see how sad she is and i dont know how much more i can take to see her like this.
i feel so bad for her i dont want her to live like this it isnt fair for her!
i just want to take her pain away so she can be happy again but i dont understand how to do that?!?
i have tried what you said with the food and treats it doesnt really work cause thats what i have been doing for 2 weeks already.

i am desperate


please please help me and her i cant stand to see her like this!!!!

 

[Doberluv]

and im not getting any replies really

Oh really???

 

[bubbatd]

We are trying to help //// but we aren't there with you !

 

[AllieMackie]

People here are doing their best. Just calm down and listen to their advice. There's no need to post twice at the same time, everyone can see the first thread you made.

 

[Fran101]

Bonding takes some time. I would try getting some treats she loves, sitting on the floor in a quiet room with her. You don't have to look at her, just put the treats around you and read a book or watch some tv. let her comes to you and she will learn that you can be trusted and your not there to hurt her. she is probably just scared, let her eat the treats that are scattered around you, and she will eventually walk up to you looking for more, say "good girl" in a kind voice, and give her more treats. its a slow process, bonding with a scared dog, but worth it

Hold back on training for now, work on bonding.

Treats like hotdogs or cheese works well

 

[tjedt]

doberluv you were the only reply i got and i was already trying that with her with no results......

bubbatd....im not sure what your saying no disrespect....

alliemackie.....i only posted again because i really really need some help with her i dont think ppl here understand this little one has me in tears im sooo sad for her

 

[AllieMackie]

alliemackie.....i only posted again because i really really need some help with her i dont think ppl here understand this little one has me in tears im sooo sad for her

We do understand. A lot of us have had equally difficult, if not more difficult experiences with rescue dogs.

And Doberluv's advice won't work in a day. She only posted that advice yesterday. Time and patience are KEY. We're talking weeks, maybe months, not days. Keep trying.

 

[Doberluv]

You need to force yourself to get over your emotional issues with frustration, sadness for the dog and this desperation to make things right. In order TO make this right, you must not take this personally. The dog doesn't "hate" you. She has some kind of problem that has developed over the course of her life, even if she is only a year old. Or there's something with her in born temperament. In order to help her at all, you MUST stop panicing. This is NOT an urgent situation. No one is going to die because of this behavior. You think she's sad. Maybe she is and maybe she isn't. Maybe it's just a learned thing to help her cope.

You say you've tried something for 2 weeks. Two weeks is a spit into the ocean when you're talking about a behavior that has likely developed over a lot more time. You have done some mistakes in how you've handled her which have probably set her back some. But don't worry or beat yourself up over it. Those things can be over come too.

It is possible that marginal improvement is all that can be expected if this is her in born temperament. If it's purely behavioral, there is a good chance she'll come around IN TIME. months....maybe lots of months.

If you think this is too much for you, rehome her. Call a Chi rescue organization, not a shelter or the "humane" society. There's nothing wrong with giving a dog to someone who is more experienced and able to give the dog the best chance at improving his state of mind.

If you want to take this project on, I highly recommend you get a good, certified behaviorist in to help. NOT a run of the mill trainer who uses force and punishment to supress this behavior, but someone who KNOWS behavior and how to work through the issues.

If you can not afford a certified behaviorist and still want to try and do something about this, then you need to calm down and make yourself believe somehow that this is NOT an emergency, that these things take time and lots of time and that there will be specific things to do and not do that may be of help. When one thing you do doesn't work, then a variation on that or something else can be tried....plan B. You can not let yourself get discouraged and defeated before you've even started. If you're too impatient and get stuck on "I already tried that for two weeks with no results," nothing will change.