Which is easier?
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We do anal regularly, like... every time. It's really not my thing but it's his #1 thing soooo... sometimes it feels great after we start, but I really have no desire for it in the first place, and sometimes it just sucks. It's really the only thing that I'm not crazy about in our sex life (or relationship in general really)
Hey, we do too, although it's not really a part of our relationship, just sex. Still!
Never ever for me, period. Sexually active for 4 years, a good variety of partners and skill levels. I hate SSRIs.
Hey, we do too, although it's not really a part of our relationship, just sex. Still!
There's another good TMI thing.
Never ever from someone else. Can only get off by myself.
Never ever from someone else. Can only get off by myself.
I don't mind either, really. Blowjobs are kind of fun. Lol. I like getting it, but it doesn't really do much for me.
DH was my first and only. I was his first. I lost my v-card at 17 iirc. LTR is the only sex I've ever had... We don't match drives very well, though, so I don't call it easy. I suppose sleeping on the same schedule and being home at night together would make things easier.
We have sex once a week... maybe less sometimes? Sometimes we will go a little crazy and have it twice in one day, or several times over a weekend.
We've tried one c-ring together... it was different. I got a less intense one to see if that will make a difference but haven't tried it out yet. I don't do anal.... freaks me out. Period sex I don't mind, but don't go down on me.
I have a dual action vibe that is my best friend. We meet generally 4-5x a week, more if no action in the bedroom with DH. Vibrator is the only way I can orgasm.
Doggy is my favorite position. I don't know if I would like BDSM... I kind of like the idea of bondage, but I've also got some issues with being physically restrained, so that may put a damper on it.
Another TMI thing... do you like to watch porn? I hate traditional porn, but sometimes will watch. I like the idea of feminist porn, but don't want to pay for it. Lol!
I was going to avoid this thread just in case work ever stalks me, but what the hell.
ETA: I do get a little bi when I'm drunk on whiskey (just ask Danielle)... I've had light lesbian sex in the past which I enjoyed, but I'm not open to a threeway or anything in our marriage and wouldn't go for a chick by myself as I look at that as cheating. I do think a lot of women are hot, though, and if I were single I may experiment more before making a decision either way.
DH was my first and only. I was his first. I lost my v-card at 17 iirc. LTR is the only sex I've ever had... We don't match drives very well, though, so I don't call it easy. I suppose sleeping on the same schedule and being home at night together would make things easier.
We have sex once a week... maybe less sometimes? Sometimes we will go a little crazy and have it twice in one day, or several times over a weekend.
We've tried one c-ring together... it was different. I got a less intense one to see if that will make a difference but haven't tried it out yet. I don't do anal.... freaks me out. Period sex I don't mind, but don't go down on me.
I have a dual action vibe that is my best friend. We meet generally 4-5x a week, more if no action in the bedroom with DH. Vibrator is the only way I can orgasm.
Doggy is my favorite position. I don't know if I would like BDSM... I kind of like the idea of bondage, but I've also got some issues with being physically restrained, so that may put a damper on it.
Another TMI thing... do you like to watch porn? I hate traditional porn, but sometimes will watch. I like the idea of feminist porn, but don't want to pay for it. Lol!
I was going to avoid this thread just in case work ever stalks me, but what the hell.
ETA: I do get a little bi when I'm drunk on whiskey (just ask Danielle)... I've had light lesbian sex in the past which I enjoyed, but I'm not open to a threeway or anything in our marriage and wouldn't go for a chick by myself as I look at that as cheating. I do think a lot of women are hot, though, and if I were single I may experiment more before making a decision either way.
I cat get myself off pretty easily but I rarely ever do. It just isn't as fun for me so I prefer not to.
As for oral I like both but I had a really negative experience that can get triggered by giving head. So it has to be entirely on my terms at the moment. I don't even want someone hinting at it because if I am not in the right head space it will shut me down.
As for porn I don't watch it on the regular because I don't really masturbate but if I am going to I like to. I am actually really into lesbian porn,
As for oral I like both but I had a really negative experience that can get triggered by giving head. So it has to be entirely on my terms at the moment. I don't even want someone hinting at it because if I am not in the right head space it will shut me down.
As for porn I don't watch it on the regular because I don't really masturbate but if I am going to I like to. I am actually really into lesbian porn,
I've tried a c-ring, I liked it. It was like a Wal-mart shelf one, I think one from a sex shop would be better, with like a raised vibration bullet thing? I'd like to try that.
I've never watched porn with a SO. I do by myself. I hate to admit this, it's going to sound psychotic... but I find the more porn I watch, the more crazy the porn has to be to get me interested. Nothing really illegal of course but serious BDSM, torture, violence-not even stuff I'd be interested in doing in real life, but I like to watch it in porn. Not into kids/animals/scat, pretty much anything else goesopcorn:.
I'm kind of like that, but I couldn't ever see myself dating or being in a relationship with a woman. Just sex. I've had sort of threesomes before, with one girl (back in my binge-drinking post high school days), though I don't think she was as into it. And I'm open to...bringing other people into the bedroom in a LTR, but not interested in 'polygamy'.
I don't really like the guy asking me to do it. I don't know why, haha. I feel better about it if I take the initiative and surprise him, orrr maybe if it was 'forced'.
I've never watched porn with a SO. I do by myself. I hate to admit this, it's going to sound psychotic... but I find the more porn I watch, the more crazy the porn has to be to get me interested. Nothing really illegal of course but serious BDSM, torture, violence-not even stuff I'd be interested in doing in real life, but I like to watch it in porn. Not into kids/animals/scat, pretty much anything else goes
opcorn:. I'm kind of like that, but I couldn't ever see myself dating or being in a relationship with a woman. Just sex. I've had sort of threesomes before, with one girl (back in my binge-drinking post high school days), though I don't think she was as into it. And I'm open to...bringing other people into the bedroom in a LTR, but not interested in 'polygamy'.
I don't really like the guy asking me to do it. I don't know why, haha. I feel better about it if I take the initiative and surprise him, orrr maybe if it was 'forced'.
I've tried a c-ring, I liked it. It was like a Wal-mart shelf one, I think one from a sex shop would be better, with like a raised vibration bullet thing? I'd like to try that.
Both have mine have come from Pure Romance. I think I'm really going to like the jelly c-ring, which is basically what you described and what I was recommended after the first didn't go so well.
I've never watched porn with a SO. I do by myself. I hate to admit this, it's going to sound psychotic... but I find the more porn I watch, the more crazy the porn has to be to get me interested. Nothing really illegal of course but serious BDSM, torture, violence-not even stuff I'd be interested in doing in real life, but I like to watch it in porn. Not into kids/animals/scat, pretty much anything else goesopcorn:.
Watched porn with DH once and it was just very awkward... I like watching by myself. Can you find hardcore stuff for free? Lol!
I'm kind of like that, but I couldn't ever see myself dating or being in a relationship with a woman. Just sex. I've had sort of threesomes before, with one girl (back in my binge-drinking post high school days), though I don't think she was as into it. And I'm open to...bringing other people into the bedroom in a LTR, but not interested in 'polygamy'.
I don't really like the guy asking me to do it. I don't know why, haha. I feel better about it if I take the initiative and surprise him, orrr maybe if it was 'forced'.
Both have mine have come from Pure Romance. I think I'm really going to like the jelly c-ring, which is basically what you described and what I was recommended after the first didn't go so well.
I've never watched porn with a SO. I do by myself. I hate to admit this, it's going to sound psychotic... but I find the more porn I watch, the more crazy the porn has to be to get me interested. Nothing really illegal of course but serious BDSM, torture, violence-not even stuff I'd be interested in doing in real life, but I like to watch it in porn. Not into kids/animals/scat, pretty much anything else goes
opcorn:. Watched porn with DH once and it was just very awkward... I like watching by myself. Can you find hardcore stuff for free? Lol!
I'm kind of like that, but I couldn't ever see myself dating or being in a relationship with a woman. Just sex. I've had sort of threesomes before, with one girl (back in my binge-drinking post high school days), though I don't think she was as into it. And I'm open to...bringing other people into the bedroom in a LTR, but not interested in 'polygamy'.
I don't really like the guy asking me to do it. I don't know why, haha. I feel better about it if I take the initiative and surprise him, orrr maybe if it was 'forced'.
No, I used to love it. Giving it isn't a problem in a LTR or with someone I know well. Receiving is outside of my comfort zone recently. I get really upset, and I'm not sure why. It's not enjoyable at all.
This. Times a thousand.
That's how I felt the first few times. You have to use clitoral stimulation for it to be fun. That changes the whole ball game. You'll probably orgasm 3x before he's even inside you. Although personally I'd start with gloved fingers, first. And lots of lube. You can never have too much lube. Buy some from Airn - PP's Revelation is amazing!
Not liking anal is one thing...and totally understandable...I find it just
However, there are nerve endings and feelings for sure....its not something just for the guy.
However, there are nerve endings and feelings for sure....its not something just for the guy.
That's how I felt the first few times. You have to use clitoral stimulation for it to be fun. That changes the whole ball game. You'll probably orgasm 3x before he's even inside you. Although personally I'd start with gloved fingers, first. And lots of lube. You can never have too much lube. Buy some from Airn - PP's Revelation is amazing!
Yes! We've got several kinds of lube. And c rings. (The progressor is a great starter one and the Lelo Tor 2 is amazing!) Nolu knows. And Zoom!
Until my hormones are 'normal' it's hard for me to want sex. My BC has messed up my already screwed sex drive. Totally prefer fingers to a penis, though.
The toys and all the Passion Parties stuff has really opened me up to trying things. (Warming lube is pretty interesting as well!) Buying PP products is addicting once you get started. And you guys are way more sexual than me!
Until my hormones are 'normal' it's hard for me to want sex. My BC has messed up my already screwed sex drive. Totally prefer fingers to a penis, though.
The toys and all the Passion Parties stuff has really opened me up to trying things. (Warming lube is pretty interesting as well!) Buying PP products is addicting once you get started. And you guys are way more sexual than me!
I like oral! Receiving more so than giving. I really have to be in the mood to give it and if I'm not I just can't get into it. Receiving, however, is pretty much always wonderful.
No desire ever for anal. Really hoping that isn't something DH wants to try, because I don't think I could do it and have any kind of enjoyment, at all.
I don't watch porn and DH cannot wrap my head around why I don't. I really don't find it enjoyable and it does nothing for me. Erotica, on the other hand...yes, please.
No desire ever for anal. Really hoping that isn't something DH wants to try, because I don't think I could do it and have any kind of enjoyment, at all.
I don't watch porn and DH cannot wrap my head around why I don't. I really don't find it enjoyable and it does nothing for me. Erotica, on the other hand...yes, please.
pretty much this. Like I said before, my ex wanted it all the time and it never got more enjoyable for me lol. I pretty much just waited for it to be over lol.
So glad hubby is not into that at all. It is just not my thing.
Oral is our thing lol. Both ways. it's pretty much how every romp starts out lol.
So glad hubby is not into that at all. It is just not my thing.
Oral is our thing lol. Both ways. it's pretty much how every romp starts out lol.
So I've been reading this thread but not really chimed in, but I bought I'd ask you guys about something.
My "thing" is being sexually dominated-this is something that I've only very recently discovered in my 30's. However, I feel a bit ashamed by it, that as a modern woman that is supposed to be in control of herself that being into this is weird and wrong. As you can imagine, I therefore have a lot of trouble "letting go" when I'm having sex, and I end up avoiding it all together. I trust DH and he's good with it-the problem is me...
Any ideas is how to be a bit less repressed?
My "thing" is being sexually dominated-this is something that I've only very recently discovered in my 30's. However, I feel a bit ashamed by it, that as a modern woman that is supposed to be in control of herself that being into this is weird and wrong. As you can imagine, I therefore have a lot of trouble "letting go" when I'm having sex, and I end up avoiding it all together. I trust DH and he's good with it-the problem is me...
Any ideas is how to be a bit less repressed?