Which is easier?

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LOL. ALL THE TMI questions. I am a bit behind.

Since we're doing TMI stuff, when did everyone lose their v-card? :p I was 17.
17 here, about halfway through the year. It wasn't a super pleasant experience, either. Some people are born being sexual, some people just aren't meant for it. Guy I was with was definitely one of those people, and never grew into it, either. It was just an awkward, sexually frustrating experience. And the sex never got better, either, even after we were married and together for 4+ years.

I somehow skipped over the "How Often" post, but I'm currently plenty active. Several times a week, often more than once a day. We usually have at least 2 Rounds. Round One gets the general itch satisfied, and Round Two is all fun.

Next TMI Q--- during menstruation - sex or no?
To quote a normal conversation between us:
"I just started bleeding."
"Well, you know I don't care."

It isn't a kink, fetish, or anything like that, we just don't care or pay attention to it. I usually don't bleed heavily anyway and it generally stops completely during sex, but even if I do, he doesn't care. Oral during sex I am sorta meh about, but it isn't a huge turn off or anything. More of an issue of *I* don't want him to look up and I am covered in period blood mouth and downwards. But he's all like, "I DON'T CARE" so....eh.

Let's add to this 'TMI' question thing. What's your kink/fetishes? :D
Anything goes, anywhere, any how. We are definitely not vanilla people. At all. We are into everything from bondage, BDSM, violence, anal, dirty/filth, public sex, threesomes, pretty much all the things. Experimentation is fun to us. Sex isn't the primary focus of our relationship, but it is fun and something we take seriously as a couple and as individuals.

Violence is a big one, though. We destroy things. Bruises and bitemarks are sometimes so common/overlooked, I rarely cover them up unless they are very obvious and inappropriate (like at work or something). I've choked him out, he's put a belt around my neck, it's a whatever thing. He is never getting his back tattoo because of the scar tissue. Threesomes are something we seek out with Unicorns (bi women who are comfortable with threesomes with a couple on a purely sexual basis), but something we go back and forth on due to BeAu's desire to be fair since I am Bi and he is not and he will not do another guy(plastic doesn't count, toys are welcome). And party due to women being barsexuals and not actually bisexual. Or wanting in on BeAu and not me, or generally trying to cause trouble between us. It is a tapdance to find a FWB like that.

But on the same flip of the coin, we can be gentle and loving and completely into only each other for stretches of time, too. It's all about mood, really, and it isn't like we would be super forceful or particular about a Unicorn's taste's either. But we are open people willing to try anything.

Which is weird, because after my relationship with Jin, I was all about NO SEX EVAH. I wasn't into it, I didn't want it, I didn't like it, I was perfectly happy not having it. BeAu changed that, definitely, and at first a bit too drastically. We went through a period of indecisiveness where I wanted to go out and do my own thing, but we developed a relationship outside of sex. So we just stuck to each other.

*shameless plug*

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LOL. Dork. Maybe I'll hit you up sometime. When $$ is available.

HAHA. I was all like, **** this, I'm having sex with dudes. And then I tried to make that happen and now I'm thinking I get girls a little better and am more turned on by them. But I'm also SUPER straightforward and blunt - that usually makes girls think a bit. "What's your sexual history like?" "When was the last time you were STD tested?" "What were the results?" "How do you feel about vibrators/____/_____/_____?" "What do you like?" "What don't you like?"

In retrospect, this might be why I've been told that I'm intimidating. :rolleyes:
I get it. Girls are sexier and way more fun, but guys can be more satisfying. Girls are more trifling and less open to CASUAL sex, guys are easier. Totally get it. I've become so tired of the tapdancing, that I'm pretty straightforward from the beginning. Doesn't do us any favors, but at least we aren't wasting our time, either. I'd do casual sex with guys, but me and BeAu are very much a "both of us, or neither" couple, and he isn't to guys. So it's out the window.


Nope. :p It's a personal taste thing, Paige. Everyone has a different comfort zone and sometimes those change. ****, in the last few months I've decided I'm not comfortable with anyone going down on me. Attempts have been met with some resistance, in fact. :rofl1
I go back and forth on it, really. I like it, I'm meh, I like it, I'm meh.
 

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Wow ... now I feel so ... ordinary and boring! LOL Sexy lingerie is about as "wild" as we get :lol-sign:
Lmao, you're not the only one...

I wouldn't consider us "vanilla" we are maybe Neapolitan, depends on how we feel and/ or how drunk / horny we are
 

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Shoot we are so vanilla with maybe a cookie piece or two in there lol. The most I would be willing to do is sex outside and in semi public places! That and the occasional sexy lingerie with heels or something like that. Though I don't like wearing heels because I am almost 5ft 10 barefooted lol.
 

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Yep, no one goes down on me either, it's a personal thing, I don't like it, and if think that's mostly because I can not relax enough TO enjoy it. I have tried, even in LTR and I just can't.
*Gasps* So I'm NOT the only one!
SO gets so freakin' offended when I say no, or try to get him to stop. "What am I doing wrong?" I just don't like it. "Well you must be the only girl in the world to say that" No. Clearly I'm not!
 

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*Gasps* So I'm NOT the only one!
SO gets so freakin' offended when I say no, or try to get him to stop. "What am I doing wrong?" I just don't like it. "Well you must be the only girl in the world to say that" No. Clearly I'm not!
:lol-sign: no you aren't the only one, I don't like either. I am not embarrassed of my body or uncomfortable about it, it's just not enjoyable to me. I don't "get off" from it. Plus I HATE giving it in return so if I don't get it then I don't have to get it, LOL.

OH also is like "I I am good at it if you'll just give me a chance.", I'm sure you are, dude but I. Don't. Like. It.

It's kind of like anal for me, anal is really IMO for the guy, because there are no "pleasure" nerve endings there as far as the girl is concerned :/
 

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I don't know about that anal feels awesome to me.


And I do not have an open relationship at all but people do think I'm abused a lot of the time. Not only are we into bdsm and multiple different ... Ugh... Quirky interests we also have a daddy/baby girl relationship that when people find out they think I'm brain washed
 

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I don't know about that anal feels awesome to me.


And I do not have an open relationship at all but people do think I'm abused a lot of the time. Not only are we into bdsm and multiple different ... Ugh... Quirky interests we also have a daddy/baby girl relationship that when people find out they think I'm brain washed
Hey ... To each their own, I don't judge, what people do in the privacy of their homes btw each other is their business.
 

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I don't walk around shouting it out because I do like some privacy but I'm really not in fear of judgment from others. Life is too short to care.

However its always nice to know people don't think I'm a total whacko when I do chime into conversations about my sex life/personal relationship dynamics. I find that when I do share some of the most unlikely people relate and open up too. So interest it to find out new things about people youd never expect it from
 

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I don't walk around shouting it out because I do like some privacy but I'm really not in fear of judgment from others. Life is too short to care.

However its always nice to know people don't think I'm a total whacko when I do chime into conversations about my sex life/personal relationship dynamics. I find that when I do share some of the most unlikely people relate and open up too. So interest it to find out new things about people youd never expect it from
Lol no, I don't think you are a total wacko at all and anyone who does needs to get a grip, what you do in your life doesn't effect there's :/

I actually admire relationships like yours, where two people can voice their fantasies, fetishes and desires openly :)
 

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*Gasps* So I'm NOT the only one!
SO gets so freakin' offended when I say no, or try to get him to stop. "What am I doing wrong?" I just don't like it. "Well you must be the only girl in the world to say that" No. Clearly I'm not!
I don't care much for oral either. Giving and getting...honestly, neither contribute much to my arousal :p. And that's not to say I don't ever do either, but I would prefer not to.

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It's kind of like anal for me, anal is really IMO for the guy, because there are no "pleasure" nerve endings there as far as the girl is concerned :/
I disagree, I really do enjoy it. I do think it is something you need to be open to from the get-go, and that you are not going to enjoy it if you don't want to do it. If you've never done it before, it is not like when the guy 'misses' :p. That is painful. Anal is fantastic, IMO. :p
 
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Not liking anal is one thing...and totally understandable...I find it just :eek:

However, there are nerve endings and feelings for sure....its not something just for the guy.
 

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I can orgasm from just anal in a grand total of 15 seconds. Other sexual stimulation takes forever.
 
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Ya it's not that I've never done anal, it's just not for me, but hey I'm not going to judge someone for doing it, or other things, what happens between consenting adults is all good in my books. Heck I think polygamy should be legal, as long as the people going into it are of age, let them do it.
 

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