Issue with my son's school/teacher LONG.

[Kat09Tails]

Take away his recess. Take away his field trip. Hell, give him an in-school suspension. Call my home. Make me pick him up early from school.
But take away his right to use the restroom? Good God. That's not a punishment. That's torture.

Exactly. A sane teacher wouldn't be torturing kids would they? Give this teacher a little credit and find out exactly what they are doing. I'm willing to bet it's more along the lines of making him wait until he's the only one out with the bathroom pass.

However, if you do discover your kid's teacher is off their rocker perhaps the principal standing there will help.

 

[Chewbecca]

The thing is, when the teacher called to me she admitted taking away his bathroom rights unless it's an extreme emergency.

 

[boneyjean]

And even if the teacher feels she can't supervise him in the bathroom, they need to make accomodations with a male employee who can since taking away his bathroom rights is illegal. I feel like the principal only knows about half of what is going on.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

Becca--have you spoken with the other child's parents? Did their son get the same "punishment"?
I would write out the events as you remember them, with dates, who said what, etc.
I would request a meeting with the principal and the teacher.
I would also ask what their policy is on behavior management,etc. and how are "incidents" like the bathroom incident documenter, and/or communicated with a family? Did they follow protocol--and why were you not made aware of prior incidents?
Is this a special education teacher, or gen ed?
Then I would want to speak to the principal privately as they plan for next school year--open lines of communication in a reasonable way, and hopefully they will see you as a concerned parent who wants to solve problems productively (not as this teacher did).

 

[KenyiGirl]

Oh my lord, that is CRAZY! What a psycho! I'm so sorry you and your family have to deal with this craziness

 

[Saeleofu]

That is ****ing RIDICULOUS. I would be BEYOND pissed. I hope you can get things sorted out. He's in 5th grade? So is he going to a brand new school next year? At least there's that - no chance of the same teacher again. I also think a meeting with the principal is a good idea. Even if you wait until after the end of the year so there's no retaliation - justice needs to be done.

but they took all the doors off the bathrooms at the school I work at

WHA???? Off the stalls??? That's, like, my WORST NIGHTMARE. I run around and every freaking bathroom I find has no doors, and so I can never pee. (By the way, if anyone is curious...if you're dreaming that you need to pee and you can't, but then you finally do pee...you will pee your bed. Trust me. :rofl1: )

We never had bathroom monitors either. A hall pass to go to the bathroom, yes. In elementary school we also had scheduled bathroom breaks where the whole class went. In middle and high school we could go anytime during passing periods or lunch, and before/after recess, but needed a hall pass for any other time. And in elementary school I was always in the halls without being supervised. I was the kid my teachers all trusted the most, so I'd be sent to check the mail in the office, take stuff to the office, supervise other kids when they had to go to the nurse or the office, go get stuff from another room, etc.

 

[puppydog]

I must say that I totally agree with the way you are handling this Becca. It is a tough situation because you have to be sensitive to your sons comfort level here.

I had an awful teacher in grade 4 and when my parents spoke to her about some issues I was having she upped the bullying to torture levels.

 

[MicksMom]

I haven't read the other responses yet, but this is how we handle situtations like that where I work (fooling around in the bathroom, like the principal said)- those two students would not be going to the bathroom at the same time (heck, I do that with a lot of the kids anyway just to stop fooling around). And, if it were more serious than fooling around, the "guilty" student either uses the nurses bathroom or, if the principal is available, he goe with him. Again, the student isn't denied using the bathroom.

As for the way the teacher spoke to you, I would talk to the principal. Not in the "my kid can do no wrong" way, but about the tone and attitude of the teacher. Also tell the principal you are confused because he said it was a one time thing, and the teacher said it was the third time. It's possible there has been other incidents of fooling around that the principal wasn'ttold about at the time. But, if I were the teacher, when I reported the last one to him, I would have made him aware of the other two as well.

 

[Zoom]

Sale, I'm guessing they took off the main door you walk in, there are still the stall doors.

 

[skittledoo]

Not sure if this has been mentioned before, but my step dad who has dealt with stuff like this before with my brother said that you might ask the teacher to put it in writing that she is not going to allow your son to use the bathroom at all. That way when you bring it up to the principal or higher authority you have proof. Just a thought... and he said he is pretty sure that it is for sure illegal for her to not let your son go to the bathroom.

 

[Samantha's pet]

I just wouldn't be able to let this go. I would have to have this cleared up INFRONT of the principle. Have her tell the principle exactly what she told you and see what he/she thinks of all this. I just can't imagine letting it blow over without a face to face. What can she do to your kid with only 8 days left?

 

[milos_mommy]

It's also possible she really does like your son, and is just being a total bitch to you. Some teachers become teachers because they love kids, but don't consider the fact they also have to be socially competent with other adults.

I wouldn't be able to let it go either, but I would also probably not have kept my cool very well, either.