My neighbors mom just died in Febuary. The dad was a wreck. Now 9 months later, he's getting married again. To a 24 year old woman, he's 42. They have only known each other for three months. Dont get me wrong I'm so happy for him and his family, but do you think he might be rushing it for him and his four kids?
Is it to soon?
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I think it's sad to move on so quickly, I don't think I could. I think that's also probably confusing for the children. However, it's really not that uncommon to get married that quickly after a spouse dies. For some, it's way of dealing with their grief.
The age thing is kind of odd. Then again my parents were 15 years apart
The age thing is kind of odd. Then again my parents were 15 years apart
I think it depends on the person. Some people get through the grieving process faster than others. It doesn't mean he didn't love his wife.
It's probably going to be upsetting for the kids, but . . . really . . . the dad is the one who is going to be married to the woman long after they have moved away to start their own lives (hopefully), it is his decision. I'm sure it would have been upsetting for them even if he'd waited longer.
Now, personally I would never marry someone I had known for only three months anyway. That's very unwise. But that's just me.
It's probably going to be upsetting for the kids, but . . . really . . . the dad is the one who is going to be married to the woman long after they have moved away to start their own lives (hopefully), it is his decision. I'm sure it would have been upsetting for them even if he'd waited longer.
Now, personally I would never marry someone I had known for only three months anyway. That's very unwise. But that's just me.
Lot of variables here.
How do you know they only met 3 months ago, maybe they knew each other and only started dating 3 months ago.
Could have been an affair during the marriage and they kept it quiet until now.
Maybe the marriage wasn't a happy one for quite some time and even though I am sure he grieved at her passing, it could be less grieving at losing a wife, and more grieving for his children losing their mother.
Could be lots of things..........
I say too soon is different for different people. I know people happily married for years and only knew each other for a few weeks before getting married, and I also know people who are divorced that dated and lived together for a total of 12 YEARS before getting married.
How do you know they only met 3 months ago, maybe they knew each other and only started dating 3 months ago.
Could have been an affair during the marriage and they kept it quiet until now.
Maybe the marriage wasn't a happy one for quite some time and even though I am sure he grieved at her passing, it could be less grieving at losing a wife, and more grieving for his children losing their mother.
Could be lots of things..........
I say too soon is different for different people. I know people happily married for years and only knew each other for a few weeks before getting married, and I also know people who are divorced that dated and lived together for a total of 12 YEARS before getting married.