I am sorry for the way I handled that, and sorry for hurting your feelings. Although the reasoning for saying it may be valid I agree I handled it badly. I have been a mother since I was 15 years old. I have had to go through endless struggles to avoid being on welfare and to do the right thing. Even to the point of living in a travel trailer to get back on my feet. I do not think it is fair when people have children and then just live on welfare at all. That is my belief. So knowing the hardships that I have faced and overcame, It upset me very bad to see you talk about your upcoming trip and then to say you were to lazy to work. All I thought of at that moment was that with as hard as I've tried , my children do not get to do the things yours are. My self respect means alot to me so I'm sorry. I understand now that you said it jokingly.