Unreasonable expectations?

Melissa_W

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I was talking with my boyfriend about rehoming Zoey and I mentioned that I wanted to find a home for her that was at least as good as ours. He laughed and said that we'd be waiting a long time then. :rolleyes: He said good luck finding someone who will spend as much time exercising, training, and playing with the dogs as I do. He says that we probably won't find anyone that will buy her tons of toys and take her to the park 2-3 times per week and brush her teeth, etc. Ok, brushing her teeth is totally superfluous, but I do expect them to give her tons of love and attention and so forth. He thought I was totally unreasonable to even think that I could find a comparable home for her. I was shocked that he thought that, really. I guess I just took it for granted that we'd find someone that would be just as good as us. Anyone else think I'm unreasonable?
 

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Not in the slightest! ;)

We all want what is best for our pets, children, etc.. And chances are if there is one person that is this dedicated to their animals welfare there will be others! ;)
 

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Exactly. If I can't find a good home for her, I'll try to find a way to keep her myself.
 

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When I first joined Chaz, I was shocked and surprised to see the extent people on this forum will go for their dogs, but then I realized this is a dog lovers community, consited of lots of people who work with dogs as a profession (dog breeders, groomers, trainers, etc..),so you are a distinct group who are very different from the general puplic. What I mean is not everyone knows as much about dogs as you guys do, not everyone is an expert dog trainer, not everyone think of the dogs as their kids, and not everyone put their dogs in the highest priority.

Now, please don't get me wrong (because I love my dogs as much as you guys do, and consider them my furkids as well). I understand other people's views, though, and do not get upset when they don't treat their dogs the way I treat mine. As long as they love their dogs, provide all the essential care for them, they are good owners in my book. As far as I know I'm the only one in my circle of families & friends who feed the dogs the most premium (expensive) food out there, send them to training classes, shower them with treats & toys, take them out, celebrate their birthdays.. All these are considered excess and not necessary by my friends & relatives.

I'm always a little bit appalled with threads titled something like "How come people are so stupid", or "What an idiot", etc.. and then the person goes on to descibe an innocent person who obviously doesn't know much about dogs, or doesn't share their views about how the dogs should be treated, or their method of training, or the worse of all, when someone mis-identifies their dogs. I myself don't know a lot of dog breeds, and get them wrong all the time, but that doesn't mean I'm stupid, or ignorant, etc.. It just means I don't know a lot about dogs.

So, back to the OP question.. If I were to talk to anyone I know about rehoming my dogs to someone who would treat them the way I do, they would think it's impossible, and probably laugh at me, too. So, while it's entirely possible to find someone who does (and you have all the rights in the world to wait until you find one) - it's not so difficult for me to understand why your boyfriend thought that it was impossible.
 

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When I first joined Chaz, I was shocked and surprised to see the extent people on this forum will go for their dogs, but then I realized this is a dog lovers community, consited of lots of people who work with dogs as a profession (dog breeders, groomers, trainers, etc..),so you are a distinct group who are very different from the general puplic. What I mean is not everyone knows as much about dogs as you guys do, not everyone is an expert dog trainer, not everyone think of the dogs as their kids, and not everyone put their dogs in the highest priority.

Now, please don't get me wrong (because I love my dogs as much as you guys do, and consider them my furkids as well). I understand other people's views, though, and do not get upset when they don't treat their dogs the way I treat mine. As long as they love their dogs, provide all the essential care for them, they are good owners in my book. As far as I know I'm the only one in my circle of families & friends who feed the dogs the most premium (expensive) food out there, send them to training classes, shower them with treats & toys, take them out, celebrate their birthdays.. All these are considered excess and not necessary by my friends & relatives.

I'm always a little bit appalled with threads titled something like "How come people are so stupid", or "What an idiot", etc.. and then the person goes on to descibe an innocent person who obviously doesn't know much about dogs, or doesn't share their views about how the dogs should be treated, or their method of training, or the worse of all, when someone mis-identifies their dogs. I myself don't know a lot of dog breeds, and get them wrong all the time, but that doesn't mean I'm stupid, or ignorant, etc.. It just means I don't know a lot about dogs.

So, back to the OP question.. If I were to talk to anyone I know about rehoming my dogs to someone who would treat them the way I do, they would think it's impossible, and probably laugh at me, too. So, while it's entirely possible to find someone who does (and you have all the rights in the world to wait until you find one) - it's not so difficult for me to understand why your boyfriend thought that it was impossible.
Yes, I think that's the way he sees it too. I think you articulated his point better than he did! ;)

Just to make sure everyone knows, we found Zoey as a stray. I would just keep her for myself if we had our own home. I think the landlord might warm up to it if he sees that she's not causing any damage to our place. But who knows...
 
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I don't think its unreasonable really. I know plenty of people who treat their dogs similarly to how you do Zoey and Kai. I may be alittle easy on people but I bet you could find someone who could give her an almost perfect home ;).
 

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maybe it's your boyfriends way of saying you ought to keep her? (I keep pushing this one Melissa--so sue me!)lol
 

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hehe... he hints about it sometimes, but won't come out and say it. I've been letting it ride. I wish my landlord would just say it's okay.
 

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I was gonna say that. It could be his way of complimenting you and the way you care for your dogs. He very well might want you to keep Zoey too :)
 

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If you do it, I am pretty sure you can find someone else too.

It might take longer, but it'll be worth it in the end.

That or *cough*KEEP HER*cough*
 

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