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Lately with the drama with my mom, Dustin and I can't do much more than just talk about the future of when we will be able to have a relationship in peace without my mom constantly interrupting. He always says, "when you're 18.."
However, my mom has the logic that if I live under her roof, I follow her rules.
I can agree to a certain extent. If she's housing me, I should be expected to follow some rules. I do think, though, that when one graduates high school and is legally an adult, that some of those rules should be changed or lightened a bit. I do not expect the day I turn 18 to be set loose and free to do whatever I wish, however, I do expect that when I'm graduated from highschool, that my mom stops treating me as if I were some 14 year old child.
In my current situation, it has got to do with once I'm graduated from highschool, I do not plan to let my mother control my relationship with my boyfriend. When I'm 18 and graduated from highschool, hopefully having TWO jobs, paying for all my own necessities(already do), saving for my own car, I expect some freedom. If I want to go somewhere and do something, and I pay for it all, I expect to be able to do it.
But my mom thinks that if I live under her roof, no matter how much I do to contribute, pay fo rmy own stuff, and am completely responsible for myself, she has every right to control every aspect of my life.
My mom simply isn't reasonable with her mental illnesses. I know this. But I guess I still expect her to at least be somewhat smart enough to realize that I AM responsible, I have and will continue to do more to support myself and that I deserve some respect and freedom.
Where is the line drawn? If you've got an 18 year old kid, graduated from highschool, working and saving up to get their own car and be able to afford their own apartment, buying their own necessities and being completely responsible for themselves, can you honestly expect to treat them the same exact way you did when they were 15? Should you still be grounding them and forcing them to ask permission to leave the house every time they want to go out with friends?Honestly, when does it become time for a parent to just back off and let the kid had some freedom to make their own [responsible] choices?
However, my mom has the logic that if I live under her roof, I follow her rules.
I can agree to a certain extent. If she's housing me, I should be expected to follow some rules. I do think, though, that when one graduates high school and is legally an adult, that some of those rules should be changed or lightened a bit. I do not expect the day I turn 18 to be set loose and free to do whatever I wish, however, I do expect that when I'm graduated from highschool, that my mom stops treating me as if I were some 14 year old child.
In my current situation, it has got to do with once I'm graduated from highschool, I do not plan to let my mother control my relationship with my boyfriend. When I'm 18 and graduated from highschool, hopefully having TWO jobs, paying for all my own necessities(already do), saving for my own car, I expect some freedom. If I want to go somewhere and do something, and I pay for it all, I expect to be able to do it.
But my mom thinks that if I live under her roof, no matter how much I do to contribute, pay fo rmy own stuff, and am completely responsible for myself, she has every right to control every aspect of my life.
My mom simply isn't reasonable with her mental illnesses. I know this. But I guess I still expect her to at least be somewhat smart enough to realize that I AM responsible, I have and will continue to do more to support myself and that I deserve some respect and freedom.
Where is the line drawn? If you've got an 18 year old kid, graduated from highschool, working and saving up to get their own car and be able to afford their own apartment, buying their own necessities and being completely responsible for themselves, can you honestly expect to treat them the same exact way you did when they were 15? Should you still be grounding them and forcing them to ask permission to leave the house every time they want to go out with friends?Honestly, when does it become time for a parent to just back off and let the kid had some freedom to make their own [responsible] choices?