At the age of 9 I was sexually assualted by my 18 year old brother. No one believed me it happened, let alone he did it. The police were called the second time it happened but I was too afraid to say anything and it was passed off as i was lying about experimenting with my younger brother's friend who was over. My brother is now nearly 30 and after years of my mother telling me I'm wrong, she didn't believe me and to stop lying and ruining her life he came up to her and said he was the one who did it and wants to talk to me about it.
I have no idea how to feela bout it. I havep ut it behind me the best I can. I still wake up in a panic nearly every night when someone is in bed with me thinking I'm getting voilated. I will randomly bawl during sex, I have a very unhealethy relationship around sexual activity (seek out really mean partners)... it's a lot to deal with. I thought it was done and over with until this got dragged up again and now I realized I need to go to therapy for it.
You are not alone in this. People are horrible to sexual assault victims. If you ever want to talk to someone who can relate I am here for you. I relate entirely. My brother is in the mitliatry. He is also considered a **** war hero and yet he did that to me. He's expecting his first child two days before I am due with my second and his long term girlfriend doesn't know. It's just a big old secret that is coming back up.
*hugs* you have all my support in the world.
worst part is my mom was a rape victim all throughout her childhood. Her father was her abuser and she refuses to acknowledge any of it still even with my brother admiting to it.