I'll play even though I'm not a horse owner anymore. It was such a huge part of my identity for so long, it still feels odd.
Although I never owned him, passing mention is always owed to the real Boston Banker. He was the love of my high school years, and still a bit the horse who I love the most. He'd been a race horse, an A-circuit hunter, and then transitioned to be a big eq horse, which is where he really shone. His former riders include no less than Meredith Michaels Beerbaum. I have a copy of her book about the horses in her past and present, and Boston has his own chapter (in German, sadly). Although he didn't come into my life until he was about 20, it was always fun to take him to some of the bigger shows, because inevitably someone would wander up and ask if that was Boston Banker, because they knew him way back when. Plans to let him come live out his life with me fell apart, but when my trainer got rid of him, he wound up at one of the best barns in the northeast, where he was treated like royalty, and I visited him a few times. This photo was the last time I visited, when he was 30. Not too shabby for a TB who had lived a long life and been used hard.
Tristan is the only horse I've ever owned. I was working for my trainer during college, and heartbroken yet again when the horse I'd been riding for a while was taken back by his owner. It was finally enough to convince my father that if he invested in a horse for me, I could essentially board and train it for free due to my working, and we could sell it when I graduated for a nice little profit. About six years later, sitting around the dinner table, my father out of nowhere said, "I just realized, you're never selling that horse, are you?". I still can't believe he ever fell for that.
Tristan was 3 years old, had about a month of under saddle work, and I thought might turn into a nice A/A hunter that I could have fun with. Turns out he jumped like an anvil (as a young horse - he actually matured into a wonderful jumper) and was not a nice young horse to ride. He had some serious behavioral issues under saddle, and we'll never know how much that was physical and how much was training or mental. But from about five to eight, he was a jerk to ride and sent me home in tears more than any horse should. I never did show him in the hunters, but showed dressage a bit through first level. He jumped a lot with the collegiate team at our barn and was a favorite of theirs. When he finally started to mature, he turned into a very pleasant horse for me to hack around on.
He was plagued by constant health issues and injuries. I (sometimes fondly) referred to him as my lemon. Four or five separate soft tissue injuries, two bouts of Lyme, sarcomas that require surgery, a parasite that killed off a bit of muscle in his neck, and about nine years of battling issues with anorexia that finally turned out to be the lymphoma that took his life about a year and a half ago.
My favorite photo of us, when he was probably five?
Moments of great glory - posing on the Saratoga Race Track, and showing off his winnings from the show there.
Because he was laid up so much (and because I was obsessed with dog training and dogless), he was my first clicker training project, and learned a ton of silly tricks. During one long period involving lots of handwalking (and trying not to die walking a stall-bound 17hh horse), I trained him to follow and pick up a frisbee, because it gave him something to focus on other than leaping about. Once he was allowed to do more, I even got him pretty reliable about bringing it back, and tried to train him to "throw" it back. That never really happened, although judging by this picture, it may have been lack of skill on his part, or the fact that I flinch whenever anything is thrown at me!
Healthy and schooling:
But perhaps his most endearing trait was his relationship with Gusto. The two of them absolutely adored each other (okay, maybe Gusto adore Tristan, and Tristan was a really good, tolerant big brother). Gusto would race to Tristan's stall and run in as soon as we got to the barn, followed us along on trail rides, walking in Tristan's footsteps with Trissy's tail hanging on his head, and lay in the shade under Tristan while I was handgrazing him. More than once, I thought "this is going to end badly", but both were very careful of each other. I was so sad for myself when Tristan died, but just as sad for Gusto.
I go visit the barn once in a while. The owner is a good friend, and let's me take a horse out hacking if I want to. And it is a breeding farm, so it is fun to go visit the foals and see them grow up. I sometimes get stuck on wanting another horse, and I know she would help me find one, but Tristan really wore me out, both emotionally and financially. His vet bills were just astronomical during the last 9 years or so of his life. I don't ever want to put myself in a situation where I am that financially unstable again...but I also don't want to own a horse knowing I couldn't and wouldn't do anything I could for him. So for now, I go pet the ponies and feed them treats when I feel the urge, and saddle up a loaner when it hits particularly hard.