Random Baby Urges?

I have not had this happen (yet?). But I know for a lot of people it just happens at some point. I'm wondering if this happened to you, what age was it at? I am 24, and so far the though of having kids is just a terrifying and bad one.

Every once in a while I will have a moment where I think it sounds like a good idea lol. But not very often, and they don't last long. I think in my case it's mostly situational though.

Nope, dead inside. No part of any thing child related sparks any thing in me, so it's an interesting, foreign thing to hear people talk about.

Not until I was 25ish and all my friends from college started having kids - before then I really didn't think I wanted to have any. I started doing some research to understand/explore some of my feelings, was active on a mom's board, etc. The more serious urges went away after about a year, but still resurface periodically. DH also has had some pangs in the last few years, which really surprised him - I found that kind of endearing.

DH and I will likely get serious about adding a munchkin to our family at the end of 2014, which seemed so long ago when we first discussed it in 2010, but now seems to be almost here. It's a really odd feeling! When I think we could actually have a kid 2 years from now....crazy.

My mom has told me that she never was much of a kid person, but that having her own was totally different and I think I'm similar in some respects. I take a while to get comfortable around kids, but once I am, enjoy interacting. Being responsible for one still alternates in my head between "eeeek scary" to "awesome". lol

A good friend of mine is my parenting role model because she's very similar to me, just a few years older, and I asked her one day how she felt when she saw the first positive pregnancy test - she said she was utterly terrified, despite having been trying for a kid for about a year. That made me feel better, oddly enough.

Yep. Not sure if it is really age related, though. I was super super against kids. I know I've been on here several times telling everyone I DO NOT WANT KIDS. EVER.

Then suddenly I divorce Jin and it occurs to me that I can have kids if I want to. He didn't want any and I think it was more of a "don't want kids with him" type of thing. Current SO is older, a stepfather, and already wants kids. So it just intensified eveything. Magnified more when I became that "Other Mom" figure. I want to pursue a career as a doula too.

SO says he can't sleep at night because the ticking noise keeps him awake...lol.

But this isn't the time or place in my life to have kids right now.

I also think meeting someone you could imagine reproducing with is also a factor in the decision making.... Enough to change minds!

I've been with my SO for over 7 years now and I think he would be a great father. Logically, we'd be great parents and there is no reason why we shouldn't have children. But in reality, the idea just really doesn't appeal to me in the slightest. Me and children just don't click at all, and while I know that if I had my own, obviously I would love it, I just feel no desire to have one whatsoever. He is pretty impartial. He doesn't seem to want children, but I think if I decided that I did, he'd get into it.

However, I know that there are lots of people who felt this way and then suddenly, bam, clock starts ticking and you really want a child. So I'm open to that happening if it happens. That's why I was curious at what age that has happened to people. I have often heard early 30s is a common time.

I'm 32. Tick tock, tick tick

There is that realisation that my body actually WON'T do what I want it to forever.... And sometimes it takes not months but YEARS to conceive.... And in YEARS I will be mid 30s or even nearly 40s and then.... I don't know....

Tick tock...

I don't doubt some people just don't want kids though.... But for me it's as much about investing in the future as having a cute baby. I actually don't really like the 8 - 14 age range much ( and yes I work with kids!!) but I'm sure my own will be amazeballs lol.

I felt a huge urge to have a kid a few months ago. My grandmother died, SO and I lived together... I felt like everyone else was having kids. I also probably can't have children without help.
I didn't really want kids but feeling like that choice was ripped from me... made me want one. I really want a little girl.

Then SO and I broke up. I feel like he might be a good dad or a really shitty one. I treat Gwen as a trainer kid. He never did. And he would do things that would make me question having a child with him.

Also I'm too freaking young. I want to be able to legally do all.the things before reproducing.

I'm 27, Zach is 28. We've been married five years. We own a house, have stable jobs, have traveled the world, enjoy staying home on Friday nights...logically, it's time to have a kid. But ugh, I don't want one. I like working full time, I like having the energy to devote to my needy students, I like feeling like I'm making a difference for these high risk kiddos. If I had a kid, realistically I wouldn't be able to keep my job. I wouldn't have the time or energy to teach them the way they deserve.

It's summer now, so every once in a while I'm like, "yeah, we could do this", but I know once I go back to work in a few weeks reality will kick in and I'll be extremely anti-baby again.

Sooo...no urges yet. A lessening of the "omg my life will end if I get pregnant" maybe, but that's not really a desire. And I still can't stand babies or toddlers at all. I don't really like kids until 10 or so.

At times. Currently, I'm quite happy with my friends' kids, being the Aunt.

Honestly, I don't like babies. I... Don't see the joy in holding a baby, and doing... Nothing. It,s kind of like how I don't really want a pet other than ferrets, cats or dogs... I want to do be able to do something with my pets. LOL Once they hit 9 or 10 months or so, when they start, like, doing things, I'll take them. I really like them around 2... When nobody rlse wants them

I can't wait until my body stops "doing what is should" so to speak. In fact if a doctor ever have me the whole "I'm sorry but you will never be able to have kids" I'd probably hug him lol.

But even in the event of that, I still plan to use protection until I am sure I am not uh ... Receptive anymore

I've always wanted to be a mom, even when I was a teen I guess (though didn't want to have them right then for logical reasons).

So I'm really glad to have my two. Kind of bummed they'll be my only two, but I'm grateful for them. Sometimes I get hit with babywant. My son is turning two next week and it recently hit me that he's not a baby anymore.

There's a lady at church with a baby that totally reminds me of when my kids were babies, and it renewed my baby want again. lol. Not gonna happen though.

This is me too lol.

At the moment, none at ALL lol. I am only 22, not in a relationship, still living at home, and still trudging through college. I have SOOOO many plans and things I want to do before children. I have noticed quite a few people from my graduating class are having babies and it always just makes me be like "UGH" because I can't even imagine having a kid right now. Honestly, just, no. And to be honest, I am not even 100% sure I want kids. Adoption is something I've thought about before having my own. But again, it could easily change. 10 years down the road, I will hopefully be at a better place in my life, so I am sure my feelings will change especially if I'm with the right guy. Working in a daycare will also turn anyone off to kids, LOL... I used to like them a lot more before I started working there. But really, no, I do like kids -- I just like giving them back more. And being brought up with younger siblings (oldest was 10yrs apart, youngest is 18yrs apart), I've had my fair share of motherly duties already. A part of me is kind of excited to move out on my own and know what it's like to live in a house without a young child.

This is so much awesome.

Nope. No kids, ever. I'm almost 26, I do not want children.

What do you guys think about this? When I read stuff like this...it bothers me. I wouldn't ever want to be like that.
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/..._you_re_having_a_baby_do_not_get_a_puppy.html

Eww, that article...I don't think that line of thinking really happens if you truly value your dog. Certainly didn't with my parents. If anything, my Mum's golden retriever kept her sane when we were little ones.

I have seen that article play out amongst numerous friends and acquaintances. Even what I would consider hardcore dog lovers (one is a vet, one owns a natural pet store). Yet another reason I don't want a child right now...I want to believe I'd still value time with Lucy and still play agility, but it's not a risk I want to take.

I've wanted kids since forever. Sometimes it's a more intense longing, and sometimes its an eh.