My family was very much a 'just don't do it til you are married' family.
I wasn't pulled from sex ed classes or anything. Actually, my mom explained it to me in advance because I asked. I remember thinking how odd it all sounded. lol I was probably in Gr 4 or something. My mom would get really annoyed when she'd hear about teenage girls being put on the pill. She figured it opened the door and also didn't think it was safe to be on the pill.
I was a good kid. I've never let anyone push me into something I didn't want to do. I know when I am ready to do something whether it is learning to drive, sex, having a family or whatever. So I didn't get into trouble. The first time I got drunk I was actually legal. My friend and I drank mickey rather rapidly in my parents basement.
My mom found us and was FURIOUS. She yelled at me while I was still drunk. It was a pivotal moment for me. I knew I would never call her if I got drunk or needed a ride home. Instead, I'd ask for my dad. He was pretty good.
With Fiona and any other kids I'm going to encourage them to wait as long as possible to have sex. I'd LOVE it if they were out of high school. But I'm not a fool. lol So over everything else I will teach her to be safe, encourage her to be in love and with someone she trusts. Too many girls get pushed into something because they get into a situation where they are intimidated. They may not be 'raped' but I have had so many friends tell me that if they hadn't said yes they are sure the guy would have forced it.
So I really want Fiona to think about who she is hanging out with, if she trusts them and how to get herself out of an uncomfortable situation.
Steve and I have also agreed that we will have her in martial arts training from a young age. We believe that it will help her self-esteem, reinforce morals, give her skills to defend herself and help keep her fit. I think all of that will give her a better foundation to know herself and decide what is right for her.
Honestly, if she is 16, safe and in love with a guy that loves her I couldn't ask for much more. Ideally she'll be out of high school but not that many girls make it that far these days.