Over a year ago, when I joined chaz, I adopted a Doberman named Garnet from DAR&E, a Dobe rescue in my area. I posted about it and only made a few posts talking about what happened - none of which were in a thread of their own, and only talked to a few people about it.
We only had him for a week.. and I loved him a lot. I didn't talk about it because it HURT that I had to return him to DAR&E and that someone else was going to have him forever, and that lucky person wouldn't be me. When someone PMed me about it a couple months later asking what happened, replying to her PM took me a long time because I was crying so hard. We returned him after such a short period of time because it was clear that we were a horrible fit for him - he had way too much energy and I had far too little to keep up with him, and a few other things, but that was the main problem - we weren't going to be able to keep him physically in shape and happy. We talked with several people in DAR&E and together we determined that we weren't the right home for him, and returned him with most of his stuff as a donation. He got adopted shortly after.
As I said, I didn't make a big post on chaz about it because it hurt. The whole situation HURT, and losing him hurt, and feeling like a FAILURE as a dog owner hurt. A lot. I was MIA on chaz for a while because I didn't want to think about him or any other dog, because then I'd have to think about how I failed him.
I feel - and NO ONE, no uppity person with their ignorant opinions who wasn't there, doesn't know me and didn't bother to ask what happened can change this - that we did the right things for him. It would not be fair to keep him in a home where he was loved but wouldn't be able to really thrive. Maybe some of you are so stuck on the idea that all dogs should be kept in the homes that take them in no matter what, no matter if the people who adopted them made a bad decision and it wouldn't be good for them to stay there can't understand that. That's fine.
So you can fault me for not knowing how much dog I was really taking on. That's fair. I fault myself for that, too. But saying I did the wrong thing to return him to a rescue that gave him his forever home? Faulting me for making the right decision for him even though I wanted to be selfish and keep him? Spreading rumors about me and what you *think* I did to him that are so far from the truth they make me cry? That's low. It's really, really low. I don't even have a word for that.
I'm NO dog abuser, dog-dumper, or whatever else you might want to think about me. I did the right thing.
We only had him for a week.. and I loved him a lot. I didn't talk about it because it HURT that I had to return him to DAR&E and that someone else was going to have him forever, and that lucky person wouldn't be me. When someone PMed me about it a couple months later asking what happened, replying to her PM took me a long time because I was crying so hard. We returned him after such a short period of time because it was clear that we were a horrible fit for him - he had way too much energy and I had far too little to keep up with him, and a few other things, but that was the main problem - we weren't going to be able to keep him physically in shape and happy. We talked with several people in DAR&E and together we determined that we weren't the right home for him, and returned him with most of his stuff as a donation. He got adopted shortly after.
As I said, I didn't make a big post on chaz about it because it hurt. The whole situation HURT, and losing him hurt, and feeling like a FAILURE as a dog owner hurt. A lot. I was MIA on chaz for a while because I didn't want to think about him or any other dog, because then I'd have to think about how I failed him.
I feel - and NO ONE, no uppity person with their ignorant opinions who wasn't there, doesn't know me and didn't bother to ask what happened can change this - that we did the right things for him. It would not be fair to keep him in a home where he was loved but wouldn't be able to really thrive. Maybe some of you are so stuck on the idea that all dogs should be kept in the homes that take them in no matter what, no matter if the people who adopted them made a bad decision and it wouldn't be good for them to stay there can't understand that. That's fine.
So you can fault me for not knowing how much dog I was really taking on. That's fair. I fault myself for that, too. But saying I did the wrong thing to return him to a rescue that gave him his forever home? Faulting me for making the right decision for him even though I wanted to be selfish and keep him? Spreading rumors about me and what you *think* I did to him that are so far from the truth they make me cry? That's low. It's really, really low. I don't even have a word for that.
I'm NO dog abuser, dog-dumper, or whatever else you might want to think about me. I did the right thing.