Help, my puppy hates me!

[gspuppy24]

I'm back here again, asking for help! My pup is 9 months now, her name is Jasmine. She is a shepherd mix, we don't know what the other half is but people say rotweiler.

Anyways, my parents have refused to disipline her, so anytime she does something they don't like, I would have to tell her no.

When I go near her she shakes. I have NEVER hit her before, or yelled at her. The vet told me to tap her nose and say NO whenever she does something wrong. I have stopped doing that for 2 months now because I have noticed a big change in her.

She is a shy dog, but she will play with everyone other than me. But she will not listen to other people very well, she listens to me simply because she is afraid of me I think.

I love her with all my heart and would never hurt her.

When I talk to her my voice is calm, I pet her, but she won't play or respond at all. She will just sit there, either go up to her bed or stay downstairs or go outside. I don't know what to do.

We did get her free at a scrap yard, we think it is possible that she was abused there.

Please listen to me, I have never laid a fingure on her, I love animals and would never abuse one.

If you could please help, that would be great! Thanks! I don't know what to do!

 

[gspuppy24]

bump! please!

 

[corsomom]

I dont think your puppy hates you, it sounds like she is very sensitive. How about working on some obedience with her? It can boost her confidence and bonding with you. Just keep everything positive and fun for her.

 

[moxiegrl]

Im sorry no one responded to you quicker...I believe that you have never hit her! You may have done something to her w/out realizing it that made her weary of you, even distrusting. It sounds like you need to start over with her, and be as positive as can be. Have you taught her any commands? How much time do you spend with her? If you can walk us through a typical day of how you two interact. Post some more info and we'll try to help. Good luck!

 

[bubbatd]

Was this bought as your dog ?? Do you resent the time she demands ? This dog from the background you describe need love and reassurance .... time and patience is the key .

 

[tinksmama]

Sometimes.... I get too busy to spend 'fun" time with my dogs, especially the sensitive puppy... I notice that on those days when our main relationship is about"no, come, stop,"etc...she starts to sort of avoid me- I hate that, b/c i know i'm such a meanie in her eyes,just no fun!
usually i stop myself,and spend just a few minutes at a time playing a very silly game with her, and that usually gets her happy to see me again, it's like she needs me to remind her that i actually like her still,and i can be fun,as well as the"mom in charge"-
Also fun,positive obedience training can be so bonding for you, like fun, sit,praise, stay,praise, treats, run along on a leash and catch a ball, praise, just fetch, praise, come, praise...you get the idea, positive attention may help. You may have to spend quite a bit of time convincing doggie you're for real...

 

[bubbatd]

As a new Mommy to Ollie , I may not have done him justice ,,, but I've only had him since July and I felt our bonding was more important than training ,, I do deal with the daily problems and he's learning " mine " and " Ollies " ....on a plus side , he will now take a segment of the morning paper and take it to the kitchen . All my Dogs were paper fetchers ,,,, Here Bubba and Chip would retrieve from paper box in ... Ollie's is only from the door . Slow , but sure Q

 

[gspuppy24]

when we got her last easter she was very shy, she wouldn't come to us or anything.

basically i get up at 6, have breakfast with her, spend all my time with her until i go (meaning in the same room talking to her lol). then i go to class, come home at lunch, feed her and play with her for a bit then take off back to afternoon classes.

i come home for the day, walk her down to the park, try to get her to run, she does sometimes. then we come back and then i do all my work and have dinner, relax and what not, she is always with me.

right now if i say "jasmine go, go" she will run up to her bed in my room or run down to her mat by the door, if i say come she sort of comes. sometimes.

it is very difficult to get her to learn things, she isn't a happy dog...i mean, we have had many other dogs and none just sit there all the time and do nothing, she doesn't move when you say her name or anything, it's so frustrating....

if we could just see some interaction...like man, if you saw what she came from and what she has now with us...

anyways i hope you guys can help

 

[Serena]

I would suggest putting your dog on the Nothing In Life Is Free (NILIF) program.

If you are not familiar with NILIF simply said whatever the dog wants in life it must first earn by obeying a simple command for you. Everything petting, feeding, going for walks, etc..everything must be earned.

Make sure that you add a release word to all commands such as "okay" this signifies that the command has been done correctly. If you don't add the release word your dog will think that you decide when the session starts but she decides when it ends.

While generally recommended for dogs with dominance issues NILIF also works great for shy dogs that lack confidence. The dog learns to trust you as her caregiver and provider and learns that you are the source of all good things in life.

As was suggested bonding activities will be helpful...watch your dog learn what she really likes, the hints may be subtle but they are there. See what they are and build upon them.

Working with your dog is beneficial in so many ways, not only does your dog learn what you want and expect of it but it is great bonding time and it builds your dogs confidence.

Remember if she did come from an abusive situation it is very likely that she has some insecurities and baggage that must first be remedied before she can come out of her shell.

What she needs most from you now is time, patience, and understanding.

Good luck with your girl.

 

[Piker]

Sorry didn't want to steal the thread but I'm sorta in the same boat. I do all the disiplining and my wife has all the playtime. You see the reflection of this in her reaction to our commands.

 

[Herschel]

I would suggest putting your dog on the Nothing In Life Is Free (NILIF) program.

If you are not familiar with NILIF simply said whatever the dog wants in life it must first earn by obeying a simple command for you. Everything petting, feeding, going for walks, etc..everything must be earned.

Make sure that you add a release word to all commands such as "okay" this signifies that the command has been done correctly. If you don't add the release word your dog will think that you decide when the session starts but she decides when it ends.

While generally recommended for dogs with dominance issues NILIF also works great for shy dogs that lack confidence. The dog learns to trust you as her caregiver and provider and learns that you are the source of all good things in life.

As was suggested bonding activities will be helpful...watch your dog learn what she really likes, the hints may be subtle but they are there. See what they are and build upon them.

Working with your dog is beneficial in so many ways, not only does your dog learn what you want and expect of it but it is great bonding time and it builds your dogs confidence.

Remember if she did come from an abusive situation it is very likely that she has some insecurities and baggage that must first be remedied before she can come out of her shell.

What she needs most from you now is time, patience, and understanding.

Good luck with your girl.

Exactly.

Our 6 month old puppy has the same situation: I give the discipline and my girlfriend gives the love. I don't mind--it's a fact of life, I guess. It happens with parents and their children, too: One of the parents is the enforcer and the other is the comforter.

It hit a peak a while ago and now it's much better. Here are my tips:

-I give him his food most of the time.

-I give him treats randomly and sometimes I just stop everything and give him tons of love (petting, praise, etc.)

-My girlfriend combs him, I clean his ears, immediately after we give him a tiny bit of ice cream.

-I do just about all of the teaching. We have a bond that is completely different than his bond with my girlfriend. He goes to her to be calm, cuddly, and loving, but with me he would rather play, learn, or go to the park to play fetch.

-When we play fetch, I always throw the ball.

Basically, you should turn all of your disciplining into a trust relationship. You want your dog look to you for comfort and guidance. Make sure you use TONS of treats, especially those with high value.

 

[cindr]

my puppy hates me

Well I will say this your puppy does not hate you. She just does not understand you. It is simple: no one else takes the time to say no. So when you do she is confused. It is like my kids (humans) I would say no and dad would say yes. So who's fooling who. They are always gona look at you or me as the evil which that said no.
So what you need to do is get everyones attention become consistent with the restructure of the house hold and get up and rock on with your puppy. Good luck and remember always postive never negative LOL Freinds for ever and things will always work out

 

[gspuppy24]

thanks for all this information everyone, I am going to try all of this.

I talked to my mom and we are going to try and book a session at petsmart

 

[Herschel]

Why Petsmart?! They're overpriced for what they offer!

A friend of mine paid $90 for a puppy class at Petsmart and he saw no results. We took a puppy class with our vet. for $85 and saw great results! Now we're planning on taking obedience from a very experienced professional--for $140. It's a little bit more, but I would rather pay for good training once than pay for bad training a few times!

 

[misticaleclipse]

Maybe more bonding things would also help? like feeding some of her meal by hand?