*Sigh* what would you do

[AGonzalez]

It depends, there's been times I've waited a LONG time at the pharmacy at my local military clinic (2+ hours) while in severe pain, and sometimes it's as quick as 15-20 minutes.

Since we don't know the whole story, I'm sure there's a reason the mom didn't pick it up then and there? I don't know if you have co-pays (was this in Canada, I'm guessing it was?) but some medications can be terribly expensive on the co-pay (even with insurance we sometimes have a $45 co-pay)

Either way, there's a reason she didn't just get it. Whether it's the fact she has several children that are sick and need to stay home to recouperate, didn't have the time or money, or whatever...this is one of those times that even the ex needs to look at it as "It's for my child, not for her" and grow the f- up.

Sorry but if it was my ex and he needed me to go pick something up for the kids, I'd do it. Even if it's a monetary issue, there's no reason the KIDS should go without because I want to be bitchy.

 

[SharkyX]

I think we're assuming she asked nicely, or was reasonable when she phoned.

It could very well be that she was snarling or b*tchy over the phone and more or less demanded he go pick it up.

I think alot of it is in the context of the conversation, which of course we don't have.
Childs wellfare should come first... however human nature tends to gravitate more towards the "somebody I don'tlike/have been hurt by, is making demands of me and being a jerk... well F**k them!" in which case it may not have even been about the health care stuff for him anymore and he'd go through the conversation with a set of blinders on.

That's the only reason I personally could think of, to tell them no I'm going to do something for the kids...

Although having no kids this is more of an outsider looking in, type perspective.

 

[mjb]

Sometimes it's a matter of who is supposed to pay for prescriptions. I have a friend who had custody of her kids and always did the doctor's visits and filling the prescriptions. In the court agreement, the ex was supposed to pay for medical expenses. He never did, and he would have refused to pick up a prescription, even if he worked next door to the pharmacy, to keep from paying.

So, if one of the parents is trying to keep from paying, or knows he/she will never get re-imbursed, that could be a reason not to fill a prescription.

Still, it's the child who suffers. But, if it's a parent who is lax on child support anyway, they already aren't thinking of their child first.

 

[milos_mommy]

As a child who spent five years in the middle of my parents messy divorce and nitpicking battles over EVERY. LITTLE. THING. Anyone who wouldn't IS hurting their kid. It doesn't matter what an assface your ex is, doesn't matter WHY you don't want to do it, doesn't matter how much of a controlling jerk they are, etc.

Maybe someone who is a divorced parent feels differently...but divorced parents tend to overlook their children's needs in their state of stress and crisis.

ESPECIALLY if you've got a sick child and other children, it absolutely makes sense you wouldn't want to go out in winter bundle them all up into the car and wait in the pharmacy...even if you didn't have to wait it's still a hassle. And in the case of medication, schooling, etc., something the child NEEDS done...you decided to have kids with this person, you decided to SHARE responsibilities. It doesn't matter if you've changed your mind about sharing your life with them...for 18 years you need to SHARE and COOPERATE and work TOGETHER as parents.