I've Never Been So Devastated
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I am so very sorry. I wish it had been better news. 
I would not suggest having Argon with Neon. Sometimes it might help I guess, but Cheyenne and Peanut were extremely bonded; when Peanut saw Cheyenne die she would not leave the body and howled when it was taken away. Afterward Peanut reacted horribly. We thought she would get through it with time and the vet's help, but it began affecting her health and she began refusing to eat. She had been healthy before but soon after we lost her too.
Cheyenne died at home, we still wonder if it would have been different for Peanut if she did not witness that. She was always fine if Cheyenne went out and she didn't go ... we wonder if it happened that way if Peanut would have sort of gradually got accustomed to Cheyenne not coming back.
(Cheyenne and Peanut were a dog and a cat, not sure if that makes a difference but they were extremely bonded ... slept together, napped together, always together unless Cheyenne went somewhere Peanut could not. Peanut grew up with Cheyenne.)
I would not suggest having Argon with Neon. Sometimes it might help I guess, but Cheyenne and Peanut were extremely bonded; when Peanut saw Cheyenne die she would not leave the body and howled when it was taken away. Afterward Peanut reacted horribly. We thought she would get through it with time and the vet's help, but it began affecting her health and she began refusing to eat. She had been healthy before but soon after we lost her too.
Cheyenne died at home, we still wonder if it would have been different for Peanut if she did not witness that. She was always fine if Cheyenne went out and she didn't go ... we wonder if it happened that way if Peanut would have sort of gradually got accustomed to Cheyenne not coming back.
(Cheyenne and Peanut were a dog and a cat, not sure if that makes a difference but they were extremely bonded ... slept together, napped together, always together unless Cheyenne went somewhere Peanut could not. Peanut grew up with Cheyenne.)
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The date has been set for Friday, to allow everyone a chance to tell him goodbye. Right at the moment, Neon is getting everything he wants, which is food! He's been losing weight, and now he can have whatever he desires.
He seems very happy still, but I can see changes now from even Monday when we got the news. He's slower and a little clumsier, and he doesn't want to play as much.
He seems very happy still, but I can see changes now from even Monday when we got the news. He's slower and a little clumsier, and he doesn't want to play as much.
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Just updating to let you guys know Neon crossed the bridge yesterday, earlier then I had expected. He had a seizure yesterday morning, and they are calling for a snowstorm here tonight, so I didn't want to wait.
He passed as peacefully as I have seen a dog go, in my arms. His guardian angel was able to spend time with him and everything went as well as possible.
He was PTS at the shelter I was fostering him from, and I would like to send a special thank you to the AC officer who came to us (we do not euthanize at the shelter-usually), so that Neon could pass as easily as possible.
Argon was kept away during the procedure, and stayed with Neon's guardian angel, who did not want to attend the actual euthanasia. He cried for Neon, but I did allow him to see the body and he stopped crying once he saw it. He fussed a little on our ride home, but seems to be doing well.
Neon's angel elected to have him cremated (I didn't care as I feel nothing for the body once the dog is gone), and we will scatter his ashes together once they are returned.
It wasn't the outcome any of us hoped for, but Neon is now safe and happy, so it could have been much worse.
He passed as peacefully as I have seen a dog go, in my arms. His guardian angel was able to spend time with him and everything went as well as possible.
He was PTS at the shelter I was fostering him from, and I would like to send a special thank you to the AC officer who came to us (we do not euthanize at the shelter-usually), so that Neon could pass as easily as possible.
Argon was kept away during the procedure, and stayed with Neon's guardian angel, who did not want to attend the actual euthanasia. He cried for Neon, but I did allow him to see the body and he stopped crying once he saw it. He fussed a little on our ride home, but seems to be doing well.
Neon's angel elected to have him cremated (I didn't care as I feel nothing for the body once the dog is gone), and we will scatter his ashes together once they are returned.
It wasn't the outcome any of us hoped for, but Neon is now safe and happy, so it could have been much worse.
I am so sorry I missed this thread earlier so didn't get to express my concern and care for you and Neon. It is true that you have done so much for him, were the best Mom a dog could have hoped for. It is just the saddest thing that he got this tumor. I'm so very, very sorry. I think you handled it just right. Patricia McConnell in her book, For the love of a dog (I think that's the book where I read this) she talks about one of her dogs crossing the bridge in her living room, I think. And afterward, she allowed her other dog to view the body. She thought it would help give the other dog some kind of closure. The other dog lay there next to the one who had passed on and I forget if he wimpered or just lay there with his chin resting. But after some time, he left the body and seemed okay. But I guess they all handle it differently. (It's been some time since I read the book, so my details may be off)
Anyhow, this is going to be rough for a while, I know. My heart goes out to you. It's just such a hard thing to go through, isn't it.
(((hugs)))
Anyhow, this is going to be rough for a while, I know. My heart goes out to you. It's just such a hard thing to go through, isn't it.
(((hugs)))
