The Venting Thread
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So done with everything. So done with family. Just so done.
I was dreading going to my sister's bridal shower today because my family was all going to be there. My family isn't talking to me much because I told my sister I don't want to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. It was nothing against her, but I had my reasons.
Anyways, my grandpa starts asking all these questions about where josh and I are looking to live. We found a house we might go see that a client of mine owns. It's a nice house on 200 acres and if the price is right we might go for it. Anyways my grandpa starts going on about how that's too far of a commute for us and how we won't be able to handle living that far. I explain that I won't be commuting out here and josh has already stated that he does not mind the commute if it means we get to live more out in the country and because it's healthier for me to live as far away from the city as possible.
Then grandpa says, "I hear you are getting a new dog. Tell me about it." I start talking to him about our new xolo and he starts saying things like "well why wouldn't the breeder let you pick out your own puppy?" "Why do you need another dog?" "Who is going to train this dog?" "What would a psychiatric service dog even do?" Any answer I gave he looked at me like I was pulling bullshit out of my pants. I tried to explain that the breeder selected my puppy based on the temperament I needed and he couldn't understand that.
Next thing I know my dad is joining my conversation saying that we won't be able to find a place to live with 4 dogs and that even when he is an SD that that will make it so much harder to find places to live and then starts going off on what he perceives are the SD laws which he was incorrect on. When I tried to explain what the law says he said "oh okkk" in a way that means, "whatever stop acting like you know this stuff."
I ended up leaving my sister's bridal shower in tears. I'm just so done. They aren't going to accept this dog btw. Even if he does do well on SD training and does become my SD they still will refuse to let him come to family gatherings, vacations etc.
I was dreading going to my sister's bridal shower today because my family was all going to be there. My family isn't talking to me much because I told my sister I don't want to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. It was nothing against her, but I had my reasons.
Anyways, my grandpa starts asking all these questions about where josh and I are looking to live. We found a house we might go see that a client of mine owns. It's a nice house on 200 acres and if the price is right we might go for it. Anyways my grandpa starts going on about how that's too far of a commute for us and how we won't be able to handle living that far. I explain that I won't be commuting out here and josh has already stated that he does not mind the commute if it means we get to live more out in the country and because it's healthier for me to live as far away from the city as possible.
Then grandpa says, "I hear you are getting a new dog. Tell me about it." I start talking to him about our new xolo and he starts saying things like "well why wouldn't the breeder let you pick out your own puppy?" "Why do you need another dog?" "Who is going to train this dog?" "What would a psychiatric service dog even do?" Any answer I gave he looked at me like I was pulling bullshit out of my pants. I tried to explain that the breeder selected my puppy based on the temperament I needed and he couldn't understand that.
Next thing I know my dad is joining my conversation saying that we won't be able to find a place to live with 4 dogs and that even when he is an SD that that will make it so much harder to find places to live and then starts going off on what he perceives are the SD laws which he was incorrect on. When I tried to explain what the law says he said "oh okkk" in a way that means, "whatever stop acting like you know this stuff."
I ended up leaving my sister's bridal shower in tears. I'm just so done. They aren't going to accept this dog btw. Even if he does do well on SD training and does become my SD they still will refuse to let him come to family gatherings, vacations etc.
I'm sorry. Family stuff like that just sucks. I hope you can find a strategy to help distance yourself from the toxicity. I can never decide if parents/grandparents are actually trying to give helpful advice or just criticize decisions they don't disagree with when they do stuff like that. I'm the youngest and a bit of a black sheep in my family so what it could be and how I interpret it could go either way on any given day.
For me, at some point I just started refusing to engage when I knew the conversation was heading "that way." Just simple replies acknowledging they'd said something without inviting more discussion. "Huh!" "Interesting." "Thanks for your opinion!" and even an occasional "I'm not talking about this with you right now." But man, it's hard to overcome the feeling that you're being a bad seed when you start standing up for yourself. It did help a lot, though.
For me, at some point I just started refusing to engage when I knew the conversation was heading "that way." Just simple replies acknowledging they'd said something without inviting more discussion. "Huh!" "Interesting." "Thanks for your opinion!" and even an occasional "I'm not talking about this with you right now." But man, it's hard to overcome the feeling that you're being a bad seed when you start standing up for yourself. It did help a lot, though.
So the reason I finally caved and got my eyes checked/got glasses was spurred by a conversation I had while driving, about not being able to see certain things on the road haha... aaaaaand lo and behold, I have a more difficult time driving WITH my glasses. I've only had them a few days and I don't wear them consistently throughout the day, so perhaps I just need to adjust more, but my depth perception or something is way wonky and I just get dizzy wearing them when I drive. Hrmph.
One of my complaints during my exam was that night driving is starting to get worse for me, and I was warned that I might not notice any difference in that regard with glasses, but I thought daytime driving would be better!
One of my complaints during my exam was that night driving is starting to get worse for me, and I was warned that I might not notice any difference in that regard with glasses, but I thought daytime driving would be better!
CVS Caremark continues to be the most worthless piece of **** service I have EVER had to deal with. This time - because every single time I have to log on, I find that something is wrong - a prescription I have been receiving from them from the start is... missing. No record that I had a prescription for it at all. I'm almost out and was going on to see when it was scheduled to be refilled. Apparently the answer is NEVER and now I have to call and talk to their useless customer service. AGAIN. LIKE EVERY OTHER TIME.
/rage
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^That. When I switch between my glasses and contacts I get a similar feeling and it can take up to an hour to go away fully, so if you're not wearing them for longer periods that may just be your eyes adjusting to the correction. If, however, the feeling doesn't go away even after an hour or more, I'd go back to the glasses place and have them check the prescription and measurements.
Definitely agree! Years ago the doctors gave me a prescription for astigmatism. I don't actually have astigmatism. =P My glasses literally made me want to throw up, so I couldn't wear them. I tried to tell my eye doctor about it and she basically just told me to "get over it." (She was a real bitch.)
I still remember wearing them after my eye injury, sitting at the station and looking at the computer screen working, and suddenly had to yank them off my face because vomit was rising in my throat. My mom convinced me to go to the glasses place and ask them about it, thinking maybe they just needed to be adjusted. Oddly the doctor "couldn't find" my glasses prescription, so the glasses place measured the glasses to figure out what the prescription likely was. And they were like "These are for somebody with astigmatism. Do you have astigmatism..?"
We had a different doctor give me an exam and write me a new prescription and NOPE, NO ASTIGMATISM. The glasses people were real nice and were like "Yeah, um, if you're wearing glasses for astigmatism and you don't have astigmatism, you're probably GOING to feel dizzy and want to throw up. You can't wear these." So I got a new prescription and it was WAY different.
Just be honest with yourself about if it's an annoying dizzy feeling, which is normal, or if it's really severe and doesn't go away, which is not normal. And if it doesn't go away, definitely go ask about it!!
I still remember wearing them after my eye injury, sitting at the station and looking at the computer screen working, and suddenly had to yank them off my face because vomit was rising in my throat. My mom convinced me to go to the glasses place and ask them about it, thinking maybe they just needed to be adjusted. Oddly the doctor "couldn't find" my glasses prescription, so the glasses place measured the glasses to figure out what the prescription likely was. And they were like "These are for somebody with astigmatism. Do you have astigmatism..?"
We had a different doctor give me an exam and write me a new prescription and NOPE, NO ASTIGMATISM. The glasses people were real nice and were like "Yeah, um, if you're wearing glasses for astigmatism and you don't have astigmatism, you're probably GOING to feel dizzy and want to throw up. You can't wear these." So I got a new prescription and it was WAY different.
Just be honest with yourself about if it's an annoying dizzy feeling, which is normal, or if it's really severe and doesn't go away, which is not normal. And if it doesn't go away, definitely go ask about it!!
I found out last night that a friend of mine died. He fell off of a cliff while out hiking. It's all so bizarre and hard to process. We had a big camp out birthday party for another friend on Friday night and he was supposed to meet his girlfriend earlier in the day. He didn't show up and she came out without him, and none of us had any inkling of what had happened, celebrating through the night.
I didn't even know until last night, I was playing fiddle at a dance and when I showed up I found out. It was really hard stomp away and play happy fiddle tunes after news like that.
Such a sudden and strange way to go.
I didn't even know until last night, I was playing fiddle at a dance and when I showed up I found out. It was really hard stomp away and play happy fiddle tunes after news like that.
Such a sudden and strange way to go.
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Oh wow, I'm so sorry!
A few months ago I found out a childhood friend of mine passed away. He was hit by a car, crossing traffic (as a pedestrian). I knew him pretty well growing up and when I moved at age 12, lost contact. I found him on Facebook a couple years ago and we didn't talk really, but I enjoyed seeing his updates on FB. When I found out he died, it hit me surprisingly hard seeing as I hadn't actually really been friends with him for 10 years. But we lived down the street from each other for 12 years. I used to go to his house all the time. He was always a dog lover, and a lot of his updates on FB were about his sibe/gsd mix and him going on adventures together. It still really upsets me to think about. I can't imagine what you must be going through, having actually been current friends with this guy, but your post just brought it all to mind. Again, I'm so sorry. Life is so short. It's crazy..
A few months ago I found out a childhood friend of mine passed away. He was hit by a car, crossing traffic (as a pedestrian). I knew him pretty well growing up and when I moved at age 12, lost contact. I found him on Facebook a couple years ago and we didn't talk really, but I enjoyed seeing his updates on FB. When I found out he died, it hit me surprisingly hard seeing as I hadn't actually really been friends with him for 10 years. But we lived down the street from each other for 12 years. I used to go to his house all the time. He was always a dog lover, and a lot of his updates on FB were about his sibe/gsd mix and him going on adventures together. It still really upsets me to think about. I can't imagine what you must be going through, having actually been current friends with this guy, but your post just brought it all to mind. Again, I'm so sorry. Life is so short. It's crazy..
Small animal/bird people...yes definitely.
I have a wild starling bird and I handfed another baby last year. I posted on a starling board and found a home for the baby to go to. I explained what I use to feed my bird (who is about 3.5 years old) and what the baby had been eating. I usually use freeze-dried raw (Stella and Chewey's) to get them going as it is easier than soaking kibble. I found the girl posting about the food on the board, and everyone was kind of bashing me for feeding them wrong. They didn't understand what the freeze-dried was.
I have a wild starling bird and I handfed another baby last year. I posted on a starling board and found a home for the baby to go to. I explained what I use to feed my bird (who is about 3.5 years old) and what the baby had been eating. I usually use freeze-dried raw (Stella and Chewey's) to get them going as it is easier than soaking kibble. I found the girl posting about the food on the board, and everyone was kind of bashing me for feeding them wrong. They didn't understand what the freeze-dried was.
I have 4 happy, healthy young ladies so I just skim the forums for any bits of knowledge I can pick up and am happy to not engage.