my best friend told me I shouldn't have kids
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^^^ This!!!
LMc, I don't want to speak poorly of your "best friend" ... but the fact that she said that to you, then she and her husband repeated it FOUR TIMES, and they did this right after you had just done them a favor by watching their kid for them .... well, it's not surprising their kid is learning poor manners.
Everything starts with the parents .... and that kid's parents haven't learned enough manners themselves to be able to teach much of it to their kid.
I'm all for giving benefit of doubt ... especially if it was said laughingly once and then dropped. But they said it four times ... and LMc has since posted that she brought it up with her "best friend ever" since it was still bothering her ... and "best friend ever" got snarky and defensive about it.
Sounds more like it was closer to this:
I get the feeling that LMc truly IS a "best friend ever" to her friend ... but it does not seem to be very reciprocal on the other woman's part.
LMc, I don't want to speak poorly of your "best friend" ... but the fact that she said that to you, then she and her husband repeated it FOUR TIMES, and they did this right after you had just done them a favor by watching their kid for them .... well, it's not surprising their kid is learning poor manners.
Everything starts with the parents .... and that kid's parents haven't learned enough manners themselves to be able to teach much of it to their kid.
I'm all for giving benefit of doubt ... especially if it was said laughingly once and then dropped. But they said it four times ... and LMc has since posted that she brought it up with her "best friend ever" since it was still bothering her ... and "best friend ever" got snarky and defensive about it.
Sounds more like it was closer to this:
I get the feeling that LMc truly IS a "best friend ever" to her friend ... but it does not seem to be very reciprocal on the other woman's part.
sounds like they think their little darling's dirt is better than anyone else's--and how could you possibly find anything about their child gross? LOL. I'd be willing to bet that if it was someone else's kid touching the pizza, they'd comment on how gross it was.
as for having kids--you will be fine. You deal with all sorts of stuff at the hospital, I'm sure you will cope with snot and vomit. Part of parenting. You deal, you move on. But I bet you will be more conscious of cleanliness for others sake!
as for having kids--you will be fine. You deal with all sorts of stuff at the hospital, I'm sure you will cope with snot and vomit. Part of parenting. You deal, you move on. But I bet you will be more conscious of cleanliness for others sake!
Nah she's not so bad. We're all better now. People make mistakes sometimes but true friends will be able to work through stuff. She really was joking and didn't mean what she said... she said that every day she feels like she's a bad mom and feels like she could be doing more for her kid. I'm sure everyone feels that way sometimes. She got defensive because it sounded to her like I was calling her a bad mom for letting her kid touch the food, when really I was just trying to bring it to her attention that maybe she shouldn't let her kid touch people's food. Sometimes it's hard to give any kind of advice without someone taking it the wrong way, ya know? She's really a good person and my 2nd favorite person ever.
Anyway, thanks everyone for taking my side
Anyway, thanks everyone for taking my side
I would have HAD to stuff my finger in my nose then poke her pizza ! lol.
If a kid is eating out of a bag/bowl of chips at my aunts house. I will NOT eat out of the bag. Same with a bowl of popcorn I need my own bowl TYVM.
They lick their fingers all over then Stuff them back into the bowl/bag.
She tells them about it but I guess they sometimes dont realize they are doing it.
If a kid is eating out of a bag/bowl of chips at my aunts house. I will NOT eat out of the bag. Same with a bowl of popcorn I need my own bowl TYVM.
They lick their fingers all over then Stuff them back into the bowl/bag.
She tells them about it but I guess they sometimes dont realize they are doing it.
hehe Bax yeah but at the hospital I get to wear gloves. I would probably be weird if I used gloves to handle my own kid's goo.
yeah but at the hospital I get to wear gloves. I would probably be weird if I used gloves to handle my own kid's goo.
Like Zoe, I was terrified of the first tummy bug, and now that I have survived a few of them, although I still freak out a little bit everytime, I at least know how to rise to the occasion better now. My mom always said they start you out slow with the gross so by the time they are actually aware of your reactions, you have become a little more able to better deal with it. I think she was right!
I hate Snot and drool. But when I babysit , I deal with it.
Its kinda the same thing with dogs though. When keely (or casey when she was alive, rip) has Eye booger, or dog snot or drool, I wipe it off or pick it out with my fingers and it doesnt bother me. She can touch me with her nose all she want. BUT i get so repulsed when I touch another dogs eye boogers or runny nose.
I bet when/if I have a child it will be the same.
Its kinda the same thing with dogs though. When keely (or casey when she was alive, rip) has Eye booger, or dog snot or drool, I wipe it off or pick it out with my fingers and it doesnt bother me. She can touch me with her nose all she want. BUT i get so repulsed when I touch another dogs eye boogers or runny nose.
I bet when/if I have a child it will be the same.
Ew I don't like dog eye boogers either... I use a tissue to snag 'em I haven't had to deal with snot or drool with them yet, and I trained 'em to run towards the back door whenever they need to vomit, so a lot of times they get outside before I have to deal with that. I've seen kids barf though... sometimes there is no warning whatsoever. Too bad they don't do the heave thing like dogs do, then I could catch it with a bucket or something.
Thanks for the compliment, TGR
Maybe I could be like the mom on Dexter's Laboratory and wear gloves all the time. Did anyone used to watch that show? I loved that show
I haven't had to deal with snot or drool with them yet, and I trained 'em to run towards the back door whenever they need to vomit, so a lot of times they get outside before I have to deal with that. I've seen kids barf though... sometimes there is no warning whatsoever. Too bad they don't do the heave thing like dogs do, then I could catch it with a bucket or something.Thanks for the compliment, TGR
Maybe I could be like the mom on Dexter's Laboratory and wear gloves all the time. Did anyone used to watch that show? I loved that show
hehe Bax yeah but at the hospital I get to wear gloves. I would probably be weird if I used gloves to handle my own kid's goo.
yeah but at the hospital I get to wear gloves. I would probably be weird if I used gloves to handle my own kid's goo.
(To be fair, though, my pets' snot and and eye boogies and such don't gross me out too much. Except when Middie sneezes directly into my face.)I want to ditto what Snark said, and TGR's entire post though. They are worth reading 5x over.