Do you want a kid/kids?
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No, not at all, not even a teensy bit.
Honestly when I see how much money kids cost all I can think is 'I could feed and house a horse for that much. I like horses hmmmm' :rofl1:
I had a much younger brother who I got to pretty well raise so I kind of have this been there and done that feeling about kids.
Honestly when I see how much money kids cost all I can think is 'I could feed and house a horse for that much. I like horses hmmmm' :rofl1:
I had a much younger brother who I got to pretty well raise so I kind of have this been there and done that feeling about kids.
I'm okay being around kids (or, relative's kids, not the general public's 
). There is no way in hell I would ever, ever have kids. I'm dead set against it. Absolutely not.
I'm just not willing to give up my lifestyle for kids. The birthing process sounds horrible, scares me. I enjoy being able to decide I need to go to the store-and walk out the door 5 minutes later. I'm sure there are benefits that outweigh these things for people, but not for me! I have serious doubts about my ability to conceive, anyway.
). There is no way in hell I would ever, ever have kids. I'm dead set against it. Absolutely not.I'm just not willing to give up my lifestyle for kids. The birthing process sounds horrible, scares me. I enjoy being able to decide I need to go to the store-and walk out the door 5 minutes later. I'm sure there are benefits that outweigh these things for people, but not for me! I have serious doubts about my ability to conceive, anyway.
You have definitely done that
Not just with me, but with others here, I am sure.
<3 I love my Chazzer mommy
Not just with me, but with others here, I am sure.
<3 I love my Chazzer mommy
You all humble me with how you have struggled through so many different things. You did the hard part -- I just listened, and love you guys, no matter what. You all made the choices and some of them were so hard -- and so brave.
I voted yes I want kids. I love kids. Some of them get on my nerves but that's because they aren't brought up correctly. I really really want kids of my own. One or two. I think children are so ... Idk. Inspiring or something. I think children are beautiful and sure some can be obnoxious but you have to teach them right and wrong, just like a dog (only its far more important with children). I've always had a motherly instinct (I mean I HAVE wanted to be a dog breeder since I was like 6).
A friend from church was injured badly, and was on bed rest for months and nearly everyday my sister and i would watch her little girl (she's 3) and honestly it's like she's mine. She listens to me better than her mom. She always runs to me when we see her at church and she wants me or my sister to hold her all the time. We became really close and honestly even though I see her at least 3 times a week at church, I really miss being with her almost daily. I truly feel like she's partially mine and that she sees me not as a mom necessarily, but as someone important in her life who's helped raise her. I just love when she reaches up at me to hold her and when she falls asleep in my arms or on my lap. And I just want that for my own someday.
A friend from church was injured badly, and was on bed rest for months and nearly everyday my sister and i would watch her little girl (she's 3) and honestly it's like she's mine. She listens to me better than her mom. She always runs to me when we see her at church and she wants me or my sister to hold her all the time. We became really close and honestly even though I see her at least 3 times a week at church, I really miss being with her almost daily. I truly feel like she's partially mine and that she sees me not as a mom necessarily, but as someone important in her life who's helped raise her. I just love when she reaches up at me to hold her and when she falls asleep in my arms or on my lap. And I just want that for my own someday.
I feel I could go my entire life without having children and be just fine. I used to take over 100% of the child care with my cousin when she was young, gave her mom a break for the duration of our visit and that sort of got the urge out of me. Juliette was an easy kid and I really enjoyed her, but I know I"m more suited to being the cool cousin/aunt/whatever. My love of sufficient sleep, being able to have hobbies and a social life are pretty driving forces for the NO SPAWN category. There are other reasons as well.
However, the OH wants kids. So...yeah. I have no idea how this is going to pan out.
However, the OH wants kids. So...yeah. I have no idea how this is going to pan out.
Also, I seem to not get along well with babies. I'm hoping when I have my own infant it will be different (I LOVE raising bottle baby kittens, so...), but other people's infants I don't want anything to do with. I don't want to hold it, I don't want to play with it, I just don't want to interact with it. I don't know how to interact with it and I just find it incredibly awkward. Once the hit the toddler stage, though, I love them. When I babysit, that is probably my favorite age. I think it is because I can verbally communicate with them. So I told my mom that when I have kids, she'll get them when they're infants (she LOVES babies) and then when they start talking I'll take them back. LOL
That was our relationship. I was VERY clear with Zach when we were dating that I did not want kids. He did. I told him I could change my mind at 30 (I can't predict the future), but I was certain at this point in time I didn't want them, and if we got married he was accepting that he was okay not having kids.
We've been married for nearly 4 years now. I still don't want kids, and he's come around, realizing that our life is pretty darn good the way it is right now. Plus, watching all our church friends have babies this year has really, REALLY reinforced to me how much I don't want them, and he's seen how uncomfortable and unhappy I am around them and doesn't want to do that to me.
I still might get my brain sucked out by aliens one night and decide that I want a kid, but at this point I'm doubting it.
We've been married for nearly 4 years now. I still don't want kids, and he's come around, realizing that our life is pretty darn good the way it is right now. Plus, watching all our church friends have babies this year has really, REALLY reinforced to me how much I don't want them, and he's seen how uncomfortable and unhappy I am around them and doesn't want to do that to me.
I still might get my brain sucked out by aliens one night and decide that I want a kid, but at this point I'm doubting it.
I want kids eventually. I'm hoping that by next year we'll be in the right financial/emotional state of mind but I am having a REALLY hard time resisting the baby pull. I know at least six people that are prego right now and there are two that just had babies. And one of them is the CUTEST THING EVAR and is so chill and quiet and calm....I call him DangerBaby cause he is obviously not the norm but he's so freaking cool.
I do worry that I'll feel the same way about small babies that I do about puppies - do they do anything but eat and poop and sleep in the beginning? I really disliked Mu for the first three months of her life and I'm pretty sure that's all I'll get for mat leave - I'll have to go back to work just when I start liking my kid. :rofl1:
I do worry that I'll feel the same way about small babies that I do about puppies - do they do anything but eat and poop and sleep in the beginning? I really disliked Mu for the first three months of her life and I'm pretty sure that's all I'll get for mat leave - I'll have to go back to work just when I start liking my kid. :rofl1:
I voted already have kids (obviously) I had one unplanned, and then of course I fell in love with a man who had 3 little ones and was widowed. We (mostly HE) wanted the youngest to tie our family together and by then I figured what's one more? LOL
I don't regret having kids, I love each one of them. They are each individuals who have made me proud, driven me nuts, tried my patience, made me laugh, cry, and worried me and I wouldn't trade a single memory.
Know what I tell my kids? If you think, even for a minute, that you don't want kids..........DON'T have them. Be certain yourself and don't let someone else decide it for you. It's a life long committment, not just 18 years, a parent never stops being one.
Is there an age the doctor has said they would agree to do it? I have heard other women say they had the same issue and were told to wait until they were 25, 30, etc so I was wondering if you were told similar.
Frankly, I call BS...........if you went to a doctor with $$ at say age 20 and said you COULDN'T get pregnant and wanted to, they'd be all over it and help you any way they could. Reverse it and they are sure you'll change your mind and cry malpractice or something If you did change your mind later, (not you, just general 'you') TOO BAD.......not doctor's fault, adopt instead!
I don't regret having kids, I love each one of them. They are each individuals who have made me proud, driven me nuts, tried my patience, made me laugh, cry, and worried me and I wouldn't trade a single memory.
Know what I tell my kids? If you think, even for a minute, that you don't want kids..........DON'T have them. Be certain yourself and don't let someone else decide it for you. It's a life long committment, not just 18 years, a parent never stops being one.
I've said I didn't want kids since I was 13. I'm almost 25 now and have been begging Drs. to let me get my tubes tied for years.. they still won't do it!
Frankly, I call BS...........if you went to a doctor with $$ at say age 20 and said you COULDN'T get pregnant and wanted to, they'd be all over it and help you any way they could. Reverse it and they are sure you'll change your mind and cry malpractice or something
If you did change your mind later, (not you, just general 'you') TOO BAD.......not doctor's fault, adopt instead!