Would you..... for those of us with human kids...
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I don't have any kids yet.. But if you were flat out told that no you couldn't go, uh then no way. That's nuts. Only reason a parent wouldn't be allowed somewhere a child is going is because whoever is running it doesn't want the parent to know what's going on, and I can't imagine any scenario with that being a good thing.
My kids don't play at another house if
1. I don't know the parents (at least I have to have met them)
2. The parents (or other responsible adult) will not be there
I'm relaxing a bit on the teenager (she's 13 now anyway) but with my younger one, I have to know. I actually told her yesterday that she couldn't play with two specific kids without an adult present - even if it's outside where they generally run about a bit unsupervised. Those two kids are troublemakers.
1. I don't know the parents (at least I have to have met them)
2. The parents (or other responsible adult) will not be there
I'm relaxing a bit on the teenager (she's 13 now anyway) but with my younger one, I have to know. I actually told her yesterday that she couldn't play with two specific kids without an adult present - even if it's outside where they generally run about a bit unsupervised. Those two kids are troublemakers.
Not ALLOWED to be there or just weren't asked to be there?
I would need to know the circumstances behind it.
But if hannah was going to someone's house to play I wouldn't always be tagging along but if the parents told me I flat out was NOT "allowed" to be present then that is a no go. I may not WANT to be there but I am ALWAYS ALWAYS allowed where my child goes whether you like it or not
I would need to know the circumstances behind it.
But if hannah was going to someone's house to play I wouldn't always be tagging along but if the parents told me I flat out was NOT "allowed" to be present then that is a no go. I may not WANT to be there but I am ALWAYS ALWAYS allowed where my child goes whether you like it or not
My ex's kids are having birthdays this month.... they want my son (8 years old) to come to a Wii party. I was told I am not allowed to go. My ex will be the only adult and there will be three children in attendance aside from my son.
I would be fine with it.... except.... this man took to shutting my son in CLOSETS for time outs and then sitting on him in the closet if my son screamed or kicked or hit trying to get out of the closet.
Now you see why I am not with the man anymore.
I consider this a safety issue. I don't allow my son where he isn't safe. Now if I could go, or some other adult were going to be there, then fine. But it's just him.
If this were a "you can't go cause we're making something cool for mommies" thing... cool.
I would be fine with it.... except.... this man took to shutting my son in CLOSETS for time outs and then sitting on him in the closet if my son screamed or kicked or hit trying to get out of the closet.
Now you see why I am not with the man anymore.
I consider this a safety issue. I don't allow my son where he isn't safe. Now if I could go, or some other adult were going to be there, then fine. But it's just him.
If this were a "you can't go cause we're making something cool for mommies" thing... cool.
I don't think it's common for parents to stay at birthday parties here either (unless they are using the time for some adult interaction with their friends lol) but to be forbidden from attending? that would really make me wonder why they are so adamant that I not be there. I have no problem leaving my child at a playdate or whatever but nobody tells me I am not ALLOWED to be where my kid is
Here's my perspective. I'm 16.
Our SGA for a Christmas party had the "No adults" thing. It's for kids 6th-12th grade. BUT, we had one adult there and she was our advisor for our SGA.
See, some of our kids don't act the same as if there parents were there. And we actually had to tell one dad to leave.
ETA: Now I see why you don't want him to go by himself.
Our SGA for a Christmas party had the "No adults" thing. It's for kids 6th-12th grade. BUT, we had one adult there and she was our advisor for our SGA.
See, some of our kids don't act the same as if there parents were there. And we actually had to tell one dad to leave.
ETA: Now I see why you don't want him to go by himself.
In the situation you described, I definitely wouldn't allow the child to be there. That just sounds fishy.
But in general, if a child were invited over to my house for a playdate, I wouldn't expect, or want, the parent to remain there, hovering. If you don't trust the parent who's hosting enough to watch your kid on their own, you probably shouldn't allow the kid over at their house to begin with.
I don't know if this is how it still works, but when I was a kid playdates were spent playing dolls or ponies or imagination games in my friend's bedroom, basement, or in the backyard . . . The mom of the house would be easily accessible, but not staring at our every move. (This is at age 8 and up I'm talking about, not toddlers or REALLY little kids.) It seems like a good system to me.
But in general, if a child were invited over to my house for a playdate, I wouldn't expect, or want, the parent to remain there, hovering. If you don't trust the parent who's hosting enough to watch your kid on their own, you probably shouldn't allow the kid over at their house to begin with.
I don't know if this is how it still works, but when I was a kid playdates were spent playing dolls or ponies or imagination games in my friend's bedroom, basement, or in the backyard . . . The mom of the house would be easily accessible, but not staring at our every move. (This is at age 8 and up I'm talking about, not toddlers or REALLY little kids.) It seems like a good system to me.