how do i get out of it

[BassetLover**]

the fire-brigades christmas ball??

the last time we went was 2 years ago and was when i was my usual skinny self but now with all the meds making me gain weight i really dont want to be the one thay are all saying "oh hasnt she gained weight" about.
ive tried everything to get out of it but h wont hear it. unless i can go in a giant poncho id rather go to the dentist

 

[Saje]

You could dress up and sashay around with an astounding amount of confidence that they won't even notice you've gone up... what? one dress size?

Or you could organize your own christmas party on the same day for the people you love - cuz that's the only day you can all get together!

or you could just not go.

 

[Buckshot]

Most folks wont talk about the weight you gained to your face. Most folks are courteous enough to joke about it behind your back.

You could come up with a great diversion as Saje suggested, but that may leave you with a different crowd finding amusement in your added poundage.

I usually appear to be all for the despised public gathering until the last moment when my lie partner calls and has to have an emergency ride to the airport or needs to see his dying parent in the hospital and no one will drive him etc. My advise.. get a good lie partner! If you have no friends and your lie partner has bailed on you because you have lied to him, keep in mind that I have reasonable rates and offer great discretion.

 

[BassetLover**]

lol yeah ill have to get thinking.

god i hate parties

 

[Saje]

K I think it would be kind of cool to go to a Fire Brigade Christmas Ball lol. There is no way we'd have one of those here.

 

[BassetLover**]

its not cool, all the wives are professionals and then theres me!
plus they were all at my wedding and saw the crap that went on there so ill be the subject of many a conversation

 

[Buckshot]

I wouldnt want to be in the same room with 10 of my best friends at the same time and not just because of their lack of hygiene. There is no way I would enjoy making small talk with strangers.

 

[scob89]

I would just fake being sick that days. lol jk

 

[BassetLover**]

the last few times has been boring, the men all dissapear to the bar and the women who have nothing in common are left sitting chatting about anything to fill the silence. last time they all thought i was mad since i had more than one dog

 

[Saje]

the last few times has been boring, the men all dissapear to the bar and the women who have nothing in common are left sitting chatting about anything to fill the silence. last time they all thought i was mad since i had more than one dog

I'd go sit in the bar with the men. They never seem bothered by that.

 

[Buckshot]

I'd go sit in the bar with the men. They never seem bothered by that.

Poor misguided Sage

 

[Saje]

Poor misguided Sage

hush you

 

[sparks19]

You shouldn't care so much about what other people think of you. However if you don't want to go just because it is boring than I suggest you tell your hubby that you feel uncomfortable and you do not want to go or come up with an excuse.

 

[bubbatd]

Go layered and enjoy !!! Saje posted for me !!! I enjoy talking to the guys more than a bunch of fake women.. !!! But then, at my age I don't give a dam# !!!

 

[filarotten]

Ok, you have 3 choices in my book.
#1-you can start getting ready, then in the middle, throw yourself on the floor and go into fake convulsions,be sure and rub something like frozen margaritas on your mouth and on the floor next to you so it has the appearance of (sorry) green vomit....that will definately get you out of it...you only have to stop husband before you get to the er and claim you are feeling much better. Prolong enough for the party to be almost over...
#2 You can go...Be sure and tell everyone you intentionally gained some weight as everyone was telling how anorexive(sp)you were, and you were sick of hearing it.
#3 Your could dye your hair green or purple. Be sure and come out of the bathroom after your husband is dressed. Cry really hard.(make sure the dye is not permanent) Put some dye on your face so it looks like bruises. You could not put your poor hubby thru the humilitation of people thinking he has been abusing you. LOL

 

[Barb04]

I think sometimes we just do things because we have to and this sounds like one of those occasions.

I'd dress up in whatever makes you feel special (don't worry about the weight). Walk into that room feeling good about yourself and so what if they talk, you won't hear it anyway. Try to have a good time and know it's just one day out of the year.

I think you talked about maybe opening a dog store in the new town where you live, you can always talk about your plans.

Go with a smile on your face and confidence in your walk. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies.

Remember, when you get back, you have your family here to talk to.

 

[avenlee]

A 'period' can be your best friend; hint hint. Just grin and bear it when it actually comes. Tony thinks I have 3 a month LMAO!

 

[Buckshot]

A 'period' can be your best friend

I'm afraid that I disagree with that totally

 

[Dixie]

OK, heres what you can do.

Instead of beating around the bush just say "Hon, I know you would really like for me to be there with you, but I just dont feel comfortable being there. Perhaps I can have a girls night out while you and the guys go hang out at the bar. I'll be here at 11 sharp." Then plan something with your girlfriends.

If he asks you why you dont feel comfortable, just tell him that you are anxious about your weight gain, and you have nothing in common with the other ladies there. If he keeps bugging you just flat out tell him your not willing to go and leave it at that. Dont make an argument out of it, the only way he can argue with you is for you to argue with him, yet you get your point across.

-Dix

 

[BassetLover**]

thanks, lots of advice for me to think about.