No. I wouldnt adopt a dog under these conditions and I wouldn't expect someone to agree to them either. Dixie's owners have asked me on many occasions to feel free to come see her. I have been unable, emotionally, to do so up to this point. I think if she asked me again I probably would take her up on it though. I have asked Lucy's owners to let us know hen they are in town so we can see her, but they haven't taken us up on the offer yet. I hope they will, but if they don't, I understand.
I don't expect to be able to see my dogs after they are no longer mine. That is part of the choice we had to make when we rehomed them. I appreciate the chance to see them, but in no way expect it. I wouldn't want Chloe's old owners coming to see her. She's mine now.