Had to get rid of our JRT

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Yesterday we had to get rid of our Jack Russell Terrier, Tippy. We'd been having some problems with her for the last couple months and the last week has just gotten out of control. My boyfriend got her about two years ago and it was always just him and her. We started dating and Tippy liked me and my yorkie, Jace. We all had fun together. Then the four of us moved in together. Tippy was okay with it at first, but then we think that to her, Jace and I wore out our welcome. Tippy got very depressed and was submissive urinating and just started submissive pooping. She acted like I beat her. I stay at home during the day while he works and Tippy would sleep all day and then when her dad would get home she would follow him around and cower whenever i was around. I'm not sure why she would do this. I would try to play with her and she would just pee or go to her dad and ignore me. We've been to different vets and trainers and they all said that she was very jealous of me. We tried to only give her food/treats/toys from me. But even that wouldn't work. She would like me while she was getting them and then as soon as she had it she hated me again. The past week she had started nipping at us. Then yesterday I she attacked me. She bit me several times. We called the vet and he told us that she is "agressively possesive" over her dad. She's very jealous and wants me gone I guess. He said that we could start some behavior things they offer at the vet but he still doesn't think that will ever completely work. Her dad decided last night that getting rid of her is probably for the best. We want to have a family in the next couple years and we don't know if this will be an issue with kids and him as well. It's a sad time around here. We both miss her ... but it seems like there is no other choice...

has anyone else ever seen this happen?!?!
 

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that just breaks my heart. what happened to her...did you find her another home???? I would have kept her separated somehow until it was worked out. I keep thinking how much she loved your boyfriend......how sad she must be. sorry I'm not better at helping........it just really does make me sad. Also....I don't always listen to vets. They know their medicine.....and that's about it, they are not dog experts. I've said this before...it's like a doctor...he may be absolutely wonderful in his field...but that doesn't mean he knows beans about life.
 

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I can't agree more with Debi...I sure hope you found her a well researched and loving home. I really hope that she was not dropped off at the pound or shelter. I have a hard time accepting it when people give dogs up. To me, they are like children and nothing would make me give up on my dog :( I kept my great dane seperate from my pugs for 3 years before his passing because they did not get along AT ALL! I made it work, because they were my dogs and my responsibilty and I was never willing to give up on either. :(
 

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Tippy is at his sister's house and very happy. Alot happier then she was here. His sister said that Tippy will always be his dog and he can have her back whenever he wants her. We both WANT her .. we just don't know what to do and what will help. We want to be happy and we want Tippy to be happy as well.
 

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Did you ever take her to obedience classes? She was acting VERY submissive and scared of you. Dogs don't act that way without a reason, especially if she liked you at first. I am not saying that you did anything bad to her, but there is a chance that you were doing things to cause this behavior without even knowing it. When you got home and found that she had done something "naughty" did you scold her? When she was corrected did you do it exactly when she was doing what she was not suppose to, or did you do it after??? :confused: I am just curious so maybe we can help you with some answers....
 

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well i think since its at the sisters thats goog...hopefully one day things will work out and you can get her back
 

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well...I can tell you this much, Tippy is never going to get used to you at his sister's house. I hope she really does have her...and she is happy now. And again...DO NOT listen to stupid stuff your vet says again. Get the information from a reliable behavorist. My vet still pushes Science Diet...you see what I mean here??? They just don't have that kind of knowledge. Trust them for the medical aspect of care...period.
 

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We did do obdience classes she loved them and loved spending time with her dad. We want her to accept ME though. The trainer there also told us the same things that the vet did. We take them to a VERY good vet. I hardly ever do the scolding as she's not my dog, I wanted her dad to do it. The only time i scolded was when she would do something wrong when i was just around and for that i just change my voice and say "naughty" the same as i do for my yorkie. It is by no means yelling or an angry voice. And she is not corrected for submissive peeing.
 

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Hey..I'm not trying to get off on the wrong foot here. I guess my response may have sounded harsh because you came on and said you 'got RID of Tippy'....maybe you should have said you gave her to your boyfriends sister...it wouldn't have sounded so pathetic. I'll only still say this...it would have taken patience, but Tippy just sounds like she needed to adjust to the new living arrangement..the new people/dog. It's so easy to give up...I'm not blaming you for your frustrations....it just IS sad. IF...IF she was sooooo attached to your boyfriend that she had 'issues' , then surely you can see how horribly sad she will be to be tossed aside from his affection. So...I feel extremely bad for her. I guess it's silly to say this again...I'm sure your vet is a GREAT vet. They just don't know much outside of the medical. It would be the very rare one that had extensive canine knowledge...to be really able to expertly give advice on behavior. If you want to defend him to the ends of the earth..so be it.....I'm just telling you the truth. He is probably the most loving, caring, wonderful vet. Just put that in perspective. I guess it doesn't matter to ask how long you tried with Tippy...she's gone. To answer your original question......no, this has never happened to me.
 

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i can tell though you do care about tippy cuz its not only ur dog in the pic its her and tippy...by the way their both extremely cute
 

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showpug said:
I can't agree more with Debi...I sure hope you found her a well researched and loving home. I really hope that she was not dropped off at the pound or shelter. I have a hard time accepting it when people give dogs up. To me, they are like children and nothing would make me give up on my dog :( I kept my great dane seperate from my pugs for 3 years before his passing because they did not get along AT ALL! I made it work, because they were my dogs and my responsibilty and I was never willing to give up on either. :(
EliNHunterWill you give your children up too if they are born with socialization problems?
I have to agree with these guys.

Just like my human kids, My Odo Onyx could never do anything for me to give up on him...My love for him is way to strong. I will be there for him to the end,as i know he will be for me.

Wish i had some answers for you. And i know this must be hard on your boyfriend, and i am sure on you to. But i am more concerned for Tippy. I really Really hope he has a happy future. It just breaks my heart to think of him being so sad over loosing his home and dad.

I know he is with your boyfriends sister but it is just not the same for Tippy.
 

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On a last note...IF my husband had a problem with my dogs...and for some really strange reason they couldn't be worked out (course, you know I don't believe that) I'd simply tell him....'fine, then stay away from them' That would really be it....cause I'd never get 'rid' of my dog so easily. I'm more in awe of what your boyfriend did for you.
 

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How old was Tippy, and was she spayed?? I think you should talk to Creature Teacher about this. I just have a hard time believeing that there was nothing you could do...maybe so, but I would keep trying. I feel really bad for your boyfriend. Is he ok?? :(
 

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my step dad threatened to get rid of my dog all the time...he was a real trouble maker....buti knew if he ever was to kick him out of the house ide be right their with him out of the house...but can't yoou give it a little more time, once he started nipping you you gave him away the next day, it seems ur bf doesnt care that much if he lives with you guys anymore?:confused:
 

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How long had you lived there before you " got rid of" Tippy ?? Did you try just you and Tippy going to a behavioral class ?? Poor baby !
 

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i know i may sound as though im picking on u and im sorry...i just know that if you and your bf still love him i feel bad 4 you guys and him that he cant live with you anymore
 

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