Help! New puppy in the house

[Lyn Scillitoe]

Can anyone help me - we've just brought home our new 8 week old Jack Russell pup - eagerly awaited and well prepared for - now I'm really panicky, fell like crying all the time and i don't know why. i haven't slept for a couple of nights through worrying (about what I don't actually know)
He's being a good boy and the training etc doesn't bother me (I already have 3 kids) so why do I feel like this? Is it normal and will it pass?

HELP!

 

[Bailey+Ralph]

I think that you are just a little anxious and maybe relieved that your puppy is finally with you
It is a little like having a new baby in the house and takes a few days for everyone to settle into a routine.
I am sure that you will be just fine
Let us know how your doing.
Whats the pups name?

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

His name is Rogan. I tried to get a dog before but came over all panicky and couldn't do it so maybe this is bit of the same thing?
I really hope it passes as I feel like a really good cry at the mo!

Lyn

 

[Bailey+Ralph]

Lovely name

I think that you will do good, you just need time to adjust to having a new little one depending on you

 

[SummerRiot]

Lol dont worry.. first few weeks of having a new puppy, you will loose sleep

We have a new pup here as well for temp - Belgian Tervuren named Chime.

Shes a very good little girl, almost completely house broken at 5 months, but she does still wake you up early in the morning

Just relax, breathe and settle down. What exactly are you worried about not knowing?

If you did the proper research before you purchased her and got your pup from a respectible breeder. You should have no worries at all

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

I think what I am thinking is 'Have I done the right thing'. My children are getting a little older and more independent so my life is on an even keel - i think I am worried about rocking the boat - half of me wants to rewind and not to have got him but the other half of me has wanted a dog for soooo long so I'm really confused.

 

[Bailey+Ralph]

Your puppy will be part of your family before you know it.
Then you will wonder why you ever had these fears

 

[SummerRiot]

Aggreed!

Make SURE you take your Jack to puppy classes, obedience classes and possibly try some RallyO or Agility with him!

Because you chose a fairly active dog, you need to channel their energy somehow!

He'll be fine with you soon enough No worries at all!

I'm sure your kids are extremely happy to have a puppy in the house as well!

Just dont get frustrated at all

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

He is actually settling in really well - its me that the problem! Maybe I should just never have done this......

 

[SummerRiot]

No Worries!

I dont fully understand your anxiety, I'm sorry

I'm also used to having dogs in my house - my parents used to breed/show/train dogs so our house was always filled lol

We have 4 puppies in the house right now..
2 Shelties who are a year and a month old
2 Belgian Tervurens who are 11 months and 5 months old.

Are you worried about the cost of a puppy? Are you worried that you wont be "free" anymore?
Are you worried that your kids will not like this situation?

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

I don't fully understand my anxiety either I'm afraid. I'm a capable person and have brought up 3 kids and 2 step kids so I ought to be able to handle a puppy.
I'm really not sure what my major worry is - I think it is fear of change more than anything. I have a tendency to like to have control in my life and this changes things somewhat.
My kids adore him and would hate it if we didn't have him so thats not the problem........

The costs don't worry me too much, maybe the lack of freedom is an issue, I'm not sure, I definitely worry too much........

 

[stevinski]

it might be what i had, which was a fear of messing up, like i knew he had to be trained right, and what if i did it wrong and stuff like that.

 

[Elly]

Hi

I know exactly what you are saying. I went through the very same thing and I even had that feeling before I got Zoe. It is weird and hard to explain.

My kids are grown and gone. It is just like haveing a baby again and I didnt want to rock the boat either as you say.It felt like I was going backwords. Here I finally had my freedom and then I turn around and tie myself down again.

She has been with us only four weeks now and she is training pretty well and everything. I still get that feeling now and again but not as often.. At first I never left her alone and felt guilty if I did put her in her crate and go out for an hour.

I finally realized I can leave her and go out for a while and take a break as long as she has had her walk and is then in her crate. In fact it is good for them to get used to not having you there every minute. You NEED to take a break as well just like when you have kids.

They take a while to fit in and become a part of your family. It is like having a stranger move in with you. In time everything will gel and you will be comfortable with her being there. He will be a part of your household .

I went shopping the other day for a few hours and my hubby was here with Zoe. When I got home they had gone out and I really missed her and was really happy to see her when she got home. I knew then that I couldnt get along without her.

Just give it time and all the best to you.

 

[tinksmama]

I have an 11 week old dynamo named Tinkerbell,(whom I just adore!) and i've had moments too where i watch her pooping in the yard,and feel overwhelmed,thinking" I can't do this! the kids will step in it! I don't have time to scoop till tomorrow!" Or she'll be chewing and nipping me,and won't stop,and I sit and wonder if I can do this, I'm thinking it was a big mistake...
Then i stop to realize, I'm TIRED! You've lost some sleep, you know what it's like with babies,right? Sometimes at night it's overwhelming,and you're ready to giveup, but then you get up in the a.m. with that cute little puppy face,who kisses you all over in gratitude for you taking her outside, and it's all ok! Then the kids come and have morning play session with pup, all the animals are cared for, you can pop pup into crate and settle with your a.m. coffee,and you're ready for another busy day!
It'll be fine, it's normal, just go with your instincts and don't make yourself crazy, kind of like with human babies!

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

My husband has just popped home for lunch and given me a cuddle which has now made me cry - i feel like such a stupid cow crying over something so stupid. Thank you Elly for making me feel like I'm not the only one who has ever felt this way, I really appreciate everyones advice and I hope that in a few weeks I'll have forgotten I ever felt like this. Sometime today I've thought - what if I could take him back and none of this had ever happened but the kids would never forgive me and anway isn't that the cowards way out. I know that I've got to stop being such a wuss and get on with it and now I've got mascara all down my face.....

 

[Bailey+Ralph]

Where in Essex are you?

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

I'm in Halstead which is N Essex -where are you? Just put Rogan in his crate and walked up to the shop for some milk - feel a bit better now. I've opened his crate door and he hasn't come out yet!

 

[Fran27]

I was just the same way when we got Boris. I think I probably cried non stop for the first two weeks. I remember me going out in the snow at 11pm to let him pee and just losing it. I think it has to do with the fact that you don't quite realize what it's like to have a puppy until you have to go out every 30 minutes, worry about accidents all the time and start to schedule your life around the pup. I considered giving him back quite a few times, feeling I had done a huge mistake.

It gets better though. Now I'm so glad I didn't give up at the time. Frankly though, if we ever get another puppy, it will be because of my husband, I don't think I ever want one again (although Tips was easier).

 

[Bailey+Ralph]

I am in walton-on-the-naze, Near Clacton

 

[Lyn Scillitoe]

I'm starting to feel better now that I'm reading other peoples worries - thank you Fran27 for telling me that you cried too - that makes me feel like not quite so much of a nut job!!!