Well, one of the most helpful bits of advice I've ever gotten, in regards to Meg, was from this board. I can't remember if it was Doc, DoberLuv, or Sammy, all of whom were enormously helpful when dealing with Meg's fear issues, but someone basically said "reward confidence". I took it to heart and used that in so many situations, looking for any sign of decreased stress and increased confidence, and it did wonders for transforming her.