Ok I don't even want to talk about how horrible this is and what a crappy situation. You already know that.
Some thoughts.
Why don't you try switching your approach completely. Treat your step-dad like his opinions count. Allow him to tell you how he thinks it can be done and then say that this is a good learning opportunity for you and you would like to try it your way. Ask him if he will help you and if you can approach him with some ideas. A lot of men/adults like to feel they have control over the situation and this will help him feel like he has control. In theory, it will also let him feel like he is doing something right by you. Annoying, eh? But if it works... Then be thoroughly prepared with a plan. I think your plan should include reconditioning for crate training. There have been some good posts on here about helping dogs readjust to crate training. I think that if you can make it a happy place for him it might work out all around. I'm not 100% confident he will accept it though SO I recommend you PM one of our more knowledgable members (dober, doc...) and have them work out a plan with you.
On a side note. There are many, many people I would like to smack on the head to get them to pay attention lol. But, it doesn't actually work. As rewarding as it is in the moment it actually works against you. It'll get you in trouble and you'll have less say it what happens. You won't appear responsible. And right now you need all the advantages you can get.
I hope that helps.
Some thoughts.
Why don't you try switching your approach completely. Treat your step-dad like his opinions count. Allow him to tell you how he thinks it can be done and then say that this is a good learning opportunity for you and you would like to try it your way. Ask him if he will help you and if you can approach him with some ideas. A lot of men/adults like to feel they have control over the situation and this will help him feel like he has control. In theory, it will also let him feel like he is doing something right by you. Annoying, eh? But if it works... Then be thoroughly prepared with a plan. I think your plan should include reconditioning for crate training. There have been some good posts on here about helping dogs readjust to crate training. I think that if you can make it a happy place for him it might work out all around. I'm not 100% confident he will accept it though SO I recommend you PM one of our more knowledgable members (dober, doc...) and have them work out a plan with you.
On a side note. There are many, many people I would like to smack on the head to get them to pay attention lol. But, it doesn't actually work. As rewarding as it is in the moment it actually works against you. It'll get you in trouble and you'll have less say it what happens. You won't appear responsible. And right now you need all the advantages you can get.
I hope that helps.