A chivalrous guy who makes you wait and wonder if he cares or if he was just yanking you along to get your number as a trophy?
Huh. Interesting definition.
Chivalrous or not, right move or not, I dunno, as I can't judge a man based on a single interaction..
But I will say this,
I will NOT/would not ever EVER involve myself with someone who plays those kind of "relationship games", that includes the mythical "guy code" of conduct.
If they are doing it early on, they are going to do it later.. and I don't like to play games that involve my feelings and my time.
If you want to wait a week to call because you are nervous, because you aren't sure, because you have issues.. FINE. Talk to me. Say that. Honesty.
if you are waiting a week because of some mythical rule about relationships you feel you have to follow to win some game about who is more eager/has the upper hand. You can go ahead and take a walk. I want a relatioship not a competition.
Examples of other games I will not play that usually follow the don't call for x days game.
Oh she took 3 minutes to text me back so I'm going to take 6 minutes to text her back.
Oh he made plans with me on thursday so I'll tell him I'm busy because I don't want our plans to be last minute or him to get too comfortable.
Oh she gave me a blowjob last week so now I owe her.
Oh I really liked her but I won't call for three days because I don't want to be honest about my feelings/seem to eager.
Oh I really like him but I have to wait 43 dates to have sex because I don't want him to think I'm easy, gotta keep the chase.
Oh I really like her so I have to pay for everything even though I'm broke.
Oh I really like him but I'm going to keep dating because I want him to know I'm alluring to other guys and he could lose me.
Playing hard to get
Crying makes him say he's sorry.
Whining instead of communication
Becoming frustrated with the fact that you and your partner have rules instead of communication (What's wrong? NooOOtthing. I'M FINE! I HATE YOU!)
Lying
Manipulation (I did it because I love you)
Ultimatums (He either proposes or I'm gone.)
and eventually disaster. (You don't understand me! We're done!)
Now, I'm not saying that people that play these games are bad people. I used to, it seems to be the "thing to do" according to every magazine in the universe.
Point is, if you don't want to play, I would suggest finding someone who doesn't want to play either and doesn't let some bro/girl code run their lives.
Honesty. Communication. Being REAL with each other. That's the ticket.
and that means calling when you want, how you want, because you had a good time and want to talk to that person.
I want a relationship that is as honest and natural as breathing.
Not one that feels like a game where I have to keep score.