The Venting Thread

[Greenmagick]

Ugh, with all this up and down weather, there is ice everywhere.

My mom's best friend lost her horse because of it. She has had him since a baby, he was 33. He slipped and fell on the ice and by the time they got him back up he was not doing well, they think he hit his head really hard. They had to euth him. My mom's horse tweaked something too.

 

[sparks19]

Oh that's so sad I'm so sorry.

the ice is bad here as well. Our local news station had a partial roof collapse under the weight of all the snow and ice.

I'm terrified anytime Brian leaves the house. Why did he have to have his hip replacement in the middle of the WORST winter we've had in years lol.

 

[Bruschnazzy]

It is no fun having only one working car right now. I just want to get to the bank so I can put my check in and order my new camera! I haven't been able to take pictures in weeks and I am not surviving well.

 

[Dogdragoness]

Today is supposed to be 80 degrees today, tomorrow is the same and the near future seems much the same as well.
Yay!!!

 

[SaraB]

Ugh, with all this up and down weather, there is ice everywhere.

My mom's best friend lost her horse because of it. She has had him since a baby, he was 33. He slipped and fell on the ice and by the time they got him back up he was not doing well, they think he hit his head really hard. They had to euth him. My mom's horse tweaked something too.

I'm so sorry to hear that. my mom's older horse fell and couldn't get up either, they ended up euthing too. This winter is just so hard on them.

 

[Southpaw]

I am not ready to start this horrible looking afternoon in 20 mins. Only 5.5 hours till I get to go home at least?

 

[JazzyTheSibe]

I'm pretty sure I have the Flu, I was sick all yesterday, & I'm sick today.

Ugh, with all this up and down weather, there is ice everywhere.

My mom's best friend lost her horse because of it. She has had him since a baby, he was 33. He slipped and fell on the ice and by the time they got him back up he was not doing well, they think he hit his head really hard. They had to euth him. My mom's horse tweaked something too.

I'm so sorry

 

[SoCrafty]

I'm giving up coffee for Lent. I drink about 4-5 cups a day...so I started doing half-caff and then went to 1/4 caff and today was my first day just decaff. Ash Wednesday there will be no coffee. Going caffeine and coffee free also means no soda, no chocolate and no caffeinated tea. It's been a process but ugh. My body is just like revolting against me right now. Headache, can't concentrate and tired like I've never been tired before. I can't wait for these symptoms to go away.

 

[Fran101]

I for some reason (to punish myself) have made a friend who CANNOT BE BY HERSELF. EVER.

When her room-mate isn't home, she gets scared (in her own **** apartment.) and comes over (She basically invites herself because she gets soooo lonely being by herself, even for just a few hours!) and just follows me AROUND.

She asked me to come sit on the couch closest to the bathroom because she was going in there and wanted company ("her and her friends do it all the time") WHAT?! WHAT?!?!? I literally have to yell at her to CLOSE THE DOOR

YOU ARE A GROWN WOMAN GET A LIFE AND LEARN TO BE ALONE JESUS CHRIST

and I can't frikin shake her.
She is nice (albeit a pest) and she texts me every time she's by herself and knows I'm home because she knows my class schedule and she lives nearby. And what can I say to her? I don't want you around when I watch TV and do nothing because I think you're really annoying and need to get some independence?

She has never experienced some great trauma... she herself says she doesn't know why she gets lonely but she doesn't think there's anything wrong with it! "I just don't like to be by myself"
And maybe there isn't but WHY IS IT MY DUTY TO HANG AROUND WITH YOU LIKE SOME LOST PUPPY?

I like her. I really do. And outside of the house (when we are out together) she is a great, bubbly, sweet girl.
I just can't take this whole "I can't be alone" thing all the time.

What can I even say to her? She is giving me anxiety I am sitting at the library not going home because I know she'll be there. waiting. asking me about my day. asking me questions.
she has sent me like 3 text messages today "JUST TO SAY HI!"
sunshine and rainbows and lisa frank and stickers and holy crap I CANTTTTTTTTTTT

 

[Red.Apricot]

"Sorry--I'm busy! Catch you later!"

It's not mean; you are busy. :]

 

[Beanie]

Did this girl change her relationship status on Facebook to being in a relationship with you and "it's complicated?"

Seriously, I would tell her you really like having alone time so you just don't want to hang out now/later/ever. Don't make it about her being needy, just make it about your own need for space.

 

[Taqroy]

What can I even say to her?

"No." It's a complete sentence. Or, "I like spending time with you but I have other obligations today. I'll catch you next time."

She sounds kind of creepy honestly...way way too clingy.

 

[Fran101]

"Sorry--I'm busy! Catch you later!"

It's not mean; you are busy. :]

That would totally work but she has a key. My room-mate is much closer to her than I (and never home.) She doesn't really ask to come over, she just kind of informs and since it's not MY place (we share it) it's really not in my power to un-invite her or kick her out.

Once I was in my CLOSED BORING DINING ROOM (one of about 4 common areas in the house, and the most boring and uncomfortable), doing homework and she KNOCKED and peeped in I was like "Sorry, I'm really busy, trying to study"
and she said "Oh I won't bother you" and I actually LOUDLY sighed and put my HEADPHONES IN (universal sign for GO AWAY) and she came in anyway because she doesn't take regular social ques (mild annoyance, sighs of annoyance, shifting away from her, moving down the table, not talking to her, not looking at her, moving to a DIFFERENT ROOM WHEN SHE COMES IN)

THESE ARE CALLED SOCIAL CUES FOR GO AWAY

And what can I say to that? No she wasn't doing anything to bother me, EXCEPT HER PRESENCE! SHE HAS NO BOUNDARIES!

ugh sorry this is such a vent and frankly, I don't get it. Why does she need a COMPANION when her room-mate goes to an appointment for 2 hours? WATCH A MOVIE. AND WHY CANT SHE TAKE A HINT.

my room-mates all ask me to be patient, "she's always been like that, she's really nice, it's not as simple as you think" and I am trying to be and she is VERY nice.

I just NEED TO BE ALONE
and my room has no place to study or a TV! I don't want to hole myself in there!
HER ANXIETY IS GIVING ME ANXIETY AND EVERY ONE IS TELLING ME TO JUST DEAL BECAUSE "SHE IS LIKE THAT" WHY??"?????

Beanie/Taq: Creepy doesn't even begin to cover it sometimes. Honestly I think she has some kind of issue. Thinking of getting a bed room lock and just holing in there.

No is a complete sentence is going to be my new mantra. She does sometimes ASK before she comes into a room and settles down near me... I just need to be able to say no. for real.
UGHHH

 

[noludoru]

Did this girl change her relationship status on Facebook to being in a relationship with you and "it's complicated?"

Seriously, I would tell her you really like having alone time so you just don't want to hang out now/later/ever. Don't make it about her being needy, just make it about your own need for space.

This. :rofl1: She's over there constantly? Holy hell.

"No." It's a complete sentence. Or, "I like spending time with you but I have other obligations today. I'll catch you next time."

She sounds kind of creepy honestly...way way too clingy.

This. The answer is, "I know you have a key, and you're welcome here any time you're specifically invited by me or roommate #1, but coming over uninvited is unacceptable. I need my personal space to study/work/decompress. My work/school deadlines aren't getting done because you're disturbing me."

 

[Beanie]

My friend just got a phone call that apparently her dad is in one of the final stages of losing his battle with cancer. I thought they had more time. The doctor had been optimistic and said maybe a year. All she wanted was to make it to spring and be able to take him to one more Cardinals game. She's not going to get that. Apparently he had a rapid downturn. Last week they told them 2-3 weeks. Today they said any day now.

i don't even know what to do. just sitting here trying not to cry. this isn't fair.

 

[Laurelin]

Wonderful realization that your work email hasn't been sending out messages for 3 days and you just now noticed.

They repaired my email but seriously... now I've lost my entire sent box. And I feel like an ass. My good friend sent an email yesterday that her brother had died of cancer yesterday after living 5 months past what the doctors said. I wrote out a long email and thought I'd sent it. But no. It didn't send and now it's deleted and I feel like an ass who ignores her friends when they are going through hard times.

The only reason I noticed is my boss sending me a message saying 'hey did you send that map yet?'

Ugh ugh ugh.

Now trying to remember who I emailed yesterday.

 

[Greenmagick]

My friend just got a phone call that apparently her dad is in one of the final stages of losing his battle with cancer. I thought they had more time. The doctor had been optimistic and said maybe a year. All she wanted was to make it to spring and be able to take him to one more Cardinals game. She's not going to get that. Apparently he had a rapid downturn. Last week they told them 2-3 weeks. Today they said any day now.

i don't even know what to do. just sitting here trying not to cry. this isn't fair.

(((hugs)))

Cancer sucks

 

[AllieMackie]

Having a day where I'm feeling really overwhelmed by my self-employment and serious self-doubt. Days like this suck.

I don't even have time today to stop and re-prioritize my lists, but I have to or else I'll go bonkers. >_O

 

[Red.Apricot]

Oh wow, that's really hard.

It wouldn't be rude to say, when she comes over, "Oh, I'm sorry--roomate's not here, and I'm really busy cramming. It's not a good time for you to be here." It wouldn't be rude to say, when she comes into the room you're studying in, "Sorry--I need to be alone right now."

If she's not paying rent she shouldn't be allowed to come over whenever she wants.

That would drive me absolutely nuts.

 

[Zoom]

I've spent the past year trying to "open up" and be more in touch with my "feelings" and all those things.

This was a terrible idea.

And now it's proving incredibly difficult to get my defenses back up to where they used to be and I didn't have to deal with feelings or any of that bullsh*t. At least I'm back to the point where I can laugh as someone points out they feel I'm "going into a tailspin". Absolutely none of this matters. I can't stand me, why should anyone else feel differently? I'm boring, bored and treading the line of constant angsty anger. One of my friends went all therapist on me the other night and got me to spill my guts and they were sitting there going "oh, this is good, it's good to get all this out." No. No it's not. Now there's someone walking around knowing a lot of **** that I don't want anyone knowing and I can't undo that.

Do they make metaphysical weed killer? That's the mental picture I've got in my head--my little black heart with pesky little dandelion feelings poking through the cracks. Weed killer. Now.