I go to the store for a minute. Walk out and it's POURING. Guess who's wearing a white peasant skirt today?
This may be a vent for you, but you made someone's day.
Next, I'm quoting Zoom because she's awesome. And her post deserves a second read.
"Some potential" is not exactly a ringing endorsement. He may not be a bad guy himself, but this isn't not a good situation. It sounds like she has all the control and she isn't the one dating him anymore.
I had a relationship once that was good, he was a nice guy and there was potential for it to move forward, but there was a particular person involved that I had to play nice with, even though they did everything they could in the opposite direction. Suffice to say, for a variety of accumulated reasons, we're not together anymore.
1) What if THIS was all a lie too? All trust completely ruined. 2) I am going to have to deal with this crazy woman for the next 10 years because of Child, knowing if I ever leave this man she wouldn't let me see him.
I don't do liars, cheats, OR crazy. So is it worth it? Kinda considering Nolu, Kels, Zoom, and peoples are a way better alternative.
Colorado sounds way better. And the pictures Nolu posted were lovely.
1. Trust is ruined and done for. It doesn't come back - at least not the same way.
2. He has some potential. Great. There are plenty of guys with
lots of potential that don't have crazy ex drama, or will keep you out of their crazy ex drama. Men outnumber the women here - and they are fit. And hot. And fit. Did I mention fit?
3. There are Zooms and Nolus, and we're kinda cute, too? Does that count?
4. You's already said he's "nice" and has "some potential." That's like getting a car because it "only breaks down sometimes." Save the relationship for when there's passion and love. It's silly to stay in a dead-end town in a dead-end relationship.
5. Read
this. Especially these parts:
But there was in me an awful thing, from almost the very beginning: a tiny clear voice that would not, not matter what I did, stop saying go.
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Doing what one wants to do because one wants to do it is hard for a lot of people, but I think it’s particularly hard for women. We are, after all, the gender onto which a giant Here To Serve button has been eternally pinned.
But an ethical and evolved life also entails telling the truth about oneself and living out that truth.
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I didn’t want to stay with my ex-husband, not at my core, even though whole swaths of me did. And if there’s one thing I believe more than I believe anything else, it’s that you can’t fake the core. The truth that lives there will eventually win out.
I had that little voice in my head, whispering to me for years to go. Colorado is where I wanted to be. I've had itty bitty moments where I regret it, or worry about money, or my mom, or my cat; but those moments pass. The crazy pitter-patter my heart does when I drive into Golden is still here. The mountains still take my breath away. I'm happier here than I ever was in VA.
Don't wait years like I did, don't stay in a relationship that's going nowhere, don't put it off and continue to put it off. I ended up in the same spot I was before, just out of love and done with the relationship and realizing I should have moved a year ago when I had the chance.
You've been considering it. You've been thinking about it. Start doing.