Nervous breakdown?Puppy Blues?Please help

[Dekka]

I think you need to worry less about what other people think, and decide what is best for you and your pup.

You got a lot of opinions on this thread.. and we chazzers are not known for 'holding back' :rofl1: But ultimately you have to choose what you feel is best.

 

[AllieMackie]

Chiming in with a bit of repitition.

When I first got Finnegan (my first puppy EVER - only dog growing up was an adult rescue) I was overwhelmed for a good few months. Stress levels were high. He wailed the first week and a half most nights. Many times I just had to place him in his crate and leave the house for an hour or two.

Puppies are tyrannical. :rofl1: They sleep a lot, but when they're awake they are ridiculously energetic and excited to learn about their world. They know next to nothing about how to properly behave in a home and it's up to us to set boundaries and help them define what is good behaviour and what is bad behaviour.

This means a lot of boring training in the beginning - teaching them to potty in the right areas. Teaching them to inhibit their bite. Puppies explore EVERYTHING with their mouths, including skin - this is normal and it's important to teach bite inhibition right away. Teaching them what places they're allowed to jump on, which ones they aren't. Re-directing them to their toy box when they find something to destroy. All that good stuff that will help them be a well-balanced member of your home.

A JRT/chi WILL be high energy. Both of those breeds are high-energy breeds, and will need a good amount of stimulation and exercise daily. This is not a bad thing. It's a wonderful excuse to involve yourself with her! Lots of positive reinforcement, lots of bonding time as you play and learn together. A well-balanced high-energy dog will happily curl up on the couch with you and watch TV if you've given them appropriate energy outlets first. I have a border collie, one of the smartest, most high-energy breeds out there, and he's always snuggled up on the couch with me... after a nice long walk or a good game of fetch/training/treibball in the backyard.

 

[cloudcandy]

Yeah I guess I do,were out in the park at the moment and I feel like everyhing would be.easier if I could take her out and walk her.to get.her energy levels calmer in the house!!The way I feel now it would be.a.world of good.Right now she just has to stay in my arms or her carrier.Im just still scared about the future.Worrying about what if this happens what if that happens,what if i get a full time job?I know thats probally what most pet owners think about
I'll just keep trying,but knowing I have.options will hopefully help me feel calmer

 

[cloudcandy]

Yeah I guess I do,were out in the park at the moment and I feel like everyhing would be.easier if I could take her out and walk her.to get.her energy levels calmer in the house!!The way I feel now it would be.a.world of good.Right now she just has to stay in my arms or her carrier.Im just still scared about the future.Worrying about what if this happens what if that happens,what if i get a full time job?I know thats probally what most pet owners think about
I'll just keep trying,but knowing I have.options will hopefully help me feel calmer

 

[Laurelin]

I think dogs are more adaptable than you're making them to be. Most dogs will adapt to change very easily. My dogs adapted from being loose all day to having to be crated normal work hours very easily.

Honestly, I think deciding to give her back 3 days in is too soon and might make you do something you'll regret later.

 

[cloudcandy]

Yeah I guess I do,were out in the park at the moment and I feel like everyhing would be.easier if I could take her out and walk her.to get.her energy levels calmer in the house!!The way I feel now it would be.a.world of good.Right now she just has to stay in my arms or her carrier.Im just still scared about the future.Worrying about what if this happens what if that happens,what if i get a full time job?I know thats probally what most pet owners think about
I'll just keep trying,but knowing I have.options will hopefully help me feel calmer

 

[cloudcandy]

Sorry abou that!Using my mobile and the stupod thing kept reposting!!! One silly question its truw.I cant put hwr on the ground outside until shes had her shots!!just checking i havent made some stupid miatake....

 

[Maxy24]

Yes they can go on the ground without shots, just don't put her on the ground in pet stores or bring them to dog parks yet. But in the yard and neighborhood she should be fine on the ground.

 

[Dizzy]

Depends where you are specifically, but I'd say in the UK NOT to place her on the ground....

You have to remember, the UK is very densely populated and there are a LOT of dogs who have no vaccs (it is not a legal requirement to have any here) and there are no lead laws like there are in the US, or dog parks (everywhere is fair game for dog walking).

I personally wouldn't risk it, unless it was someone's garden.

Cloudcandy, I'm in the UK. There are some UK dog boards which could link you up with people in your area who'd be more than happy to meet you (I imagine, I haven't used the boards for a long time, but they're all really friendly and helpful). If you want I can PM you the details.

You have to keep the puppy - even if it's just so I'm not the minority Brit

It's a shame you're so darn sarf or I would have happily come and offered you some support, whatever use that might have been (or not lol).

 

[lizzybeth727]

I think Coco has to go back to her breeder,this isn't something I want to do 100% but I'm going to wait it out a few days,speak to the vet and try and think about things.I feel better now that I have a plan.

I seriously freaked out when I got my cat. I'd never had a cat before though my roommate did and I did know a little bit about them. As soon as I got her home I started panicking. But the shelter told me I could take her back within 14 days and get my money back if I needed to, so I kept telling myself that I had that "out." So every day I'd ask myself, "Do I need to take her back today?" And every day the answer was, "No, not today." By the end of the two weeks she and I had both settled nicely and the panic attacks were over.

So maybe give yourself a week or two to make the decision. I do agree that it's better to make the decision while she's young, but you can give yourself a couple of weeks.

 

[cloudcandy]

Yeah,I was thinnkig since I'm in London its nowhere near safe,soIve kept.her off the floor and kept shoes.out.the house.Would you say its safe then to let her down in peoples hoises(regardless of shoes of shoes.on)?
@dizzy thnks so much for the offer,this place has been.so helpfull,I'll PM u for details
@lizzybeth its true,I feel slightly less scared now that I know I can.
I managed to have a better day yesterday,me and my Bf talked properly about it and I feel better knowing up not alone this was counterectted.by Coco crying ALLLLLL night.She dozed of early 9.30 and so i woke.her.back.up at 10.30ish for toilet etc.She.was VERY hyper and uncontrollable biting.and.nipping us.She then would not sleep!I put.her in her crate around 11.30 and she was howling for ages so I took her to her toilet...nothing so I put her back.inside.Howling again within 5mins...ignored it for as long as possible back up at 1.30...2am....2.30am everytime i let her out,directed her to.the toilet and pit her back in the crate.She didnt go toilet once!!kept crying amd crying.At some point maybe 4-6am I let her out again and she got in my bed and slept -_- long night Im knackered!My bf.can sleep through her cries but I cant!!!
What should i do tonight?Keep on with that or "crate' her (in a smaller travel box) on the.bed?next to us!?

 

[puppydog]

You don't have the constitution to deal with a normal puppy. Take her back so she stands a chance of finding a home that can deal with her.

 

[cloudcandy]

Wow been feeling so mch better since Wednesday night.Starting to know wht she wants and a routine has really helped.Being able to get more done each and each day.The vets said she seemed really calm and relaxed with me so thats nice!She had her first shots,more to come in two weeks.Feeling ike every thing is much more easier.to handle now.Still every day is a challene but she shes.cuddled up in my bed snoozing its all worth it
Thanks to everyone who commented and helped and apoligies for the drama!!!Molly xx

 

[Moth]

Glad to hear you a doing better. Happy to see that you and puppy are now settling in. They are totally worth it, aren't they

 

[cloudcandy]

So worth it
She's asleep on my lap as we speak,I'm learning how to get her energy out into the right outlets(cheewwinng!)Although she does get very hyper and bitey which makes me slighty nervous having been mauled by a St.Bernard once,however hopefully this will slow down.

 

[CaliTerp07]

Aww, glad things are settling down for you The overexcited biting can be quelled (squeal "ouch!" and end the game if she bites you), and it's something that she should outgrow somewhat anyway.

 

[YodelDogs]

long night Im knackered!My bf.can sleep through her cries but I cant!!!

I suggest that you use earplugs. It won't stop the noise but it will muffle it and you may be able to sleep through the light whining she may do. You may also want to get some Rescue Remedy. A drop or two for the puppy before bedtime and a couple drops for yourself. It is very relaxing and you both may sleep better. Good luck!

 

[cloudcandy]

I suggest that you use earplugs. It won't stop the noise but it will muffle it and you may be able to sleep through the light whining she may do. You may also want to get some Rescue Remedy. A drop or two for the puppy before bedtime and a couple drops for yourself. It is very relaxing and you both may sleep better. Good luck!

Sounds good!Is this rescue remedy the human one for dogs n humans I mean?Or are there different types?
x

 

[YodelDogs]

I don't know if the Bach's Rescue Remedy labeled for pets is the same as the original or not. I only buy the original and use it for myself and the animals when needed.

 

[Ciárna_Brighid]

Hi CloudCandy, I haven't read through all of this thread. I just wanted to let you know that I felt exactly like you at the beginning when I first got Ciárna. A few hours after getting Ciárna I was like "heck, what have I let myself in for".....but now, coming two year in October I wouldn't be without her!!!
Relax a little and just enjoy having fun with her!! I'm sure you will be a great doggy mum!!