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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
 

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Marriage for sure. Pretty much available at any time and with kids... Sometimes it can be risky, which is fun LOL like quickies when you pray she won't get distracted
From her tv show LOL. Someone who knows my exact combination and I am totally uninhibited with is no comparison am even when I am at my most unattractive he's still game lol. Plus the emotional connection just takes it to another level
 

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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
It depends. We don't have any set schedule but my cycle determines a lot of it lol. Early on, everyday until my lady parts need a break... Things get sore lol. PMS time it's less because I'm bloated, cranky and my back hurts
 

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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
R and I are the opposite, I could go twice a day every day, he's more 1-2x/week kinda guy. We're 2-4x/week on average, and we live together.
 

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My sex drive has been all over the place during our relationship so it's varied a lot. When we first became serious, I lived with him for about 3 months and we'd go 1-3x/day, every day. When he moved and wasn't working, we'd see each other 2-4 times per week and have sex each time. He got a job so we were down to seeing each other about once a week, less of course when he was out of town.

Lately I've been dealing with no sex drive, so although we see each other once week, we don't do it every time. Hopefully that will change soon. He's consistently been a 1-3x/day guy since I met him so we're super mismatched right now and it sucks.

edit: My ideal is probably a few times per week, but we'll see how that changes as I get back to normal. When we were having sex all the time, my sex drive was pretty high so it worked for both of us.
 
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I think in general, typically, a ltr has easier and more frequent sex.

certain lifestyles, situations, whatever, can allow certain single folks comparably easy access to sex. I imagine for someone who hangs out with a number of swingers or has a list of potential fwb or casual bang buddies, it's just as easy to get laid.

But for me and all or most of my friends, I can say we see
More action in a ltr.
Oh ya...I live in a city with something like 60/40 male female ratio...ie even fat chicks have the pick if the litter :p
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I haven't lived with an SO yet...I've gotten to the point of spending a LOT of time with them, but not living together. No idea from that perspective.

But yeah..getting laid is more frequent or easier in a LTR.

I do think a consistent FWB is better sex...but then again I think I have relationship issues. I don't think it's that it is 'novel', but more like...no relationship pressures, just straight up fun sex? And you can always walk away if you don't like it. In a LTR, you are kind of stuck :p.

My last relationship he would just plug away at it for like two hours and he didn't like to switch it up. I didn't look forward to sex. TMI, I know, but we even talked about how we 'liked it' ..we both told each other we liked it on the rough side ...and then he would never do that :confused:. And believe me I tried.

I don't like straight up one night stands. I don't do that anymore. It's awkward to me and I feel pretty crappy when I think about those times I've done that. I actually had that opportunity a few weeks ago and I turned it down (despite me being in a dry spell ;) ).

I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
Not living together, maybe twice a week? It depends on how often we see each other (and under what circumstances, and our living situations) but usually like 2-3 out of 4 or 5 times a week of seeing each other.
 

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Uh... All the time? Us being in a dry spell is going 24 hours without. I consider my sex drive low when we only have sex once a day.

It wasn't always like this though. I can easily go long periods like up to a year without. When I have sexual chemistry with someone though it will be happening a lot.

I could never be with someone vanilla either. It'd cause way too much issues. I like my kink side and do not care to surpress it ever.
 

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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
Uh. Once or twice a month. I have some issues so it's uncomfortable. But we help each other out a lot.


I've only been with one guy, so... I prefer a LTR. I couldn't have casual sex. It just.... does not appeal to me. And I'm just not much of a sex person. But again, I have some medical issues and stuff so perhaps when everything is sorted out it will improve. As of now I'm like a menopausal woman. :rofl1:
 

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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
Probably 5 times a week on average.
 

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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
When I was in one, it varied. For the first six months it was at least 2x a day and we saw each other 3-5x a week. It frequently was 4+. I was crazy horny. We'd go long into the morning and if one of us woke up, we'd wake the other for more. I got on anti-depressants, and they killed my sex drive. Completely. It went from "YES, now!" to "I'd rather pluck my eyelashes than do that." So, for a while, I was guilted into putting out. And that doesn't work. So then maybe once or twice a week and we lived together.

It's been over 10 months since I got off the anti-depressants, and now it's back. Oh god it's back. I've been climbing walls for weeks.

My answer to the question was LTRs as well... I'm just not comfortable sexing up total strangers, and I can't seem to find a safe, regular, ****buddy that I'm attracted to. People keep getting 2/3 lately. I'm starting to consider dudes again just because they're easier. (No offense, guys. But it's kind of true.) I just want someone who will put out and not contact me again unless it's to put out. So a FWBs without the friend, haha!

Most of the single people I know glorify bring single because you can play the field. I apparently am a bad player. :(


Side note: be as TMI as you all want. That's why I put the warning on the beginning post. Don't violate any rules of course, but other than that, you're good.
 

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I know everyone's different, and there are going to be different opinions but... how often do you have sex?! (How's that for even more TMI?)

Tim and I talk about this a lot. He thinks we don't ever have enough sex (uh, he's a guy?). I tell him that I'm pretty sure he gets more action in relation to how often we see each other, than many others? But maybe I'm wrong...
My SO and I live together and its anywhere from 2 - 4 times a week for us. Sometimes he wakes me up sometimes I wake him up or sometimes its thirsty Thursday and we get wasted and end up on the floor.

BTW I love TMI threads lol

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When we started going out as much as we could, keep in mind I had a 3 year old son so, not as often as we wanted lol.

Then when we were trying to have a baby as often as we could when we 'had' as per the fertility doctor, and, well it pretty much ruined sex for us. Because it wasn't fun...at all.

And now that I'm getting older I just don't want to much any more...and the boy is 15 and closer to our bedroom then ever so just no, I had that experience as a teen (having to hear my parents) and I'm still broken because of it! So maybe once a month.
 

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Right now we bump uglies less than average I would say, due to 1) my work/school schedule and 2) there always seems to be people at my apartment! But mainly the first. After a 14 hour workday the last thing I want to do is have sex. And that is my Monday-Wednesday.

So I'd say we have sex 3-4 times a week. It will most likely go up again to our normal 5-6 per week once I switch jobs at the end of next month.

I masturbate almost every day though, whether I've had sex or not.
 

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I've only been in one LTR and have never really been single (we started dating when I was 16 and I'm 24 now). This thread is fascinating!

I have a higher sex drive than he does, although it varies a lot depending on what else is going on in my life; usually 2-5 times a week though. If I'm really upset/stressed it goes way down though.
 

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Since we're doing TMI stuff, when did everyone lose their v-card? :p I was 17.
I was 18. Super slow starter - I didn't even kiss a guy till I was 18. :p Then I realized it was all awesome, got a little carried away for a while, and then settled down.
 

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I was 18 and it was not fun AT ALL. I was scared as hell and he didn't know what the **** he was doing so ... Yeah unpleasant experience.

When I was single, (before current OH) I had a FWB that was also a long time friend of mine. But the beauty of guys is they can do the physical separate from the emotional so when I entered a LTR, we went back to being plutonic friends with no problems at all and still are today.
 

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