I need help, Rehoming

[krisykris]

This is the hardest post I've ever had to write in my life.

My health has taken a turn for the worse and none of my asthma or allergy medications are really helping me anymore. The dr's don't even suggest allergy shots at this time because the condition of my lungs are not good and the shots have to build up over the years.

I have done absolutely everything I can to keep my family together and I've pumped myself full of every medication possible. There is no carpet in my house, no curtains, the babies have their own room to sleep in each night that's cleaned daily and bedding is washed also. I've done every research into allergies/asthma and what I can do. I've done everything.

It helped at first and now nothing is working anymore. It's killing me to write this and I swore that I never would ever come to a forum to vent and cry, especially over something as devastating as this.

I have seen a million rehoming posts and they never seen to turn out positive and I'm sure people will think I shouldn't have gotten dogs in the first place or that I'm lying or a bad dog owner.

I just have to get this off of my chest that I love these dogs like they are my children and my family. They have traveled with us to get married (being our only guests) and their welfare and happiness is the ONLY thing that really matters to me in this life.

I thought about letting myself get sicker and just ignoring the problem, but what good will I be to them then? When I can't even get out of bed to take them for a walk, or can't pet them without breaking out into hives?

I refuse to let their quality of life suffer over my limitations and to be selfish and hold on to them while I can't be the kind of owner I have been and the one I always promised them I would be.

I guess all I am asking for is some support and help while I go through this process. I'm already second guessing if I should move forward with it.

The thing that hurts me the most is that here I know they will always be safe, loved, cared for and no matter how much I interview someone, I'm not sure I'll ever fully trust them with my babies.

So please, any words of wisdom or any recommendations would really help me out here.

I have contacted a local rescue to possibly do a courtesy listing and to ask for their help in finding the absolute best home.

I just don't know how to be able to trust anyone with my kids, no matter how many vet references, home checks, questions I could possibly ask.

I'm just so lost right now..

 

[bubbatd]

I feel so sorry for you ...............it must hurt you terribly !

 

[Dekka]

I don't think you are bad. Allergies can worsen over time. I would contact a good rescue and explain saying you will keep them till they have found a home. Good rescues have great screening skills.

Good luck.

 

[krisykris]

Thank you guys, I just have so many what if's...

what if the new owners drop them at a shelter one day, or abandon them...what if they get left alone in the backyard, what if they never get walks, what if they aren't loved like I love them?

It's just to the point where I feel is there anyway to make sure none of that happens...

 

[bubbatd]

Would shaving the dogs help at all ???

 

[SeniorPetLover]

I'm so sorry. I am an allergy sufferer and I understand how asthma further complicates things...I think that you have to do what is best for your health. Your quality of life matters, too. I don't have to tell you that you actually have a life-threatening condition and you need to do your best to minimize irritation of your airways. This is not a case of you simply deciding that you no longer want to deal with your pets and just throwing them away. You are not being a bad Mom. You are ill. Rehoming them may be the only way to improve your health. I love my babies and I fully understand the gravity of your decision. I can tell you that from my experience in animal "rescue", there are people out there that WILL take good care of your babies. I know how hard it is to give them up...that's why I have a sanctuary versus doing adoptions, but, I also know that you CAN find just the right person and it will make all of the difference in the world. I have met several people that I would not hesitate to have care for my babies, and if I could no longer care for them myself, I would know that they were in the best possible hands. You are doing the right thing to try to network with different rescues and you will have to trust your heart. You will know when you have found the right home. You really have to stop feeling guilty for being sick. It is not your fault. I admire your spirit, however, I know for a fact that your babies do not want you to suffer. They understand that you love them, and I am sure that if you could talk to them, they would tell you that they love you and love being with you, BUT, they want you to be healthy first and foremost. They would gladly lay down their lives for you, so to them, rehoming would not be as terrible as it is for you. They will adjust, probably even better than you will. They will never stop loving you or ever forget you, but they will form new relationships and they will have joy in their lives. A lot of the joy will come from the fact that their mom will be feeling better. They are resiliant and they are in tune to us...perhaps you should let them do the interviewing. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Right ideas have a way of unfolding. I will be hoping for a harmonious resolution for you.

 

[wcladymacbeth]

Yeah, have you tried those special shampoos and stuff that are supposed to cut down on pet dander? Getting them groomed frequently?

Nevermind, it sounds like you've probably thought of and tried just about everything short of shaving them. Gosh what a tough decision. I am so sorry.

 

[krisykris]

Senior Pet Lover -- that really brought me to tears, again for the 100th time today. thank you for being so kind about it and writing that response, it really means a lot for me. i just have so much guilt about this whole situation, I keep wondering if there's another way or if I could get better enough for it to make a difference.

 

[noludoru]

Krisy.. (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))) I don't know what to say - I cannot even imagine the pain you must be going through. ((((((((((morehugs))))))))))

 

[Juicy]

Krisy you are not at fault. Hope your puppers find a good home.

 

[PoodleMommy]

krisykris... where are you located? please PM me if you dont want to write it here.