Introducing Dog to new resident

[Invisible]

My aunt is getting divorced with her husband and coming to live with us until she came get an apartment. As much as I hate this she is family and we couldn't turn her away. She doesn't like dogs at all. Especially not big/black ones....go figure She thinks she can boss me around all the time when my parents aren't here, she doesn't like me at all. As she puts it I'm not her "real" family, since I was adopted. She drinks (parents don't drink at all) and she party's alot. She brings her girlfriends around her kids (even when she was still married) and starts "making out" right in front of them....Ok.........sorry about ranting. My real problem is introducing chief to her.
How would I go about introducing Chief to a new person?
He isn't aggressive, but he is very reserved and a little protective. I want to make sure that they have a good start. Even though she doesn't like dogs as long as my parents are there she will participate. So any thoughts about what to do to make thhings go smoothly? (at least as far as introducing her to chief......wait...I meant chief to her.... )

 

[Saje]

Ah Invisible. That sounds like a tough situation.

I think the best way to introduce your dog to her is on neutral territory. Try and get them both away from the house/yard if you can. I think that it's likely that your dog will react badly to your aunt. Dogs are sensitive and pick up on our emotions. And you and your aunt obviously have problems. Try to relax when you are around the two of them - for your dog. And from what you said, I get the impression that you don't trust your aunt around your pup when you are alone. If you can, try and avoid this situation.

I'm adopted too, Invisible. And believe me, my parents would not have tolerated ANYONE who suggested that I wasn't "real" family. That is a ridiculous, naive, childish comment and I don't blame you for ... not being fond of her. I really feel for you. It's hard to have someone like that in your home.

 

[Invisible]

I really want this to go as smoothly as possible. I'll try to remember to relax....to think happy thoughts.
I wouldn't trust her around any animal to tell you the truth. She is a little wacked. I swear she needs to be put on medication or something. She is totally different when she's around my parents than she is around me. I'm going to be either in my room or outside somewhere (both cases with chief) when she comes. She is suppose to come soon, but don't know exactly when. Probably this week sometime.
When she said the thing about me not being her "real" family my parents went bazerk on her! lol But I heard her and know how she feel's. Can't erase that now.

But I'll try to stay calm.....for chiefs sake.

 

[Invisible]

Anything else I can do along with relaxing and introducing on neutral ground?

 

[Saje]

Well. I'm glad your parents are supportive of you. You don't always get that with some parents!

I know that Mikey is an excellent judge of characters. The other two don't really evaluate people like he does. He doesn't like people that I don't like. He's not mean or anything just distant. I think it's pretty special

I have to go to bed. But I'll talk to you more about this later if you want. You're a smart person. You'll be fine. And if you have any problems or are worried than talk to your parents!

 

[Invisible]

Well. I'm glad your parents are supportive of you. You don't always get that with some parents!

I know that Mikey is an excellent judge of characters. The other two don't really evaluate people like he does. He doesn't like people that I don't like. He's not mean or anything just distant. I think it's pretty special

I have to go to bed. But I'll talk to you more about this later if you want. You're a smart person. You'll be fine. And if you have any problems or are worried than talk to your parents!

Thank you, have a good nite TTYL

 

[BigDog2191]

Hey man,

that's totally inappropriate for her to say. Out of line, if you ask me. I'm glad your parents went berserk on her. My dad would've done the same--probably never even talked to her again.

Um... if you can, avoid her at all times. You shouldn't be around someone like that and if you can, talk to your parents about your feelings.

 

[Invisible]

Oh beleive me I will be avoiding her!
She is my moms older sister and they were really close. She doesn't want to leave her out on the street, and I understand that. They already know I don't like her, but they don't know exactly how much. They know she can be bossy, but they don't understand how bossy she is. She usually acts like a normal person around them, but with me she is just mean.

 

[BigDog2191]

Are you a girl or a boy?

I'm just wondering... there's a girl in your profile pic...

 

[Invisible]

girl..

 

[Invisible]

I should probably change that picture, it might offend someone.

 

[BigDog2191]

Why would it offend anyone...?

 

[Invisible]

Why would it offend anyone...?

I don't know, but better safe than sorry. I'll just get a different picture.

 

[Fran27]

Wow you're nicer than I am. I would never have accepted to let her stay with me if she's such a *****. Good luck.

 

[Invisible]

Wow you're nicer than I am. I would never have accepted to let her stay with me if she's such a *****. Good luck.

Thank you , but it was my parents dissiscion not mine.

 

[Renee750il]

You really need to have a sit down with your parents and tell them how she has treated you in the past and ask them to set some ground rules for her. They also really need to give her a time limit for staying. And, if you haven't already, let them know you heard her snarky remark. I have a feeling if your aunt knows your parents know how she acts toward you and knows she won't get by with bullying she won't want to stay for very long.

I'd try my best to never leave Chief alone when she's there.

The hardest part is going to be keeping your cool so Chief won't feel he needs to protect you from her.

Remember, you can vent to us here any time. If you don't want to do it publicly, feel free to use my e-mail. I'm sure Saje - and plenty of others - feel the same way.

 

[Saje]

Yup! Email me or PM anytime. I'll have IM in a few weeks again, if you use it.

 

[BigDog2191]

Yeah, I've been wondering where you've been on IM, Saje...but I remembered about your computer.

 

[Invisible]

Thanks
They arleady told her no drinking or making out with girlfriends at our house. I've told them before that she is really mean and bossy, but they just don't get it. They say "I know, I'll talk to her" They tell her that she isn't the boss when they are gone, but it doesn't seem to matter. Maybe it's just her personality to be bossy, I don't know.
Chief won't EVER be alone with her if I have a say in it!!! I don't trust her one bit, and I don't want anything bad happening.
Like you said, Keeping calm is going to be the hardest part.

 

[Saje]

A couple more weeks BigDog!!!

I'm glad you've talked to them Invisible.