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milos_mommy

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Top doctor mix up is when I went in to see the doctor and he was like "aren't you the one that has a sexual relationship with your brother?"

I can't even imagine the look on my face, I just said "um, NOPE" and he was like oh I'm sorry I mixed you up with someone else.

I kind of wonder now if he did that on purpose to mess with me.
 

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Top doctor mix up is when I went in to see the doctor and he was like "aren't you the one that has a sexual relationship with your brother?"

I can't even imagine the look on my face, I just said "um, NOPE" and he was like oh I'm sorry I mixed you up with someone else.

I kind of wonder now if he did that on purpose to mess with me.
What I don't even. No.
 
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Wow. In what world does the doctor even need to know that, much less make a comment about it? Mortifying for you to hear, but that would be just as mortifying if you were the one in the incestuous relationship. It's gross that a medical professional thinks that that's an appropriate comment to a patient

Unless of course we are talking about some sort of abuse/assault, at which point the doctor has every right to know or ask questions.
 

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The way he brought it up made it sound like a voluntary relationship, but idk.

He was a psychiatrist, so I suppose it could be relevant. But he only managed medications so I guess it really wasn't.

The really inappropriate part was that it was in a treatment program where all his other patients were in groups and day programs with me. So even though I never knew who it was, it seemed grossly inappropriate that he let it slip that anyone in the program was dealing with that. Besides, I kind of made the assumption that it had to be a female around my age (and a new patient of his) so yeah, aside from being shocking it was really unprofessional
 
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Moving, buying a house.

Lender: so whats this credit check from 2mo ago.
me: Uhh, that is the motorcycle i bought before I knew i was moving. If you payed any attention when we went through everything weeks ago, you would have figured it out?
 

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I would really like to go to the doctor. The insurance through work has gone up every year since ACA. It sure isn't "affordable" to me anymore! Yeah, super low premium, and once the deductible is paid it covers stuff but that deductible. It's ridiculous.

So right now, if I went, it would be just like a discount card -100% of contracted rate. New doctor will want lab work, probable x-rays or even MRI, plus a regular office visit. I can't afford to go. I'm not dying, so I can't go to urgent care. I can't see my old doctor because restrictive HMO. I'm not in significant amounts of intractable pain to go to ER. Either of those options are more money!

I'll just keep taking ibuprofen/acetominophen, and hope I get over this cold or whatever it is. Hopefully, I will get my sense of smell back sometime soon. Next week is Addie's spay, and I am looking forward to having 5 glorious days off. If I am still feeling crappy, I guess I will have to suck it up and just pay. No way I will cancel her spay. Just will put something on a credit card. Thank god for credit cards LOL.

I love my job, just not my benefits. Next year going to see if beneficial to go on DH insurance.
 

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Bleeeeeeeehhhhh.

Started to feel sick on Saturday. Yesterday I just napped a lot. Today I almost passed out at work, my joints ache, my body feels heavy, my throat is sore, and I'm so light headed. I have no energy. My sinuses are clear, I'm not snotty, and I'm not nauseous, I don't have a fever. I just feel like crap. This is so weird. And sucks.
 

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Does anybody have any tips on soothing bad anxiety?

Mine used to be really bad along with depression a few years ago and for the past two weeks it's been horrible straight through the roof. It started out with specific paranoia but now I constantly have that heart-racing feeling of near panic, like something is or is about to go wrong and it's almost non-stop.

Exercise doesn't work and talking things over hasn't helped, nor has yoga, deep-breathing, or any of that. Kind of lost :/
 

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If it is that bad to to a psychiatrist and counselor. There is NOTHING that takes the place of that if you need that, especially if you are at the point you are feeling paranoid about things. Don't feel bad about it or let people tell you it's not needed, a lot of people need to see and talk to someone at some point in life.

For now just tell yourself anxiety can't kill you.

If it gets really bad go to the ER.

There should be a hotline for your county to if you google your county and mental health. Some areas just have what are called warm lines or comfort lines.
 

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The ambulance was on the street when I came home.
My uncle was inside the ambulance. My neighbours told me they think he had a heart attack and they weren't sure if he was going to make it. My aunt and cousin were in a police car and didn't come out when I got there but they did go back into the house and then come back out, and I ran across the street. My cousin said "I don't think there's anything anyone can do." He was doing CPR on my uncle until the ambulance came. Then they took over, then put him on boards and put him in the ambulance.

He has been in bad shape for a long time. Since my grandpa died and it has been almost 11 years now. It will be 11 years on August 17th. My grandpa died that day. My parent's wedding anniversary. Pepper's birthday. It will be 11 years and around the time my grandpa was dying, my uncle was having a lot of problems too. But he had very good doctors. And they have done everything they can.

They appear to have gotten him stable because my aunt told me "we're going to the hospital as soon as he is stable" and only a minute after they closed up the ambulance and the police car got ready to go and they left. So the assumption is they were able to get him stable. The sirens were going when they left.

My cousin in California probably has no idea.

My dad took my grandma to the hospital. We still can't reach his other sister, she is probably with a patient or something, but my grandma left her a voicemail. I called my sister. I am home by myself as central command, because we are two doors down from my aunt and uncle's house, and this way at least somebody will be in a location and by a phone where everybody knows where to reach somebody. So I wait.
and now we all wait.
 

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Oh I am so sorry Beanie. :(

Does anybody have any tips on soothing bad anxiety?

Mine used to be really bad along with depression a few years ago and for the past two weeks it's been horrible straight through the roof. It started out with specific paranoia but now I constantly have that heart-racing feeling of near panic, like something is or is about to go wrong and it's almost non-stop.

Exercise doesn't work and talking things over hasn't helped, nor has yoga, deep-breathing, or any of that. Kind of lost :/
We can be buddies. I've been struggling a lot lately...Months and months since about when I got my house. Peaked around January but really this has gone on for around 8 years. I've realized very recently how bad it is. I feel constantly on edge and mind racing. Panic attacks. Every little thing is a crisis. And I keep making them worse.

I'm exhausted and on the verge of a breakdown at any moment it seems. I don't know but I got a doctor's appointment. So here's to hoping. I'm just done with it. Tired of crying 3-5x a day. Tired of messing things up because I feel like I'm walking in a haze. It's horrible. I've never felt this bad in my life.
 

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Today is the day I decided to record Payton in his crate to see if he displays any SA when I leave him. I have video of my dog howling when ambulance and fire trucks arrive for my dying uncle.
I guess the good news is Payton sleeps for almost the entire other 7 and a half hours of video.
 

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If it is that bad to to a psychiatrist and counselor. There is NOTHING that takes the place of that if you need that, especially if you are at the point you are feeling paranoid about things. Don't feel bad about it or let people tell you it's not needed, a lot of people need to see and talk to someone at some point in life.

For now just tell yourself anxiety can't kill you.

If it gets really bad go to the ER.

There should be a hotline for your county to if you google your county and mental health. Some areas just have what are called warm lines or comfort lines.
We can be buddies. I've been struggling a lot lately...Months and months since about when I got my house. Peaked around January but really this has gone on for around 8 years. I've realized very recently how bad it is. I feel constantly on edge and mind racing. Panic attacks. Every little thing is a crisis. And I keep making them worse.

I'm exhausted and on the verge of a breakdown at any moment it seems. I don't know but I got a doctor's appointment. So here's to hoping. I'm just done with it. Tired of crying 3-5x a day. Tired of messing things up because I feel like I'm walking in a haze. It's horrible. I've never felt this bad in my life.
I used to see one therapist that didn't really mesh so I moved on to another who then referred me to a psychiatrist because she definitely got the vibe I could benefit from medication. But my psychiatrist didn't think, by the time I was seeing her regularly, that I really needed it and it wasn't an issue I wanted to push - honestly I was pretty guarded about my more severe thoughts cause my parents hovering worriedly over me was annoying and I knew I wouldn't drastically act on anything.

Honestly I can deal with my usual mild depression but anxiety really is the worst. I feel like a rabbit in a wide open field. Luckily it's not as bad today but I have no idea if it got better on its own or if it was something specific. I've always paid less attention to my anxiety because I never thought it was a big deal because I didn't get attacks like most people I know until this past week where I'd just start tearing up because I felt alarmed. Eek.

It's done. They didn't want him to suffer, and he did not.
((Hugs)) I'm so sorry Beanie, all the condolences to you and your family
 

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I am extraordinarily saddened by your loss, Beanie. It's a blessing that he didn't suffer but sucks for you and your family all the same. Add to that the running "theme" of everything happening around this time of year, it can snowball into a great deal of bad feelings. Like clockwork, my family lost a grandparent or great grandparent each February for a few years. It got to the point where we dreaded the end of January.

Anyway, please accept my deepest condolences for your loss.
 

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And I just now, literally at 8PM, found out the service is TOMORROW in the morning. I don't even know if I can use any of my time off for death in the family yet because I haven't had my job for six months yet but I'm pretty sure they would want more notice than TWO HOURS before the service...
So I can't even go. Not like I love going to funerals or anything but I was going to go.
 

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