You seem to have narrowed your list down
Lol yup.. :rofl1: It's even worse considering I'm pretty sure I won't be having kids.. at least these names also transfer to pet names! hehe
Oh and reasons I will probably
not be having kids personally (other than the whole fertility issue/not being ABLE to have them lol )
- World is over-populated.. I don't see the need.
- They are expensive
- The shift from husband/wife -> Mommy/daddy just doesn't appeal to me
- Birth. just. no.
- I like to Travel, internationally, a lot and sometimes at random. It's just not possible with kids most of the time.
- Spend as much on my hobbies/shopping/pets with no regret lol
- I am pretty OCD about things being clean/being in-order
- Diapers. yuck.
- I like to sleep. Sleep in, sleep late, sleep through the night lol
- I kind of like my body the way it is..
- Free time
- All the health issues/behavioral issues kids can have.. that really scares me. So many things can go wrong!
- I can pursue my career 100% and be able to move around and follow it wherever it takes me,however many hours it takes me.
- A lot easier keeping the romance in the relationship when you have all that extra free time/money/privacy IMO
- I can decorate any way that I please without worrying about child-proofing/break ables.
- I will have the extra time and energy to exercise regularly and take care of my outward appearance... no matter how long it takes lol not saying parents don't do this.. but yea, it's not going to be as high a priority when you have kids and I like that I CAN without feeling bad take all that time to just focus on something as relatively unimportant as outward appearance.
- Not have to worry about driving a car/getting a car that fits children/car seats
- Can keep the city lifestyle I so love including the apartment/condo without worrying about extra bedrooms, school systems, etc..
- Quiet. Peace and quiet.
- I don't like touching snot, poop, pee and other grossities.
- I'm not very patient with tantrums/screaming/misbehaving children.. they make me want to scream and break things.
- Date nights/going out without worrying about babysitters/bringing the kid along.
- I tend to like restaurants that aren't child friendly
- The idea of ever getting divorced (which is common especially with the stress that kids bring on) and having to deal with bouncing kids back/forth and raising a child by myself
- Being able to do things one wouldn't normally do in a home with a child. Like have sex on the kitchen table. or walk around in my undies lol
- Not have to worry about being a role model all the time.
- I am a planner. It's what I do. I know I would never ever take the plunge unless I am 100% prepared, like, that kid will pop out of the womb with the best of everything, best schools paid for, college fund in place, perfect schedule.. and it's impossible to be 100% prepared, with so many things that can go wrong I know I will probably never feel ready enough to be like "ok lets do this!"
-But more than anything.. that bond just isn't there. People always say things like "Oh it's different when it's yours" but honestly, I am not willing to take that chance. What if it isn't? What if I resent this kid? I don't like children in general.
I like playing with some kids, I like reading to some kids.. but that isn't enough for me to be like "OH IM SUCH A KID PERSON I SHOULD HAVE SOME!"
Even if there is only a 0.00000001% chance that I will have this kid and feel regrets and resent having a child because I now can't do something I want to do, then no. It's not worth it to me. and not fair to the kid.
I've met kids whose parents don't want them/whose parents were pressured into having them and it's just..sad. for everyone involved.
Reasons I would consider it..
- The Jcrew kids catalog is really cute
- If my significant other REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted one and we could afford a good nanny, private schooling and be able to start a college fund for him/her (and yes, this is a
deal breaker.)
- They are really cute when they are asleep
- Taking them to Disney
- Reading Story books to them
- Of course the curious side of me would totally be like "I wonder what our kids would look like.."
Obviously.. the lists aren't even enough for me to even put having kids into consideration.