Mother in-law...
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I actually get along great with my mother-in-law. My father-in-law is another story. He's a old-school German and just doesn't like the way I treat his son.
I don't serve my hubby's meals, clear his dishes, bring his slippers, let him make all the decisions, excessively dote on him when he's sick, etc. I'm don't do the things a "good wife" would do. Sorry, but I'm not that kind of person.
I don't serve my hubby's meals, clear his dishes, bring his slippers, let him make all the decisions, excessively dote on him when he's sick, etc. I'm don't do the things a "good wife" would do. Sorry, but I'm not that kind of person.
I meant exactly what I said. My father-in-law belives in the old-school "wifely" duties, and he is German. Born in Germany, spent his childhood in Germany and still has family in Germany. Hence, "old-school German".
Edi: Grammy, you need to post some "wifely" hints from that 1920s book. I bet it's a hoot!
Edi: Grammy, you need to post some "wifely" hints from that 1920s book. I bet it's a hoot!
3 more hrs till MIL arrives. I have gotten nothing done. Im still doing laods of laundry and folding them. I need to sweep, mop, and clean the bathroom, same with the kitchen. Grocery shopping will have to be done tonight. My husband called to say they are amost here and I unleashed a furry of anger on him 
Told him how unfair this is and that he should've asked me first. He said, "he'd turn around and take her home" which is dumb.. they're almost here, too late to turn back. I did say that we'd probably have a great time while she was here and that I was looking forward to spending time with her. My fingers were crossed the whole time I said that
Told him how unfair this is and that he should've asked me first. He said, "he'd turn around and take her home" which is dumb.. they're almost here, too late to turn back. I did say that we'd probably have a great time while she was here and that I was looking forward to spending time with her. My fingers were crossed the whole time I said that
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I asked my mom for her books.........she said she already gave them to me two years ago. So, I vaguely remember......I must have stuck them someplace safe, but I don't remember where.
Anyway they had the text on the internet says the same thing as one of my moms books.
Can you imagine being taught this stuff.
The following is from a 1950's home economics textbook intended for high school girls, teaching them how to prepare for married life:
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1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal - on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
6. Some Don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.
7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
8. Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.
Anyway they had the text on the internet says the same thing as one of my moms books.
Can you imagine being taught this stuff.
The following is from a 1950's home economics textbook intended for high school girls, teaching them how to prepare for married life:
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1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal - on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
6. Some Don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.
7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
8. Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.
LOL!!!!!!!!
What about the wife???
My husband is getting none of that tonight and he's getting nothing tonight either He's going to come home to a messy house, dinner uncooked, laundry piled on the couch.. half of it folded and frusterated wife with tons of questions as soon as he walks in.. lol
That was riot to read Julie. Thanks for posting. Reminds of June Cleaver.
30mins till hubby and MIL come waltzing in.. and what have I done to prepare?? Nothing
What about the wife???
My husband is getting none of that tonight and he's getting nothing tonight either
He's going to come home to a messy house, dinner uncooked, laundry piled on the couch.. half of it folded and frusterated wife with tons of questions as soon as he walks in.. lol That was riot to read Julie. Thanks for posting. Reminds of June Cleaver.
30mins till hubby and MIL come waltzing in.. and what have I done to prepare?? Nothing
You should be a bit young to have enemies.
Would you want to live with a man so emasculated he did all the stay at home mom stuff, while you go and swing a hammer, run power tools and basicly destroy your body day after day because thats what happens to people with blue collar jobs?
I dont understand the stress men and women in the white collar world have to deal with, Ill stick to swing my hammer until I find my sugar momma.
Would you want to live with a man so emasculated he did all the stay at home mom stuff, while you go and swing a hammer, run power tools and basicly destroy your body day after day because thats what happens to people with blue collar jobs?
I dont understand the stress men and women in the white collar world have to deal with, Ill stick to swing my hammer until I find my sugar momma.
Please, everyone, know that this is just meant to show you how it WAS! Can you FREAKIN' BELIEVE IT?! And now I see we may have a woman candidate to go up against Hillary in the election... can you IMAGINE a WOMAN heading up the USA??!!! I read an article the other day that men are starting to be afraid of women and their power in the workplace... Well, DUH!!!!! We've only been doing it for years and getting grossely underpaid!!! I LOVE IT
Blue, that was a problem with me and my husband in the beginning. I work at a newspaper, he's a mechanic.
I know how hard blue collar jobs are, and that it takes a horrible toll on your body. But my husband just couldn't understand when I came home tired. In his words "How can you possibly be tired when you're sitting at a desk all day? You should try my job!" By nature I am not a whiner, so it would really tick me off when my husband acted as if my job was just a cake walk.
Then my husband started doing some freelance work for the newspaper during football season, working in the newsroom with me. It was only 3-4 hours on Friday nights, but he would come home stressed, frazzled and ready to collapse. Since then, he's become a lot more understanding.
I know how hard blue collar jobs are, and that it takes a horrible toll on your body. But my husband just couldn't understand when I came home tired. In his words "How can you possibly be tired when you're sitting at a desk all day? You should try my job!" By nature I am not a whiner, so it would really tick me off when my husband acted as if my job was just a cake walk.
Then my husband started doing some freelance work for the newspaper during football season, working in the newsroom with me. It was only 3-4 hours on Friday nights, but he would come home stressed, frazzled and ready to collapse. Since then, he's become a lot more understanding.