So... I haven't really said much on here about the relationship with my dad other than it is bad. It was years of emotional abuse, put downs, and ended with physical abuse. That's where I moved out and cut off all forms of communication. I haven't spoken to, or seen my dad in two years give or take.
Now, my mother and my sister and I are still all good. My sister got really sick a few weeks ago and ended up in the hospital. Apparently, my mom and my dad (who are divorced) were talking, and my dad said that he wanted to pay for college, no strings attached. My dad has always used money as a form of control, so I automatically seized up when she was telling me about it, but now that I've had some time to think, I'm having a raging internal debate. Mom says I should take it, Josh says I should think about it.
I think that he is either feeling guilty, or is trying to manipulate me. I feel like if I take this opportunity, I'm going to feel obligated to get back in touch with him. However, I also REALLY want to go back to school.. and this would give me a super opportunity to crank it out faster than what Josh and I would be able to afford.
So, based on this, what would you do?
Now, my mother and my sister and I are still all good. My sister got really sick a few weeks ago and ended up in the hospital. Apparently, my mom and my dad (who are divorced) were talking, and my dad said that he wanted to pay for college, no strings attached. My dad has always used money as a form of control, so I automatically seized up when she was telling me about it, but now that I've had some time to think, I'm having a raging internal debate. Mom says I should take it, Josh says I should think about it.
I think that he is either feeling guilty, or is trying to manipulate me. I feel like if I take this opportunity, I'm going to feel obligated to get back in touch with him. However, I also REALLY want to go back to school.. and this would give me a super opportunity to crank it out faster than what Josh and I would be able to afford.
So, based on this, what would you do?