Dont know what to do...

[Duke'sMommy]

So I was always brought up with a dog is a lifetime commitment (give or take the odd situations) Well a good friend of mine told me she is giving up her dog. Shes only had him a few months. The situation is she wanted a dog got the oppurtunity and now she cant handle it. Shes just really busy right now with well life (I know, I know, arent we all?) Anyways shes planning a wedding right now, has her year and a half son to watch, plus work, and house things and moving (renovating the rental shes moving into to) They got the dog (just over a year old beagle named Finnigan) from a friends friend or something like that and they never payed attention to the dog when he was bad he was just put in his crate for hours and ignored never learning what is right from wrong. Her breaking point has been recently Finn has been peeing on her sons toys every now and then (he is neuterd). And the final one was last friday he escaped from his crate and trashed the apartment. Ate the couch down to the springs, destroyed her sons room, peed and pooped in her sons room, etc. She knows she doesnt have the time to spend with him and the next month they are spending all there free time renovationing the house to move in for the end of the month. The point to the house was to have a backyard for Finn to have so he could run around and play outside off a leash. Shes so heartbroken to have to give him up and doesnt know what to do. She knows right now she just doesnt think its fair to Finn to not have the time for him. Shes been calling shelters and breed specific groups to see if anyone can help her our and take him. He really is a good dog just need more time that whats avaliable. I offered her my help today and said as a housewarming gift/early wedding gift I would get Finn a more secure crate and that if she cuts me a key I will take him out to the park everyday when I take my dog (we go to the leash free for atleast 2 hours each day) and as well I will work on his obedience with him when hes with me and help them out especially this month with them being so busy. For her to try this option for a month and see if it works and then if not then we could look into finding him a great home that fits him best. I really hope she takes me up on this offer. I would take Finn in a moment but with my dog and my boyfriends dog, we just dont have the room. Sorry for it to be so long I just needed to vent somewhere. I know its hard for her and it probably wasnt the best thing for her to get Finn in the first place but you live and learn and hopefully everything works out for all involved.

 

[Babyblue5290]

That is a tough situation. And let me say major Kudos to you for offering to go to such a great length to help her dog out!

If she doesn't take that offer, well..........then it would really make me think she just doesn't want it anymore and there's nothing else you could do. Hopefully she does take your offer and see's how that works!

But after that month, if the two hours walk you offered the dog are enough, what will she do? Will she have more time for the dog after that month? Cause if not, do you really want to take the dog out for 2 hours each day, every day, for the rest of it's life?

It may be better to start looking for a new home for the dog if she won't have time for it after that month either. Which sucks for the dog to be haven to go to yet another home, but that may be best if your friends still isn't going to have the time (or responsibility) to take it out everyday. And encourage them to not get another dog for a long while, until they are in a more........stable part of their life.

 

[Renee750il]

I think BabyBlue covered it

 

[Duke'sMommy]

But after that month, if the two hours walk you offered the dog are enough, what will she do? Will she have more time for the dog after that month? Cause if not, do you really want to take the dog out for 2 hours each day, every day, for the rest of it's life?

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Honestly Yes I would continue to take her dog out. My guy goes out everyday with me, whats one more shes just down the street.

But that wont even matter now. She has decided after much consideration to my offer. That finding Finn a new home is the best thing to do for him. She was greatful for the offer but fells really bad that it isnt her or her future hubby spending the time needed for him. She has informed that they will place him in a better home but will keep him until they can find the perfect home. They dont wanna dump him off at the shelter. So while they do have him still I will take him out to let him have a run. But Im also going to bring him to the dog park and talk to some friends and see if anyone will be inteerested. My eye is on a man Ive known for 2 years who had to put his old girl down a few months ago but still comes by the park every morning to see everyone. He's also home all the time so Finn would not be left alone that often. So heres to see what can be done.

I do hope all works out for Finn. But I really wont pass judgement on her because one day, it could be me having to make the horrible decision. You just never know what tomorrow will bring.

But I have talked with her and there will definitly be no dog in there future anytime soon.

 

[Suzzie]

without being rude (I can be quite so without intending to be) it really sounds to me like she loved the idea of having a dog, but not the actuality (like a lot of people). Getting a house with a backyard sounded like a major copout to me, so she could feel less guilty about essentially ignoring the dog and just having him "around," because at least he'd get a BIT of exercise. And heck, it's even easier to just throw a dog outside than to walk it.

I'm glad she has decided to rehome him, and your offer was most generous. I hope the gentleman who recently lost a dog does decide to give Finnigan a shot. Please keep us updated as to the pooch's status, I'd love to know if you're a doggie matchmaker!

 

[bubbatd]

To me , anyone who wants to rehome a dog should . Dogs are not something to just keep around and " enjoyed " when it's convenient . They need a loving family home which they are part of .

 

[Duke'sMommy]

I completly agree with you Bubbatd. My friend wants him to have a real family that can spend all the time in the world with him and give him the time he needs to work out the few minor problems here and there.

And I dont think your sounded rude at all Suzzie. I hear what you are saying. She really did want a dog but a beagle was not on her list of breeds she wanted. But she wanted to get a dog so bad and the oppurtunity came and it was for a beagle. I warned her that wasnt the best choice for her but like most she just dove head first into the deep end. I cant say any different because as soon as I moved out on my own I wanted a dog so bad and went right out to get the cutest puppy I could find whos know got trouble as his middle name. (Australian Cattle dog/ducth shepard mix, not the best choice for a first time dog owner). Impluse is human error. She has tried her best I will give her that she did walk Finn every morning before work and spend time playing with him but sometimes its not always enough.