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Okay, so I got this new boyfriend. Now I won't lie I am enjoying it but I want to take things slow after just breaking up with the first one. Well, we made a big date planned for sunday night okay? He goes and invites his best friend and his girlfriend. I really mind it and I told him that and all he said was "Sorry" I can't uninvite them now. It is only our second date and I wanted it to be just US and nobody else. I am really p'oed about it because them two have been dating for a while and that might tempt mine to do something I don't want to do that his friend has already done, if you know what I am getting to! So he is acting like normal around me, calling me all the time and making jokes but for some reason, I am really mad about this and I just keep giving him the idc treatment.

Any advice?
 

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If he didn't know beforehand that inviting friends would make you uncomfortable, then I don't think he did anything wrong. If you just started dating, inviting friends is taking it more slowly than having a private date, don't you think?
 

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I really don't see what the big deal is.

You said you want to take things slow, and I would consider a "double" date to be doing just that.
 

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If you want to take it slow, why would you care if other people tag along? :confused: Rather be with a group then one-on-one but.

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I am really p'oed about it because them two have been dating for a while and that might tempt mine to do something I don't want to do that his friend has already done, if you know what I am getting to!
How old are you? If he wants to have sex, he wants to have sex (this is what you are talking about, right?), imo them being there shouldn't reflect if he is going to want to do it or not. Tell him how you feel on the subject if it ever comes up, and move on. Maybe I'm weird, but hopefully I am weird and making a little bit of sense. :lol-sign:
 

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I personally think that he did a wise thing . Best you really get to know someone before a romantic date . Making a big deal over it may turn him off . Some don't like clingy women .
 
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Sounds a little to me like maybe you're trying to run him off before you get too attached - or at least see if he is going to leave if you make demands and cop an attitude.
 

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I really don't see what the big deal is.

You said you want to take things slow, and I would consider a "double" date to be doing just that.
My thoughts too..? If I was wanting things to go slow, double dating is the right way to go. I think your confused TBH lol.
 

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He invited his friends because he wants you to meet them. You are totally over-reacting in my opinion
 

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Aaah high school love. So much drama lol

Relax, enjoy your time with your new BF, and keep in mind that what other people do in their relationships has NO bearing on your own.
 
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Well the reason that I am ticked off is because, I met this guy before. He is nice but he isn't somebody I get along with. Mainly because his girlfriend, I called her a ***** 3 months ago because she was going around acting like one. We meet, she will know who I am and then all hello will break out.

I want to talk things slow but I don't want to double date yet. I mean, I want to have a chance to get to know my new boyfriend before I do that.
 

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Guys perspective...

If he doesn't know that you and his best friends girl went at one another a few months ago then why wouldn't he invite them... youw anted to take it slowly and a double date is a great way to do things slowly as it is less intimate then just two people alone and you get to see one another in a social situation.

And as was said... if you want to get to know them I wouldn't consider them a boyfriend just yet... especially if you drop attitude about something that on the surface appears like a good idea, without saying why... you'll find you wouldn't be able to call them that for long.
 
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Well the reason that I am ticked off is because, I met this guy before. He is nice but he isn't somebody I get along with. Mainly because his girlfriend, I called her a ***** 3 months ago because she was going around acting like one. We meet, she will know who I am and then all hello will break out.

I want to talk things slow but I don't want to double date yet. I mean, I want to have a chance to get to know my new boyfriend before I do that.
How old are you?

He is a nice guy but not someone you would get along with? Why? Does he have different beliefs, values...etc? If so, well he is you boyfriend's friend. As long as he is not a terrible influence (which would make me reconsider dating the boyfriend)... be friendly.

How well do you know his girlfriend, that you know what she is up to and call her names behind her back?

I think it is a good way to get to know your new boyfriend... see how he is around his friends. How well DO you know your boyfriend?
 

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If he's close to his friend , making waves is the fastest way to drive him away . Get to know them both better .
 

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as everyone else said, if you want to take it slow, double dating is a great way to do that.

I also wouldn't call someone my boyfriend until I actually got to know them. IMO the first few months you're only "dating" or "hanging out," you're not actually boy/girlfriend.

If this is your bfs BESTfriend's girlfriend, then you are going to have to make up with her. you can't tell him to not have them around... believe me, people get tired of being told who they can and can't hang out with REALLY quickly. So this double date might be a great way to do that.
 

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I have to say (as has already been said) that if you're wanting to take things slow then double dating is one of the best ways to do it. Being one on one alone can be a great way to really get to know someone yes... but... lots of people will act one way one on one and a another way when around a group of friends, etc... this will give you the opportunity to get to see what kind of person he is when he's around friends and get to know his friends as well. You're young... have fun... don't stress this too much. There are much bigger things in life to worry about.
 

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