Misty's Litter

[darkchild16]

Seriously? The people on this forum amaze me. We are all a tight knit group, until we get the opportunity to throw you on the ground and stomp on you for a mistake.

EVERY single person in the thread needs to take the finger they are pointing and turn it towards themselves. We ALL make mistakes, we are HUMAN. What should we do when we make mistakes? LEARN from them and don't repeat them. She is doing the best she can do to take care of the puppies and make sure they find a home - what more can be done?

I'm ashamed of the way we as "adults" act towards other adults. Have we forgotten what it means to have compassion and a little humility for other people?

Wow.

i agree.

 

[MisssAshby]

Since now you are pointing fingers (at everyone who has pointed fingers) are you going to also turn it towards yourself? opcorn:

I have NO problems pointing fingers at myself for mistakes I've made and never made a comment otherwise. What about you?

 

[Dekka]

See and much is not rude. If you 'read' rude into posts then I am sure many will seem rude. I, for example, try to work in emoticons to help let people know how my posts are meant to be taken. That will not stop people who want to see rudeness and attacking from reading it where it did not exist.

If being blunt (not rude) gets the point across better what of it?

 

[Danefied]

Ok I get that... and pretty much all of that stuff was said in her original thread about the breeding. Why did it have to come into this thread too? It didnt' get past one page before people were jumping down her throat for simply posting pictures.

don't get me wrong... i fully expected this thread to go that way. They always do.

I think it becomes a little too much when people follow them from thread to thread to bring up the same things that has already been said (not saying you specifically did this)

Yeah, I missed the other thread until after this one had taken off. I don't get on Chaz every day so I'm not current on who has jumped down who's throat, and I don't always take the time to fully research a poster before asking them questions or giving them suggestions.

 

[Misty+Mason]

I know somebody mentioned to me that on the other forum, you said that you will NOT fix your female because "it will make her aggressive". If you still think this is the case, and you did indeed say it on the other forum (I am not sure you did, it is just what I heard), please, make a thread, and lots of people here can put your worries to rest.

No its okay, I read about it and their is more pros than cons, its better for her and safer that if some other male dog comes around, nothing can happen and my male dog can't knock up another dog next door or something.

 

[AdrianneIsabel]

I'm going to fix Misty as soon as we can. You can't gather what I'm going to do for the pups either, its not there yet and you have no idea if I am or am not going to, more than likely I will.

There is no goal here, so you can get off that goal of yours to prove it was some kind of goal.

I gathered by your lack of response and interest in suggestions for altering the dogs before rehoming. I do hope I'm gathering the wrong vibe though.

Thank you for fixing your female!

 

[Dekka]

I have NO problems pointing fingers at myself for mistakes I've made and never made a comment otherwise. What about you?

really? I have been very forth coming in the past about mistakes. I have posted about having an oops litter, I have posted everything about Dekka's litter. I would have to say you must not read my posts if you would assume I don't own up to mistakes.

Just because I have confidence and don't let people on the internet get to me does not mean I haven't aired some dirty laundry. Heck some pretty entertaining stuff has been pulled up on here about me... MUCH more interesting than this thread. But if you dont' lie, and you explain (or don't lie and ignore... though thats not my style) people accept and move on.

 

[AdrianneIsabel]

...and being rude about it helps drive the point home how?

Could you please point out what is rude? I mean exact posts.

If honesty is rude than I understand where you're coming from, I just haven't seen much except a snide remark directed at me sarcastically that I am "perfect".

 

[MisssAshby]

See and much is not rude. If you 'read' rude into posts then I am sure many will seem rude. I, for example, try to work in emoticons to help let people know how my posts are meant to be taken. That will not stop people who want to see rudeness and attacking from reading it where it did not exist.

If being blunt (not rude) gets the point across better what of it?

Most humans ignore people who are being rude and continue on with whatever they were doing. When you show concern, have compassion, and EDUCATE people you get places.

 

[Dekka]

Most humans ignore people who are being rude and continue on with whatever they were doing. When you show concern, have compassion, and EDUCATE people you get places.

There are quite a few examples on this forum alone that show that that method does nothing. (not saying the tough love does work.. but I would have to say it is more effective)

 

[Laurelin]

Holy crap, what did I miss? 21 freaking pages? Seriously?

 

[AdrianneIsabel]

But if you dont' lie, and you explain (or don't lie and ignore... though thats not my style) people accept and move on.

After probably 15 years on forums (how embarrassing is that??) I can say this is positively true.

People relish in honesty, ugly truths or not.

 

[Misty+Mason]

I gathered by your lack of response and interest in suggestions for altering the dogs before rehoming. I do hope I'm gathering the wrong vibe though.

Thank you for fixing your female!

I'm sorry if it sounded like that, I'm going to be doing everything I can for the pups, I was there for their birth, I'll be there for medical problems and fixing them and fitting them into a family that will love them just as much as I love them, each and every one of those 9 pups, not to mention my two dogs now.

Just because they will be leaving this house, doesn't mean there not my responsibility anymore, they always will be, till their dieing day.

 

[AdrianneIsabel]

I'm sorry if it sounded like that, I'm going to be doing everything I can for the pups, I was there for their birth, I'll be there for medical problems and fixing them and fitting them into a family that will love them just as much as I love them, each and every one of those 9 pups, not to mention my two dogs now.

Just because they will be leaving this house, doesn't mean there not my responsibility anymore, they always will be, till their dieing day.

That is a wonderful outcome, truly.

 

[JessLough]

I'm sorry if it sounded like that, I'm going to be doing everything I can for the pups, I was there for their birth, I'll be there for medical problems and fixing them and fitting them into a family that will love them just as much as I love them, each and every one of those 9 pups, not to mention my two dogs now.

Just because they will be leaving this house, doesn't mean there not my responsibility anymore, they always will be, till their dieing day.

I assume the whelping went well, then? I am glad she did not have any issues, atleast!

 

[MisssAshby]

really? I have been very forth coming in the past about mistakes. I have posted about having an oops litter, I have posted everything about Dekka's litter. I would have to say you must not read my posts if you would assume I don't own up to mistakes.

Just because I have confidence and don't let people on the internet get to me does not mean I haven't aired some dirty laundry. Heck some pretty entertaining stuff has been pulled up on here about me... MUCH more interesting than this thread. But if you dont' lie, and you explain (or don't lie and ignore... though thats not my style) people accept and move on.

I was simply saying that every HUMAN makes mistakes. I think you are reading into something that isn't there, but thanks for the justification.

 

[LilahRoot]

Ehh, this thread has really put me off of this forum. A rash of threads almost EXACTLY like this one drove me away from the forum I was on prior to this one. It's just...Ugly. I can't imagine what people that just join think once they look at this. They are probably thinking...wow I know better than to let them know much about me.

 

[Danefied]

Most humans ignore people who are being rude and continue on with whatever they were doing. When you show concern, have compassion, and EDUCATE people you get places.

Okay, I'm going to need a definition of rude I guess. I have students who think its rude of me to ask them to take off their headphones, pay attention, and participate in this free public education they're getting.

I mean if we're getting technical, I find it a bit rude to brag about an oops litter and then lie about it while calling anyone who doesn't ooh and aah over the puppies big meanies (or some such).

 

[Misty+Mason]

I assume the whelping went well, then? I am glad she did not have any issues, atleast!

It went great. I was assuming some stillborns, but none, and even at almost 2 weeks old, their is no signs of problems, with mother or pups, she is producing tons of milk, and no pups look to be the runt.

 

[Specsy]

There are quite a few examples on this forum alone that show that that method does nothing. (not saying the tough love does work.. but I would have to say it is more effective)

Actually many times I have asked for help or advice on certain things and only a few people reply, and I give input on those replies then the thread dies and I am left with no info I can use or very little info that I CAN use but I am still wanting more info. The forums only get excited when there is controversy, or an established member posting, not many people are willing to help the newbies out, and really the forums search function is impossible for me to use, it's incredibly confusing to find anything off it.