my mom and her boyfriend ( advice? )

[azcowgirl]

well i woke up this morning to the sound of doors slamming. i walked out to the front room and my mom and her boyfriend were in the room hes still drunk from last night.. my boyfriend was laying on the couch saying hes was raising his voice to my mom. i stood by the door and he kept asking where his money was and she said that was money for him staying here and he kept yelling asking where his money was and she gave him all the money she had in the purse he said what the **** only 20 dollars? well fine give me the rest of the money before all 3 of us go to work.. then i never want to see you again...

he gets like that every time he drinks. he drinks every day. my boyfriend and i are staying here for a few days just cause our car is down and my mom and boyfriend work the same shift at the same place lol and i can help her out by cleaning and everything cause my sister doesnt do anything here. shes a lazy person and her boyfriend and 3 yr old are messy like nothing else...

well anywho. she told me its the last time hes going to do this too her.. but for some reason i dont think so.. but whatever.. if she wants to keep going through this should i just let her? what the helk am i suposed to do?

oh and house update.. my rent ends in just a few weeks. my mom found another house ( her rents up in a few days! ) and she asked if we could move in with her. i told her maybe.. it would be so much easier on me and my boyfriend though. but i told her the only way i would move there is if she doesnt try to take over my life again.. she just stood quiet.. and didnt say anyhting.. i think i might of hurt her feelings. :| i didnt mean too though.. but she agreed. but what she doesnt know is.. if her boyfriend comes back im not going to live there. I CANT STAND HIM he treats my mom nice when hes not drinking.. but when he does hes an @$$ to everyone... eh..

also does anyone know how to get rid of a stuffy nose cold?! im dying over here!!!

 

[azcowgirl]

anyone???

 

[bubbatd]

Wish I could help .............she should toss the loser out on his ear !!! I thing it's wrong on her part too, having a boyfriend living in a home with teenagers . Whoops ! Just re read and see that you have a live in boy friend too !!! You're so young !!!! Sigh !

 

[puppylover2007]

if it were me i would simply BUTT OUT of her life.. period she is an adult and can make her own decisions. i know you mean well, and let me just say that when people drink the alcohol is called a "mood enhancer" basically it enhances the mood that person is in, and when your mom's boyfriend drinks that is what is happening. YOU do not like it when she takes over your life, so do not do the same to her. i would be mored concerned if this was happening when he was sober. but, since it is only happening when he drinks then just leave it be. IMO, you need to focus on YOU and your boyfriend and your life.

your mom apparently knows what she is doing so let her be. i speak from experience on this one because i tried to give my mom advise on her life and she went to far on my life. it is more important to focus on your relationship WITH her than with whom she is with.

 

[FoxyWench]

stuffy nose...
theres a product calls albas oil, add a few drops to a pot of steaming water, head down and towel, inhale slowly! itll realy help the stuffyness...

 

[sparks19]

Well you can't tell her she CAN'T let him back into her life... especially when you don't want her doing the same to you.

BUT since she asked you to move back in I think I would tell her that you cannot live in a house where that man is present. Then you are not telling she can't have him around but are telling her you have made a decision for yourself to not be around him and their constant arguing.

Saline nose spray is good for clearing out the nose.

 

[nancy2394]

unfortunately, there's not much you can do with the situation with your mom and her boyfriend. Often women that are mistreated by their boyfriends/husbands tend to take them back over and over again. If he drinks everyday and he's with your mom... you might want to think twice about moving in together. It's hard enough to live with family when everything is running smooth, but you throw a wrench in like a drunk guy who mistreats your mom... that's just a bomb ready to go off.

Your mom is making these decisions.. whether they are good ones or not. All you can do is let her know you love her and will do what you can to be supportive but that you draw the line in regards to him. Hopefully one day she will realize he's a bum and kick him to the curb.

As far as your stuffy nose... try a decongestant. Maybe a little dymatap or tylenol sinus or tylenol allergy. Those all work good. You can even get yourself some vicks vapor rub to stick under your nose. I'm going through the same thing with the stuffy nose and being sick. Hope you feel better.

 

[tessa_s212]

My thoughts will be with your mom. I really hope she makes the decision to not be in such a damaging relationship.

Until then, sadly, there isn't much you can do. Fighting with her over it will only create hard feelings between the two of you. Sometimes you just have to wait these things out and hope they learn their lesson on their own - sooner than later.

(Unless, of course, he turns abusive - I pray not!)

 

[bubbatd]

Just to get this straight . Your Mom has a house ... your sister , her boy friend and their 3 year old live with her . She has a drunk as a live in boy friend and has asked you ( newly 17 ) to move in with your boy friend ??? Unbelievable ! I'm not saying that you are lying , the situation is horrible for all !!! Don't get pregnant !!!!

 

[wishbone]

Being drunk and yelling at your mom is not an excuse for him, I will never believe he's nice when not drunk and act so horrible when drunk (everyday)!

If someone really worths for her, she must be happy, feel belong and strong to accept all the pros and cons of a guy, but he doesn't feel those things, she have to decide for that kind of relationship.

 

[azcowgirl]

well she took him back.. and i agree with everyone on here. ive been talking to my dad and he told me and my boyfriend to move down there with him if he comes back.. :| ( hes renting a house out to his girlfriends son but he should be out within a few weeks ) so i think i might take the offer up.. i guess.. my boyfriends doesnt really want to go though.. but its a good thing for me so if he doesnt want to move with me ( if i do decide on moving there ) im just going to go..