Looks vs Personality.

[Dizzy]

Ok... be HONEST.

It's all good and well to say "personality" but in reality, looks are what immediately attracts people together... then you get to know them and think either YAY! or NAY!

Is your OH the ideal you had in your head? Did you have an ideal? How do they measure up? Does their personality over-shadow the fact that they aren't Brad Pitt/female equivilant

Do you balance everything out?

Would you sacrifice one very good person, for a good one who you LUSTED after hugely?

 

[jess2416]

Looks is what attracts me, personality is what keeps me around

 

[Angel Chicken]

Is your OH the ideal you had in your head? Did you have an ideal? No, I never had an ideal looking person, in all honesty.

Does their personality over-shadow the fact that they aren't Brad Pitt/female equivilant?

Yes. I could give a rat's ass less what Rob looks like, as long as he was still HIM.

Do you balance everything out?
I'm not sure I understand this question?

Would you sacrifice one very good person, for a good one who you LUSTED after hugely? Not no, but HELL no. I'd rather love than lust.

 

[Dizzy]

Lol - I mean, balance as in OK looks, OK personality

 

[Laurelin]

I don't have a SO or anything, but I give everybody a chance. If they have a great personality, it shows through and I can find something physically attractive about them.

No, I'm not just saying that, lol.

 

[Angel Chicken]

Then yes, it has balanced out.

 

[ACooper]

Is your OH the ideal you had in your head? Did you have an ideal?

No he is not. My "type" if you will, was always Tall, Dark, and handsome. Kevin is medium, pale/sandy haired, and on the handsome side, LOL

In my youth, I never considered ALL the things that were important in a man, just the surface


How do they measure up?

He is MORE than I ever expected to find in this lifetime. There is NOWAY I would ever go back to the 'regular type' men I have dated. I know I deserve to be treated well, and so does Kevin.

Does their personality over-shadow the fact that they aren't Brad Pitt/female equivalent?

Well, it isn't his personality, it tends to be on the dry side with geek humor thrown in for good measure. What does make up for the 'less than brad pitt' is the way he loves and treats ME.......THAT is priceless.

Do you balance everything out?

Absolutely Kevin is not overly handsome, and he isn't overly gifted with personality.........but as stated, he treats me VERY well (and vice versa)

Would you sacrifice one very good person, for a good one who you LUSTED after hugely?

Not in a million billion years!

 

[Gempress]

Is your OH the ideal you had in your head? Did you have an ideal? How do they measure up? Does their personality over-shadow the fact that they aren't Brad Pitt/female equivilant

Do you balance everything out?

Is my husband the ideal I had in my head? Heck no! I'm usually the reserved, quiet, bookish type, a bit on the short side, and not physically inclined. I envisioned a person who was my male equivalent. Instead, I ended up with a gregarious, loud, giant of a man who loves doing physical work and exercise. I absolutely love him to death, and am completely happy in our marriage. Wouldn't exchange him for the world. I guess that sometimes your "ideal" isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Yes, his personality overshadows everything. It's kinda odd. Others don't seem so appealing anymore.

Would you sacrifice one very good person, for a good one who you LUSTED after hugely?

No. Lust is short-lived. And like I said before, since I met the person I'm truly in love with, other people don't seem so attractive anymore. I honestly can't remember the last time I looked at somebody other than my husband (either on TV or in person), and thought "Oooh....he looks good."

 

[HoundedByHounds]

Ok... be HONEST.

It's all good and well to say "personality" but in reality, looks are what immediately attracts people together... then you get to know them and think either YAY! or NAY!

Is your OH the ideal you had in your head? Did you have an ideal? How do they measure up? Does their personality over-shadow the fact that they aren't Brad Pitt/female equivilant

Do you balance everything out?

Would you sacrifice one very good person, for a good one who you LUSTED after hugely?

Ideal in my head, yes? Does my Dh match it? No. He does look very like a basketball player I had a huge, odd crush on as a younger woman tho.

We met online so looks really didn't enter in until I had so many feelings they didn't matter. I consider him a good looking guy...but he's no Johnny Depp.

I definitely have an ideal tho...and I keep a list of men and women I can have one night with if they ever ask me.

 

[Debi]

I'm sure looks is often a first choice. I mean...you see someone, and you like something about them. for me...I LOVED my hubby's long legs. lol but, if they had a horrible personality..ick. they'd get nowhere. my hubby is quiet, so it took awhile to see who was in there. once I did, I found this amazing sense of humour that I get a huge kick out of. so personality is key to me. I've never lusted after anyone but my hubby. I've met alot of cool guys, but I've never been attracted to them in any way that could ever be described as lust....or even 'interest'. just no appeal. lol nobody could ever measure up to my hubby in my eyes, so doesn't matter a whit if he doesn't look like Brad Pitt. I never had an 'ideal' man pictured in my head, I didn't have any interest in getting married or involved 'back in the day'. I just got lucky.

 

[houndlove]

My husband looks nothing like my usual "type". But then again, my usual type exists only in the movies/on TV and I've never dated a guy who was superhot. Crushed after, yes. Hooked up with, briefly. But my problem with superhot guys is that most of the time, they know they're superhot, and I find that first of all really off-putting and second of all, I'm not superhot myself and superhot guys tend to want to date superhot girls (at least they did at the age when I was actively dating, in college).

So by default I go more by personality. Basically, personality is most important but really fugly looks can be a deal-breaker. There are some things that I just can't get past. I've dated overweight guys (not like morbidly obese, but paunchy and chubby, yes), guys with bad acne, short guys, thinning-hair guys, dumpy guys. I'm really no prize myself so it's not like I have room to criticize.

When I first met my husband, it wasn't looks at all that attracted me to him. I thought he was kind of funny-looking anyway. At the time he had long long hair and a really long goatee (like 3 inches--long!), and he's got a bit of a nose on him, and his goatee hides a weak chin (he shaved it off once and I was horrified and he looked like he was about 12 years old!). But the first time I ever saw him he was practicing Taiji Chuan in the back yard of the house he shared with the friend I was going to visit. And I dug his ink too. I figured he'd be an interesting person to talk to because I'd just come back from living in China a couple years previous and still had an interest in Asian art and culture. Clearly, so did he. We hit it off. He's such a geek, we have so much in common, to the point where we can be a little clannish and cliquish when we're together in social settings. He's my best friend and I'm his and while I think he's good-looking, he's not Brad Pitt and I don't care.

Actually, I don't find Brad Pitt at all attractive. Hugh Laurie, David Duchovny, Michael C. Hall, yes now you're talking. I find Brad Pitt's looks to be sooooo boring.

 

[HoundedByHounds]

I dated a guy with quite simply the BEST hair I have ever seen...before or since. Amazing hair...LOL. random I know...but there it is!

 

[M&M's Mommy]

And like I said before, since I met the person I'm truly in love with, other people don't seem so attractive anymore. I honestly can't remember the last time I looked at somebody other than my husband (either on TV or in person), and thought "Oooh....he looks good."

This is so true. After I met my husband, suddenly he becomes the most handsome man on earth to me. Since then, I have not seen any man (actors included) and think for a second that he's better looking than my hubby

Maybe love is really blind?

 

[HoundedByHounds]

okay my hair comment JUST reminded me of that Seinfeld with Elaine dating the bald guy who shaved his head...she sees his ID and he has the BEST hair LOL. She says "I could be dating this hair?!"

*cackle*

 

[HoundedByHounds]

HAHA...I look at other men all the time. There's no WAY I am missing out on beauty just because I am married to someone I love. Shoot not notice...Hank Zetterberg...Nik Lidstrom? LORDY!

 

[houndlove]

Yeah, I gotta say, a select few other guys till make me tingly. But just unattainable movie/TV guys. In real life I can't even tell you the last time I met a guy who made me get all a-flutter. I still find the abstract idea of a fictional person attractive, but that does not translate in to real life because real life is real and in my real life I'm married and unavailable. But in my fictional life, well, the sky's the limit! I think having a rich fantasy life is healthy.

 

[HoundedByHounds]

Agreed.
I see beauty in real life people...male or female. It's something that comes from being a person who is arty, for me at least. I notice pretty things be they dog, cat, horse, human, etc.

Speaking of fantasy...NFL COMBINE STARTS THE 23RD. Beefcake central ladies! NFL Network!

 

[darkchild16]

Ok... be HONEST.

It's all good and well to say "personality" but in reality, looks are what immediately attracts people together... then you get to know them and think either YAY! or NAY!

Is your OH the ideal you had in your head? Did you have an ideal? How do they measure up? Does their personality over-shadow the fact that they aren't Brad Pitt/female equivilant

Do you balance everything out?

Would you sacrifice one very good person, for a good one who you LUSTED after hugely?

The first time I really saw Josh in any other way then a guy I grew up with was when he was riding a bull at one of the rodeos I was in *DROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL*
That is something I will never forget LOL. But I had already known him for quite a while anyway so I knew his personality.

To me I findbull riders and that body type EXTREMELY attractive. Heck my dream guy in looks would be Justin McBride he is one sexy man LOL. So I geuss you could say Josh is the type of guy I normally go for and the ideal type of person (good ol country boy).

He is one of the sexiest guys I have ever met. Even when we werent together could I find a guy I thought was sexier then him and I still cant. And like someone said earlier Brad Pitt Heck Im glad hes not Brad Pitt LOL. But the way he is and everything about him does overshadow Justin McBride.

AND HELL NO!!! Id take personality over anything any day.

 

[nancy2394]

When I was younger looks were the most important to me. There were a few guys that weren't very good looking but had a great personality but I never gave them a chance because they didn't meet my standard I had as a boyfriend. Yes, I was shallow back then when I thought I was all that.

When I met TJ he was cute, but older than me. He had a great body which was a huge plus considering most of the high school kids were not very buff back then. TJ was NOT my type by any means but I decided to give him a whirl because he was they bad type that no parent wanted their child to date and I had no parents telling me what to do because I was on my own at 17. I felt like I was a bad arse going out with him..lol

Now... 19 years later, he ended up not only balancing out.. but he is the whole package deal. He's good looking, still has a relatively nice body (minus the slight love handles), he's got a great personality, and he's a genuine caring and loving person. I couldn't ask for a better soul mate.

 

[houndlove]

Speaking of fantasy...NFL COMBINE STARTS THE 23RD. Beefcake central ladies! NFL Network!

No thank you. The beefcake type is so not up my alley. The rest of you ladies can have the jocks, they just do not do it for me. Never have. I'm more of a sensitive poet with the intense eyes sitting in the corner of the coffee shop reading Whitman type.