Should I keep my puppy?

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I'm not sure if this is the right forum to place this is in, as I'm new here. But I recently got a puppy and I need some advice.

First off, I'll give you a little history about me. I'm a student whose going to be going to taking an online school for animation classes (something I've always wanted to do) in addition to working a full-time job. I'm 28 and I'm buying a home (although in a something bad neighborhood) that has a fully fenced in backyard and I'm working on fixing it up whenever I can afford to.

Obviously, I love dogs and almost all animals, as does the rest of my family. We never had the pleasure of owning a dog though, until one of my younger sisters finally convinced my parents that she really wanted one and she was willing to take care of it and pay for everything it needed. His name was Zephyr and he was a handsome dog mostly German Sheperd with a bit of Border Collie.

Anyways, since then I love german sheperds so when my brother called me up and asked if I wanted a "Zephyr" (we fondly refer to any dog/canine that has german sheperd or looks similiar as a Zephyr) I was pretty excited about having my own dog, especially since it was the breed I had grown to love so much. I initially had doubts and worries about being able to care for him, but I finally convinced myself (with the help of some friends and family who said I should have a dog) that I would take him.

Unfortunately now, I've been thinking about all the responsibilities of training him and the amount of time I need to spend with him, plus the cost of shots and such (which I could afford, but they would cut away from other things i need to pay for/buy) and I'm beginning to have second thoughts about whether this is the right point in my life to raise a dog, and if I could give this puppy the care he needs to grow up a happy dog.

So I've come here for some suggestions or ideas.
I could try to keep him but with homework + regular work I'm not sure how much time I could spend training him. How much time should one spend with a puppy as he's growing up?
Also, I rent my house out to some other people, but unfortunately most of them aren't his biggest fans.
One is strictly a "Cat" person who doesn't mind the dog but pretty much ignores him.
This guys wife has a family of dogs and plays with him every once in awhile.
Another is a friend from college who is only going to be there for a month. Which is good for the puppy because this guy was apparently raised in a country where you need to "hit" dogs to train them or use other abusive techniques like slapping a paper or making a loud noise to scare them.
Fortunately I've been able to prevent him from hitting my dog, but he was trying to scare a few times by slapping papers or snapping a belt. Again though, he'll be gone soon, so I don't have to worry about him soon.

I've had the puppy for almost 2 weeks and he's been potty-trained in my room, but not the rest of the house. He also likes the crate I finally got for him, and I think he's beggining to catch on to his name and the command of "Come", or he just does it because he's happy to see me anytime I come outside. The one big problem right now though is he always tried to bit or chew on me or anything attached to me! I've bought several Nylabones and a Kong toy. He usually only chews them for 5 -10 sec before trying to bite me again or chew on the clothes I'm wearing immediately after praising him for being a good dog for not chewing on me (his timing is remarkable).
Also, if I scold him or say "No" he tends to get more ferocious and he'll start yapping and lunging/snapping at my hands that are correcting him or withdrawing to avoid his sharp teeth.

Ok, well, I guess that's enough for one post and I would really appreciate any advice or information about this situation. If I need to I think I can still return him to the owner. I know he needs shots very soon, so I need to either get those or give him to someone that can. Although, I'm not sure if I'll get refunded for the money I've spent on him so far (which is about $70) or the cost of the shots.
 

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Here's my opinion:
People had to convince you to take this puppy. It sounds like that wasn't a very good idea. You had doubts before getting the puppy probably for a good reason. It's only been 2weeks, and you don't know if you want to keep your puppy?
Honestly it really does sound like now is not the right time for a puppy. Your life is a little busy right now, and when do you expect to hang out with friends and stuff? It is possible to have a full time job and raise a puppy, but it is not easy. This is only the beginning of the puppy antics... If you're doubting yourself now it might be in the best interest of both of you to rehome him.

Puppies are a lot of work, are you willing to commit?
 

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:)

So you have the puppy?

Are you feeling a bit stressed? I know when I got Bodhi I had "puppy blues" for ages, thinking, have I done the right thing?! But it gets better. Honestly, it does!

I work full time, and have done since I had her. So in those regards, as long as you are prepared to set time aside, and work and play everyday with your puppy, you can do it.

Only you really know what your situation is..

If you're prepared to put the time and work in, I think you could keep him.

You sound sensible, and responsible enough from your post ;)
 

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Its a tough call. What other options does the puppy have? If you give up on him, where does he go?

You post bothered me some becaused you focus mostly on you. How it affects your life and what you can buy. IMHO a true dog person makes decisions based on what is best for the dog. You did address some issues about time you can spend with the dog but you tend to be most concerned with you. That leads me to advise that you find a more dedicated home for your dog.

Dogs are like children and when thinking about your dogs future slide the word child in and see how it sounds.

On the mouthing by your puppy, he is just playing. When you say "No" or "Stop" do you sound like you mean business? When he bites try yelping like an injured dog, that can let him know he went far. Also if you stop playing with him when he bites you (turn your back and ignore) he will get the message that play time ends if he gets too rough.

I am not a professional dog trainer, so I am sure some of the folks on here will be more help with the behavior stuff.

If you are considering taking your puppy to the shelter please read the thread in the link below.
http://www.chazhound.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31932
 
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Amstaffer said:
Its a tough call. What other options does the puppy have? If you give up on him, where does he go?

You post bothered me some becaused you focus mostly on you. How it affects your life and what you can buy. IMHO a true dog person makes decisions based on what is best for the dog. You did address some issues about time you can spend with the dog but you tend to be most concerned with you. That leads me to advise that you find a more dedicated home for your dog.

Dogs are like children and when thinking about your dogs future slide the word child in and see how it sounds.

On the mouthing by your puppy, he is just playing. When you say "No" or "Stop" do you sound like you mean business? When he bites try yelping like an injured dog, that can let him know he went far. Also if you stop playing with him when he bites you (turn your back and ignore) he will get the message that play time ends if he gets too rough.

I am not a professional dog trainer, so I am sure some of the folks on here will be more help with the behavior stuff.

If you are considering taking your puppy to the shelter please read the thread in the link below.
http://www.chazhound.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31932


Sorry if my post bothered you. The main reason I made this was because I don't think I'll have enough time to spend with my puppy was my online college starts. I might be able to spend a few minutes a day with him. Maybe an hour once school starts up if I manage my time efficientely. The good news is that I will actually be at home but I will focusing on my studies and doing computer stuff, so I can't really play with the puppy a lot. I'm afraid this will lead to the puppy not being properly trained or given enough attention and therefore growing up to be misbehaved or whatever else could happen because of that.

Yeah, the financial thing is a bit of a concern too, but if I knew I had the time to spend with my puppy then I wouldn't mind it so much. So far it doesn't seem like too much to pay.
The vets I've called basically cost about $50-$60 a visit, which I could probably afford if I knew I could keep the puppy.
If I do give him away, I'm going to try to make sure he gets a good home. I used to work at a Petland where the owner always tried to make sure puppies had a good home, either that or I can see if the owners will take him back and find a good home for him.
Of course, right now my mind is still going back and forth on the issue, I'm also afraid that he may go to a bad home or end up in a shelter--which is why I kind of want to make sacrificies now and try to keep him but again--the whole time issue.

Sorry if I seem like I'm ranting, I'm just a bit confused right now, which is why I'm posting here.

Also, I try ignoring him when he bites.
If I turn my back he bites my pants, ankles, shoes anything within reach.
If I climb somewhere so he can't reach me he'll bark and jump at me---I haven't done this a lot but I'm almost afraid he'll think he's scared me or he's in control if I constantly try to escape him. I also tried yelping once and it seemed to work a little, maybe I should go back to that.

Last but not least I can leave him outside or in another room. of course he'll bark for awhile but eventually he settles down. The thing is when I go back out, he's excited to see me again and starts biting to play again.
 

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You seem like a responsible person who made a mistake. I don't think you should have gotten the dog but we all listen to our heart instead of our head once in awhile. I just got a dog and before I had researched and decided that an older dog would be best. I went to the pound and came home with a puppy. Now its a whole lot extra work but I'm willing to put that in because that was my mistake. However I have the time to put that in. You don't seem to. I think you sound responsible because you are trying to do what is best for the puppy and I think what is best is to rehome it. Find the best possible owner, don't just drop it off.
 

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To me, anyone who has a new dog and questions giving it away ... should. It's in the bes interest of the dog. Find a loving home.
 
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It sounds like you were excited about the idea of having a puppy but not actually committing to one right now. Like someone else said, they talked you into taking him. If you don't have the time and money to care for this puppy as he deserves to be cared for then he needs a home that can provide these things for him. Love, training, play time, shots, etc. Ultimately it's up to you and what you think you can do. It sounds like you've already made up your mind about not keeping him and it seems to be in the best interest of the pup as well.
 

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I agree with the others, it seems you have many doubts, and I commend you for looking for advice and wanting to do what's right by this puppy now.

Sure your friends and family talked you into it, but THEY aren't the ones in the end who will have to take on the raising/training of this puppy. It's easy for someone else to say "oh get a puppy"..

I think your smart seeing that you probably won't have the time to devote to him, and I think your best bet would be to return him or find him a new home as soon as you can while he is still this young.

If I could only spend an hour a day with my GSD's and Aussies, they would go absolutely bonkers.

Good luck to you
diane
 

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LOL @ "a few minutes a day"

Hades would die, he would slowly starve himself to death and become a reclused, depressed animal. While Roxy would probably crawl into a hole and bite anyone that came near! LOL

A few minutes a day is not enough.

Rehome the pup, it's much easier to find puppies a home than adult dogs. Do your best to make sure it's a good home and remember to never make this mistake again.
 
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Roxy's CD said:
LOL @ "a few minutes a day"

Hades would die, he would slowly starve himself to death and become a reclused, depressed animal. While Roxy would probably crawl into a hole and bite anyone that came near! LOL

A few minutes a day is not enough.

Rehome the pup, it's much easier to find puppies a home than adult dogs. Do your best to make sure it's a good home and remember to never make this mistake again.
Well, thanks for the confirmation on that. I knew it wasn't enough, but that's probably all the time I would spend. Right now I try to spend a few hours with him broken up into intervals. I have to keep him outside cuz my house is too much of a mess and I want to get him potty trained before he destroys the $2000 of carpet I just put in this year, I wouldn't be bothered by it too much except that I'm going to be reselling the home someday.

Another bad thing is I'm probably going to moving to California since I want to work as an animator--until I get on my feet I may need to get an apartment that didn't allow pets.

Anyways, I do have a few more questions
1. Yeah, I know you need to spend more than a few minutes with a German/Lab mix, but how much time is ideal, and what is the very least you should spend...assuming your so busy you don't have a choice!

2. he's going on 8 weeks and I want to start socializing him with dogs. But I haven't had the chance to get him dewormed and have his vaccinations. I guess I should probably take resposibility for getting him at least his first set since I may have him for a few more weeks.
Hopefully I can get some of the money back, it really sucks to spend $100+ on something, then give it away--but I guess that's my fault for making a decision like that.
Btw, I think he needs dewormed REALLY bad, last Wednesday he actually pooped out two fairly long worms alone! Just 2 slimey worms came oozing out of his anus....it was quite grosteque and they were about 2 inches long or so. I'm taking him to get dewormed tommorow and it's going to cost about $50+. That's for deworming, first set of vaccines and exam. I hope that's a good cost

3. What all should I make sure he gets vaccinated for?
 

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Yano, I couldn't really give you an exact amount of time. It all depends on the animal. Roxy as a pup, only required a few hours a day... Hades was full time.

Don't start socializing the pup until it has all it's shots.. You don't want him getting something fatal :eek:

He hasn't been dewormed yet :eek: :eek:

*sigh* Get him to the vet as soon as you can... I believe I paid about $60 for the first set of shots and for the dewormer.. It's not much at all.
 
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They will probably give an all-in-one puppy shot. Distemper, parvo, Coronavirus, Hepatitis, Parainfluenza. Depending on area, risk or exposure, Lyme disease and Bordatella may be recommended. He should have been dewormed and had shots at 6 wks...apparently not.
Socialize after the vaccines and dewormer. NOT before.
He'll probably need at least a couple of hours a day of play time...not to mention training and socializing. Yes, training/socializing/play can be rolled into one, but not all the time.

It really sounds like you don't have the time or finances or emotion needed to keep this pup. The sooner he gets a new home the better off you'll both be. You could sell him for the amount you've spent on shots and food and then give all the toys, food, etc. to the new owner. You'll have to cut your loses on what you bought him for, IMO.
 
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Its very hard to put a specific amount of time you need to spend with your dog. They should be part of the family. I couldnt give you a time I spend with my dog, whenever I am home, she is with me. She may just sleep on the couch while I do something or she may bring a toy and ask to play.

Just remember it is much harder to rehome an adult dog. It sounds like this dog is not fitting into your lifestyle and is a "drag" to you. So why not rehome the pup now?

Can someone who is more skilled at this site then me, find that story that was posted recently about the dog that was taken to the pound when the man moved to a home that did not take dogs? This is what this post reminds me of.

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They will probably give an all-in-one puppy shot. Distemper, parvo, Coronavirus, Hepatitis, Parainfluenza. Depending on area, risk or exposure, Lyme disease and Bordatella may be recommended. He should have been dewormed and had shots at 6 wks...apparently not.
Socialize after the vaccines and dewormer. NOT before.
He'll probably need at least a couple of hours a day of play time...not to mention training and socializing. Yes, training/socializing/play can be rolled into one, but not all the time.

It really sounds like you don't have the time or finances or emotion needed to keep this pup. The sooner he gets a new home the better off you'll both be. You could sell him for the amount you've spent on shots and food and then give all the toys, food, etc. to the new owner. You'll have to cut your loses on what you bought him for, IMO.

OK, I'm going to try to get him done today. Everyplace I called did Distemper, Hep, Influenza and Parvo. Some included Corona and Lepto in the first set and others didn't do it til the second set.
One of the vets said that they didn't do Lepto right away was because that there was a risk of them having a negative reaction at 8 wks, and they waited til 12-14.

Now, I would like to get as much as possible done before I give him to somebody else, but also, I want to take him to a preschool class that requires that Corona be part of the first set.

Do you know if there is a good reason to wait for the second set for Corona? Or is it usually reccomended for the first series?
 

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My guys didn't get Lepto until their third set. I assume there is a good reason. They got everything else: distemper. parainfluenza, adeno, parvo, corona all from the start, if that helps.

I don't know why though :(
 

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