It's been a weird thanksgiving holiday. I found out 2 days before thanksgiving that my stepmom died. Well...she wasn't technically my stepmom anymore, but I still considered her that way. I guess I should explain about my dad first... my dad and my mom were married till I was 8, then divorced. Dad re-married when I was 10, and was with his second wife (my stepmom) until I was 18. Then he ran away from my stepmom for someone he met on the internet, divorced her and got married for the 3rd time. Then he died of a heart attack when I was 21. He had stopped talking to his "old family" (me, my brother, my mom and his 2nd wife and her daughter) and so we didn't even know he had died until after the funeral was over.
Well, it took a while for me to come to terms with his death and there was a lot of anger over the circumstances... I feel like I've made peace with it finally. Right after he died I began talking to my stepmom less and less... I know she was dealing with a lot of emotions too but it seemed like every time we talked, she would talk about how badly my dad had hurt her, and how messed up it was that he had cheated on her....I understand and I know I would feel the same way if I was in her place, but this was my father and I just didn't feel like hearing all the problems of their marriage anymore.
It had been about 3 years since I had spoken to my stepmom or my stepsister (she has a daughter, 8 years older than me). When I found out she was sick, I was told that she was in a hospice care and probably only had a few days left. She was gone 2 days after that. I didn't get to talk to her before it happened. I really feel bad about that
She and my stepsister were a really big part of my life growing up. I called Molly (my stepsister) after I found out that her mom died...I couldn't get ahold of her so I left a message on her phone. She called me back on Saturday night and we talked for a little over an hour. She sounds like she is doing okay, all things considered. She told me all the awful details of my stepmom's death... she died of colon cancer and it sounded like it was terrible to go through. I'm glad I got to talk to her again, I feel like by talking to each other after so long, we re-connected a part of our family that had been broken for a while. So while it is a sad time for us both, I hope we can stay in touch.
My stepmom had a dog, a little female pekinese/poodle mix named Ubu... when I talked to Molly, I found out Ubu is still alive!! She is 17 years old now :yikes: Molly said that she is having some trouble adjusting to life without her mom, but that she is still healthy and has mostly been sleeping a lot. This dog was like my stepmom's baby and very bonded to her...I have a lot of memories growing up of playing with Ubu and keeping her company while my stepmom was at work, it's crazy knowing that she's still here after so long. Molly is taking care of Ubu and my stepmom's house right now, but I'm not sure what will happen when she has to go back to work again. She moves around the country a lot for her job, and I'm not sure what she'll do with Ubu.... I told her there is a great site with a lot of caring people that would at least try hard to find a person who would adopt an older dog and will understand the special needs of a dog like this, and to talk to me if she needs to find Ubu a new home... I really hope she will if she doesn't plan to keep her...I can't think of a better place than Chaz to search for someone who would care for Ubu
Anyway thanks to anyone who read all the way through this.... it's easier sometimes to write about this stuff than talk about it... thanks for listening
Well, it took a while for me to come to terms with his death and there was a lot of anger over the circumstances... I feel like I've made peace with it finally. Right after he died I began talking to my stepmom less and less... I know she was dealing with a lot of emotions too but it seemed like every time we talked, she would talk about how badly my dad had hurt her, and how messed up it was that he had cheated on her....I understand and I know I would feel the same way if I was in her place, but this was my father and I just didn't feel like hearing all the problems of their marriage anymore.
It had been about 3 years since I had spoken to my stepmom or my stepsister (she has a daughter, 8 years older than me). When I found out she was sick, I was told that she was in a hospice care and probably only had a few days left. She was gone 2 days after that. I didn't get to talk to her before it happened. I really feel bad about that
She and my stepsister were a really big part of my life growing up. I called Molly (my stepsister) after I found out that her mom died...I couldn't get ahold of her so I left a message on her phone. She called me back on Saturday night and we talked for a little over an hour. She sounds like she is doing okay, all things considered. She told me all the awful details of my stepmom's death... she died of colon cancer and it sounded like it was terrible to go through. I'm glad I got to talk to her again, I feel like by talking to each other after so long, we re-connected a part of our family that had been broken for a while. So while it is a sad time for us both, I hope we can stay in touch.
My stepmom had a dog, a little female pekinese/poodle mix named Ubu... when I talked to Molly, I found out Ubu is still alive!! She is 17 years old now :yikes: Molly said that she is having some trouble adjusting to life without her mom, but that she is still healthy and has mostly been sleeping a lot. This dog was like my stepmom's baby and very bonded to her...I have a lot of memories growing up of playing with Ubu and keeping her company while my stepmom was at work, it's crazy knowing that she's still here after so long. Molly is taking care of Ubu and my stepmom's house right now, but I'm not sure what will happen when she has to go back to work again. She moves around the country a lot for her job, and I'm not sure what she'll do with Ubu.... I told her there is a great site with a lot of caring people that would at least try hard to find a person who would adopt an older dog and will understand the special needs of a dog like this, and to talk to me if she needs to find Ubu a new home... I really hope she will if she doesn't plan to keep her...I can't think of a better place than Chaz to search for someone who would care for Ubu
Anyway thanks to anyone who read all the way through this.... it's easier sometimes to write about this stuff than talk about it... thanks for listening
