Yep, and he also mentions he was on his own and out of the house at 15...so dont think it worked as well as he thinks.
Teens are reselient and kids naturally love their parents regardless of all the crap they do. Often, the "worse" the parents almost more fervent the children are later in life defending their parents actions.
I dont know anything about the relationship between these two. My assumption based on the video is that there is a severe lack of respect and communication...but I KNOW that is a total assumption and I fervently hope its wrong.
The video itself does not bother me near as much as all the people thinking its a GOOD example of how to parent. That is what hurts and devastates me. The father is acting like the immature brat he is ranting about. Is it a human failing to react...yep. I have often said and down things I later look back at and cringe...nobody is perfect and parenting is fraught with mistakes. HOwever, I do not understand how this total parenting mistake (IMO) is being hailed as some kind of parenting battle cry. That is what bothers me.
:hail::hail::hail:
Not judging the dad, we've all been there. Just saying IMO he didn't handle that one very well.
That's not good parenting either. Too bad the pendulum can't stop swinging wildly and rest somewhere in the middle with a little more common sense parenting; Consequences, reinforcement, alternatives, distractions and lots of love, little in life is free, in other words....earning the goodies, calmness and maturity.
It's the same thing a lot of people say about positive reinforcement training with dogs. "That is just being lenient." Same mistake. It doesn't have to be lenient. It shouldn't be lenient. But it should make good behavioral sense, which this didn't.
:hail::hail::hail: to you too
Reactivity is reactivity, and here I see a parent reacting to a kid's behavior, not proactively parenting the kid.
Do I totally get why he responded the way he did? Oh yeah, BTDT as far as feeling that way about a child's actions. However when we re-act to a child's behavior, who's
really in charge of what's going on?
Same as with punishment with dogs, you never quite know for sure what association the kid is going to make. I know way too many kids who would take an incident like this and instead of learning "
oh, better not humiliate mom and dad" will learn "
to gain attention humiliate the one you love".